https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 14:41:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding/page/2#post-2355432 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 11:02:04 +0000 Mommy Finger 2355432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's family paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave us money for a wedding gift that we used towards our honeymoon. My parents paid for about 2/3 of the wedding and we covered the rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding/page/2#post-2355073 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 01:10:56 +0000 lamariniere 2355073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for everything ourselves but we also only had immediate family present and didn't do rings/dress/venue or anything traditional. My husband would not have been ok with my dad paying for the wedding (it doesn't work like that in his culture), but my dad did give us a generous monetary gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding/page/2#post-2355058 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:26:19 +0000 daniellemybelle 2355058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents paid 100% of the wedding. His parents paid for the rehearsal (much less expensive - like 2% of the cost of the wedding). My mom is more of an etiquette traditionalist and would have preferred for DH's parents to pay for the things that the groom &amp; his family are supposed to, like my bouquet, family flowers, etc. but I persuaded her to not ask DH's family to do that and they never offered or asked about anything other than the rehearsal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding/page/2#post-2355054 Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:16:18 +0000 Anagram 2355054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for 90% of our own weddings and receptions-#we had two of each. My in-laws paid for some specific items needed for the Hindu wedding--flower garland for us to wear and my gold wedding necklace. My mother paid for some od oir wedding flowers and made my second night wedding favors.</p> <p>My husband and I had a 60/40 split of everything else--venues, catering, music, decor, attire, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding/page/2#post-2354959 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 21:10:14 +0000 mrsrain 2354959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for our rings ourselves. </p> <p>My parents paid for the wedding. His covered the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon. That said, we got married on a budget (about $3k) and couldn't have afforded a honeymoon had his parents not gifted it to us. It was all very frugal and very wonderful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354849 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 19:27:51 +0000 HabesBabe 2354849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid 50% (most of it was my husband... I was making like, 1/10 of what he made when we got married), his parents gave us 25%, and my dad gave us 25%. My mom bought my dress and paid for the dragon/lion dancers, which ended up being about 3%... so I guess we really paid 47%.</p> <p>No stipulations on how we spend the money. DH's parents also paid for the rehearsal dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354842 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 19:21:27 +0000 twodoghouse 2354842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ILs paid for everything except for my dress (which my parents paid for). There were no stipulations, although they did tell DH that he hoped we would get married at their church. I also made a huge effort to include MIL in all our meetings because I felt sort of weird about them paying so much for the wedding. But they only have boys and really wanted to go all out helping with our wedding, especially since my own parents weren't in the financial place to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354821 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 19:00:47 +0000 BabyMats 2354821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for pretty much everything. In laws paid for appetizers and my parents paid rehearsal dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354812 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 18:49:13 +0000 MoreCoffee 2354812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for attire, rings, DJ, all paper products/invites, wedding party gifts, hair/makeup, and honeymoon . My ILs paid for a very nice rehearsal dinner and my parents paid for everything else. We had a very nice wedding but it was not extravagant and on the smallish side (right under 100 guests). I still can't believe the expense of it all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354799 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 18:38:09 +0000 Anya 2354799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom bought my dress. My in laws didn't pay for any of the wedding per se but they gave us a very generous cash gift the day of the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354792 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 18:33:21 +0000 petunia354 2354792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents paid for 100% of our rehearsal and wedding. My IL's paid for nothing nor did they offer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354700 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:58:54 +0000 Cherrybee 2354700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My inlaws paid for suit hire and my bouquet. My mum paid for my dress. My inlaws offered to give us more but we refused - so they gave us a cheque for our wedding gift, which we put towards a deposit for our house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354696 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:55:20 +0000 looch 2354696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for our clothing, the florist and the photographer. My parents paid for the reception.</p> <p>My inlaws did not contribute, they paid for their airfare, which was more than enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354675 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:42:32 +0000 erinbaderin 2354675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents gave us a pretty big cheque, which covered about 75% of the cost. There were no rules or anything about how to spend it, but they also gave us a pretty large guest list that we didn't really feel like we could cut down. We paid for the rest of the wedding ourselves. My in laws paid for the rehearsal dinner but we had a barbecue at my parents' house, so that was a pretty minimal cost. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354607 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:20:22 +0000 Ginabean3 2354607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom paid for the venue/catering. My amazing ILs paid for the rehearsal and honeymoon. I got a check from my grandparents that covered photographer/florist/dress. No stipulations from anyone. It was a great wedding! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354601 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:17:23 +0000 buttermilk 2354601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was split pretty equally between us, my mom, and my in laws. We used it however we needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354599 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:16:23 +0000 honeybear 2354599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for everything ourselves. My in-laws gave us some money as a wedding gift, which was awesome, but we weren't expecting it, so it wasn't included in our wedding/honeymoon budget. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354596 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:15:31 +0000 birdofafeather 2354596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents gave 75% and DH's 25%. We could use the money how we wanted and if we wanted to save it, we could have. We used it all and it paid for everything except gifts for our parents and our rings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354595 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:14:39 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2354595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL gave us 30% of our budget. My mom gave us 10% and we paid the rest. </p> <p>My BIL is currently planning a wedding. His fiancé's family is paying for the entire wedding. He's receiving the same amount from MIL that we received and it will be paying for the rehearsal dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354592 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:13:23 +0000 mrschickpea 2354592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid for our wedding. We did receive checks from both my parents and grandparents after the fact which was unexpected but generous of them. I think DHs parents paid for booze. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354591 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:12:31 +0000 PawPrints 2354591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His parents paid for the rehearsal dinner, mine paid for most of the wedding. DH and I wound up paying for the alcohol and a few random things like the invitations and the other DIY stuff just because it was simpler that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354583 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:08:58 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2354583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother planned to pay for the wedding, but her money came with strings attached- CONTROL. We declined and decided to have a much lower key, smaller wedding than we would have had someone else been paying for the majority of it. My mom did reimburse me for my wedding attire and paid for my hair &amp; make up.</p> <p>My ILs or my dad never offered/expected to pay for any part of the wedding and did not. NBD </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354565 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 16:01:54 +0000 IRunForFun 2354565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents paid for 100% of the wedding and his parents paid for 100% of the rehearsal dinner.</p> <p>ETA: We paid for our own honeymoon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354558 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:59:58 +0000 Alba4 2354558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents paid for 100% of the wedding, and my in-laws paid for the rehearsal dinner and the brunch the day after the wedding.</p> <p>DH and I paid for honeymoon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354545 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:54:31 +0000 regberadaisy 2354545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ILs gifted the same amount to all 3 sons. No stipulations on what it was to be used towards. It worked out to about 20% of our total wedding cost.</p> <p>My mom gifted us about 40%. My one brother also gifted us a very generous cash gift and the other our Hummer Limo &amp; videographer along with a generous cash gift.</p> <p>No one placed any stipulations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354541 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:53:28 +0000 mrsjyw 2354541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both sets did 25%, we did the rest. No stipulations on what to use it for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354530 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:50:16 +0000 LuLu Mom 2354530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our families split it 50/50. My parents really appreciated it because my oldest sister the family paid for rehearsal only, and my youngest sister there was not a dime of financial contribution (my mom actually paid for her MIL's dress as a gift because they had no money for one.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354526 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:48:40 +0000 Miss Sarah 2354526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was a three-way split, when we included honeymoon costs, between my parents, DH's parents, and our own money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354517 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:44:27 +0000 snowjewelz 2354517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We paid 100% for our wedding b/c our parents helped us out a ton on the house we bought. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-contributions-to-wedding#post-2354489 Thu, 12 Nov 2015 15:33:34 +0000 MrsSCB 2354489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents offered to pay for our reception -- so they basically covered reception venue, food and drink. We paid for my dress, my husband's tux rental, rehearsal dinner, invitations, DJ, etc. Basically everything else, haha. Although my ILs also gave us a check for whatever we wanted. We used it towards our honeymoon. </p>