https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 09:58:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2382037 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 15:58:46 +0000 Meowkers 2382037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This exact thing happened to my good friend. She really did not want to use it and toiled with how to tell her in-laws that it wasn't going to happen. Finally, she just told them that safety standards have changed and that she didn't feel comfortable using it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2382012 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 15:35:48 +0000 babynumber1 2382012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a family wooden bassinet. It is beautiful, but heavy and just not practical. We took it out if he attic and kept it in the living room for a couple of months, took pics, exit. Now it's back in the attic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381880 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:57:16 +0000 jlm22 2381880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would take it and pretend to use it... and then give it back after a couple of months :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381879 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:56:57 +0000 Mrs D 2381879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a family bassinet...its not the cutest but it means a lot to my mom and it is safe so we use it.</p> <p>MIL also asked us to use the christening gown for DD1 - which I agreed (assuming she fit in it) and will do the same for DD2.</p> <p>I guess for me - its not worth the battle. They do a lot for us and if it makes them happy then so be it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381872 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:50:52 +0000 Mommy Finger 2381872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandpa made a cradle for each of his 5 daughters when they had their babies. My mom had a plaque made for it that listed all of my brothers and my name and birth dates on it. I couldn't wait for my LO's to sleep in it some day. And my first DS probably took one or two naps in it since it was a bit impractical. But I still love that we were able to use it. </p> <p>All this to say that I loved having the tradition even if it was short lived. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381845 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:33:08 +0000 Corduroy 2381845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL - I didn't read the other posts but could have written this except the family crib is in my family (everyone has used it since my great aunt) and my SIL just refused it for baby #2. We used it for a few weeks ceremoniously. Now we're done having babies and it is in my garage. GTFO, crib. </p> <p>My parents are going to email my 35 year old cousin and ask her if and when she's going to have kids because she should take the crib now. It's her turn. OMG - I am horrified for what is about to go down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381843 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:32:56 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2381843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't use it. I would get DH on my side by pointing out any safety hazards the crib has. I would just let them know that I picked out a crib and that is what the baby will use.</p> <p>It's not quite the same because the crib has been passed down through generations, but I declined some baby clothes MIL bought because I didn't like them. I was honest with her and told her she could put them on the baby when the baby is at her house or she has the baby for the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381835 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:23:22 +0000 Foodnerd81 2381835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in a different situation because we have pretty much NO space, and family isn't local, so nothing comes into the house just for a few weeks then is easily removed. But in your situation (and SIL's, if hers is more like yours than mine) I would use it as long as it seemed safe. I have zero problem with second hand stuff but am pretty paranoid about safety. </p> <p>The plaque is a really nice idea as a thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381832 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:22:11 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2381832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I totally feel you. We have an antique rocking chair my husband's sweet grandparents gave us. It is SO ugly and I'm not sure if people were tiny back in the day or if it's made for 10 year olds, but it is comically small. </p> <p>All that said, that darn thing is in the corner of my bedroom and will probably be there until they pass away, because they are so happy we have it. We usually stack laundry on it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381830 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:21:17 +0000 catlady 2381830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were given a similar item (white painted wicker bassinet), complete with some crazy fluffy bedding that MIL made specifically for it (definitely not within current SIDs guidelines). DH couldn't refuse MIL when she gave it to us so it ended up at our house but we never used it. Eventually we told MIL that our LO preferred the Rock and Play and the swing and that we weren't using the bassinet, so we returned it to her. It was a white lie but it got us out of it. In our case, our LO was the first baby in several generations not to use the bassinet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381829 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:19:50 +0000 Autumnmama79 2381829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: They are small plaques about 1.5 inches x 3 inches, in gold if I remember correctly and each baby has their own plaque. I believe the plaques are adhesive on the back and so they stick to the wood. You could also do one larger plaque that had the previous babies and then was added to with each new one. The engraving place could put a small hole in each corner and it could be screwed into the crib. </p> <p>I think it would be a very sweet gesture on your part :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381809 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:07:37 +0000 Cherrybee 2381809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: The plaque is a lovely idea. Is it attached to the crib? If so, how? Id like to get one made as a thank you for allowing us to use it. There's a list somewhere of all the babies who have slept in it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381803 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:05:23 +0000 Cherrybee 2381803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I know! Its not second hand, its an antique - an heirloom!! </p> <p>Her "I want nothing second hand" stance has worked out really well for us. DH's cousins' children are all older than E and are often getting rid of toys. E has enjoyed so much stuff from them - a play kitchen, lots of Little People toys, a load of Peppa Pig toys..... all plastic and easily washable. So I'm going to forgive her! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381789 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 12:58:31 +0000 Greentea 2381789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: As much as it might be a pain, it is kind of a cool tradition/ legacy. As long as it isn't unsafe, I would use it a little while to keep the peace.</p> <p>I find it a little annoying that SIL refused and "doesn't want anything second hand" for her baby. It isn't second hand, it is like... what, 4th or 5th generation hand?! 12th hand? :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381782 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 12:56:02 +0000 blackbird 2381782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: ah ok, gotcha. It's a double edged sword, I think :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381738 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 12:34:00 +0000 BandDmommy 2381738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as there is no safety issue I would use it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381737 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 12:33:55 +0000 Cherrybee 2381737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: @Truth Bombs: @blackbird: @MOMTOLITTLEB: Oh yes, I have no intention of refusing to use it because they really are very, very good to us. But even before LO1, when I had no idea how involved and supportive they were going to be, I still used it because it was so important to them. </p> <p>Its really my SIL's reaction which surprised me and I wondered what people here might do. I think she had every right to say no but I was still surprised. I wish I was more assertive in life, generally! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381736 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 12:33:51 +0000 youboots 2381736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My uncle gave me something like this. It sat in our bedroom unused for 4 months then we returned it with a thank you note and photo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381723 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 12:27:18 +0000 Jess1483 2381723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I felt it was safe, I'd use it. Otherwise...I'd lie and pretend we did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381670 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 12:05:20 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2381670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you've mentioned before that your in laws are really helpful to your family, mine are too. So for that reason I'd use it for a few weeks. Unless there is a safety reason that concerns you, then I'd say no. But if it's just ugly, I'd probably go along with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381645 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:54:48 +0000 winniebee 2381645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: haha yes.</p> <p>My MIL went to the trouble of refinishing a beautiful antique cradle. DS1 hated it. DS2 didn't mind it but DS1 could easily tip him out of the cradle / swing the thing like crazy....so he didn't use it either. I still feel bad about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381632 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:50:11 +0000 mrsrain 2381632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not, but more out of safety concerns than how it looks... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381631 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:49:52 +0000 Maysprout 2381631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like sentimental but I said no to cribs both because of size and safety. The one I was going to be handed down was a bit beat up and a drop side. I didn't feel like figuring out the logistics of size, luckily no one gave me a hard time. I did use MIL crib for show when we visited, though it made me very nervous because the drop side was tricky. So I'd let her sleep for a couple min then check on her and strap her in her bouncy chair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381625 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:46:56 +0000 Miss Ariel 2381625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents saved both my crib and bassinet and my dad couldn't believe I didn't want to use it. I know it's a different situation, but I wanted something new. Plus safety issues freaked me out a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381623 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:46:03 +0000 Smurfette 2381623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am with @Truth Bombs: here. Your IL's do a ton for you. Using an ugly crib that means a lot to them for a couple weeks isn't that big of a deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381617 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:44:18 +0000 Autumnmama79 2381617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also have a family cradle that I'm on the fence about using for this babe, its just too big for our bedroom now! The crib has an engraved plaque for the name and dates of of each baby who used it so I'll feel really bad if this child isn't on there. Now that I think about it, maybe we should just use it, if only for a couple weeks. </p> <p>Use it for a few weeks to keep the tradition going in the family? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381593 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:38:48 +0000 blackbird 2381593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: This. </p> <p>I would do it for my MIL. Even if "sleeping in it" meant like...one nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381587 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:37:08 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2381587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why dont they set it up at their house and you take baby over there for a nap one afternoon? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381581 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:35:39 +0000 Boogs 2381581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's one of those things that really doesn't hurt to use and it's fairly temporary, so I would do it since it means so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-crib-wwyd#post-2381572 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 11:32:40 +0000 Truth Bombs 2381572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Knowing how much your in laws do for you guys, I would use it if it meant a lot to them </p>