https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 17:45:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-28894 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 17:49:06 +0000 Miss Adia 28894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow Mrs. Maple Leaf. That's crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-28858 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 16:39:51 +0000 Mrs. Maple Leaf 28858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't see how that is healthy at all. My husband's 13yo half sister and his step mom still share a bed and his dad now sleeps in the sister's room. Step mom has confided in me a few times how their relationship is falling apart and doesn't know what to do but it's not my place to tell her to make her kid sleep in her own bed. The girl is extremely immature for her age and a spoiled brat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27712 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 01:16:46 +0000 808love 27712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha! I said I would never co-sleep. Ever. Then came my daughter who loved sleeping 7 hours in the crib and swaddled only for a few months and then we brought her to bed for good reason--she started rolling on her face but not rolling back over. We were against sleep positioners. It was supposed to be temporary while she worked on her tummy time but she has been there for the past 7 months and Hubby has been off an on to the family bed. We are planning on sending her out for good again at 1 year. I definitely don't think it's for everyone but once I started telling friends 'what happened to us' so many people came out of the closet. We try to look at the benefits....#1 being---we all sleep better, cuddling, checking on her often. But yah, I don't recommend it to anyone. You just gotta know your family and yourself.<br /> As for effects--@ 10 months, our baby is very attached to us but very social and interactive as well. My husband and I have had hard moments (mostly me missing the intimacy) but ultimately he is very supportive. We see it like breastfeeding, you just make temporary sacrifices to nurture your baby as you see fit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27690 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 23:13:38 +0000 cupcakemama 27690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Co-sleeping is not for me, for a number of reasons, but if it works for other people then that's great for them. I think this crosses into different territory though. Having your DH sleep in the guest room ?? Really?? How would this not affect their marriage? I can't even fathom it and I can imagine my DH's reaction if I floated the idea. Starts with No, ends with no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27670 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 22:51:37 +0000 mrsjyw 27670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are definitely going to be using a co-sleeper that attaches to our bed for the first 6-9 months, but then we would like to move them to a nursery by 12 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27664 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 22:47:09 +0000 Mrs. D 27664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I won't be doing this. If it's for you, fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27556 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 20:24:39 +0000 Nskillet 27556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Co-sleeping is such a personal preference. I like the idea of the side sleeper basinette cause when LO arrives im going to be breast feeding but I imagine moving him/her to their own crib within a few months. When you think about it, animals dont even put their young out initially. I just think its a slippery slope when the child is older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27519 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 18:42:59 +0000 cyndistar3 27519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let my daughter sleep with me until she was almost 2 months old and then a few times after that but before she wad 4 months it stopped. She is 3 and I do not allow her to sleep with us. She can come lay in bed with us in the mornings on weekends but our bed is our place to have our time together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27516 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 18:37:20 +0000 MsMamaBear 27516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, in the guest room? That's kinda sad and strange.LOL</p> <p>My SO wouldn't have that even if I wanted Baby Bear there for an extended time. She's in her bassinette now til about 4 or 5 months, then she has to go to her room. Only because she'll be sleeping better and I won't have to feed her as often through the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27513 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 18:26:27 +0000 anewme 27513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there are cultural practices to the family bed thing. My parents created a family bed and then a family room. Can't even say space was an issue because we had 2 extra bedrooms but my 2 sisters and I either slept in the same<br /> Bed or in beds right next to my parents bed until I was about 6-7. Then they redid the house and my sisters and i shared a room and my brother came along. He slept in his own bed with my parents until he was older too. I never even knew another way existed until I was ttc and then pregnant and eveyone was telling me not to co-sleep. I definitely got into the practice of co sleeping . DD is 8 months now and I still don't have concrete plans to move her back to her room. But I definitely don't want her sleeping in our bed past age 1. I just gotta break the cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27133 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 19:06:13 +0000 L2sweetpea 27133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't done this myself, but I would definitely see some areas it could create difficulties in. Firstly it would most likely be pushing your FH out of the bed given the way your LO sleeps. Also I would imagine creating intimacy issues as well. I also wonder about separation anxiety issues. Being with someone 24/7 including sleeping in the same room I would wonder about the dependency upon each other, and the possibility of separation anxiety in the future. Also, what would happen if you were to go on a vacation, or an overnight away from your LO and now they are dependent upon having someone in the bed with them, and whom ever they are with does not share the bed with them, how will it effect there sleep quality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27123 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 18:51:30 +0000 heffalump 27123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm too nervous to co-sleep b/c I move around a lot, but we did have our LO in our room for the first month and a half. While I was sad at first to have her go to her own room, I was happy to have some privacy with my hubby again. Like PP's said, it would be pretty hard to keep a relationship with your husband if you never have alone time in the bedroom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-27028 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 14:51:32 +0000 MegWag 27028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess that, while I don't really get people who do family beds, I'd say whatever they like. I admit though, that it really bothers me to hear of situations like the one you describe where it isn't a true family bed, but dad getting booted. It just seems like a slippery slope towards losing intimacy in your marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26986 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 13:32:46 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 26986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't ever want to co sleep because I don't want this to become an issue. My parents never allowed us in their bed or even in their room as we got older. But I'm not judging because there are all sorts of things I say I will never do and any of them could change when I do have a child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26977 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 13:23:55 +0000 Wondermommy 26977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO is 3, and he sometimes likes to come into our bed in the weeee hours of the night/early morning. Sometimes we're too tired to fight it, but most of the time, we try to take him back to his bed.<br /> He's always been a terrible sleeper, and while I was BFing, it was just easier to leave him in the bed with us from time to time. It was a struggle to get him back into his bed for a long time, but it's gotten a lot better now that he's older.<br /> We for sure can't have a family bed, mainly because our LO sleeps like a damn starfish. Not to mention nooky is basically out of the question. No bueno, imo.<br /> ETA: When my SO sometimes leaves for work super early in the morn (like 4 am!), and our LO traipses in to snuggle, I admit I love it, and don't put him back in his own bed. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26970 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 12:52:54 +0000 Miss Adia 26970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sad to admit that I let my daughter sleep with me until she was almost 3. At first, she had her own bed and then my douche bag ex left us and I had a hard time sleeping alone. So she slept with me for a year after she had been sleeping on her own. Now she only comes in our bed in the mornings, but there are some nights where she is hysterical about sleeping alone.<br /> There are some nights when I give in. If FH is up playing Xbox all night with his friends, I will tell my daughter that she can sleep with me until he's ready for bed and moves her. I should probably stop that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26967 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 12:47:25 +0000 Rosie Girl 26967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm OK with co-sleeping in the beginning, but I think there is a time when the child needs to go to there own bed, and I think that is before they are 1. </p> <p>I co-slept with DS for a LOT longer then I ever planned, but that was because of some stressful/emotional events that happened, and it was just me in a big ol bed! But still, that only lasted until he was about 6 or so months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26964 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 12:45:58 +0000 Miss Adia 26964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know that there are many co-sleepers here. Has anyone extended it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26904 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 09:59:39 +0000 Miss Adia 26904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't really find any good articles. (I suck at Google today) It seems like most of them are biased for them or against them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26901 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 09:55:36 +0000 junebugmama 26901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's similar to the post (I believe you put up) about loving your husband more than your children. This woman that you speak of seems to be edging her husband out of the family and creating intimacy with her children. It's sad that he's sleeping in the other room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-bed#post-26899 Sat, 03 Dec 2011 09:53:04 +0000 Miss Adia 26899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you ever heard of a family bed? </p> <p>My daughter is 5 and sometimes has trouble sleeping in her own bed. (I'm going to blame that on co-sleeping way too long) but I would say 90% of the time she goes to bed just fine. </p> <p>When I was pregnant, I belonged to a 2006 pregnancy group and I am still friends with many of those women. It's nice to see how all of the children are growing up on Facebook and find out who is doing what. (One of them has lost a baby tooth already!!! So not ready for that!) </p> <p>Anyway, on our FB page, I mentioned that she was having trouble with sleeping in her room and one of the ladies mentioned that she never stopped co-sleeping. They turned their bed into a family bed. Her LO sleeps with them on a nightly basis. In fact, she can't even call it a family bed because her husband now sleeps in the guest room. </p> <p>I'm wondering if anyone is doing this and what are the long term effects on your relationship with your husband/SO, and the long term effects on your child? </p> <p>Personally...my daughter sleeps just like me and we only need one of those in our bed. When we do let her sleep in our bed, one of us wakes up with either her butt on our face or someone's little feet have made it to FH's sensitive private spot and he's out of bed instantly nursing "the wound". I can't imagine doing this every night. </p>