https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 08:02:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928330 Tue, 22 Aug 2023 14:32:49 +0000 Chuckles 2928330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would agree with everyone that smoking around the kids, even if it's in a wide open space, is a hard no. I don't mind my kids being around people drinking as long as no one appears obviously drunk. I'm not sure how I'd feel about my kids playing beer pong with lemonade. Part of me feels like it's not that big of a deal and part of me knows that it's definitely unusual. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928328 Thu, 17 Aug 2023 19:46:07 +0000 ChitownRo 2928328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m ok w beer pong around kids and not making alcohol some secret taboo. My parents friends definitely partied around me growing up, so I wasn’t curious about alcohol. All of my friends whose parents didn’t socialize, or forbid etoh, wound up being much more wild with their binge drinking. I think it’s important to have a conversation with your kids about it…</p> <p>But no smoking at all ever around kids, indoors or outside. Cigarettes or weed. And if adults are partaking in thc gummies etc, they must be locked away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928327 Fri, 11 Aug 2023 18:16:22 +0000 cake2017 2928327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@karenbme: I would be uncomfortable with it all. I wouldn’t attend or would just ask if they could play when children are asleep or play in a designated area where you and the child can hang. My husband and I do not drink anymore. My family does. We’ve asked to not drink around us or in our home and it’s respected. They are the same in their home because they want to- but if we went to their home, they chose to drink after we leave- that’s them tho. Everyone is different so if they want to drink and play, you can move to a different area or ask them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928326 Wed, 09 Aug 2023 13:11:59 +0000 JJ2626 2928326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely no to the smoking! Secondhand smoke even with weed is real and just the smell is not something I would want my kid around. Can’t they just take gummies or something? Re: the drinking, I’m fine with people drinking moderately around my kid but it’s a hard no to having her participate in the beer pong with lemonade! That’s so weird. Ideally they would play away from the kids, but a 3 year old is probably young enough that she would just ignore the game once she’s told it’s for grownups. That said, I agree with a poster above that I would not be okay with the drinking if it got out of hand and folks were obviously drunk. Eek, good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928325 Wed, 09 Aug 2023 11:32:26 +0000 Cait1 2928325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The weed is a hard no for me. I don’t drink at all, but would have less of a problem with the beer pong as long as no one is getting obscenely drunk. I think it’s okay for kids to see adults having fun while drinking responsibly. But the emphasis would be on “responsibly.” As a kid, my mom was an alcoholic, and it was scary and embarrassing to see her constantly getting wasted at family gatherings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928324 Tue, 08 Aug 2023 05:48:59 +0000 LadyDi 2928324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't want smoking around my children, weed, cigarettes, whatever. </p> <p>I feel like the drinking thing is tricky. My extended family drinks a lot when we're together (granted this is usually only once a year) so they have definitely seen shots but not college drinking games. If my kids saw beer pong they would for sure want to play. But it's partially your siblings' camp and they are there to relax too, so I can understand them being frustrated. Can they play in a garage or after your kids go to bed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928323 Mon, 07 Aug 2023 21:56:42 +0000 LemonJack 2928323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nwm: I agree completely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928322 Mon, 07 Aug 2023 21:03:28 +0000 erinbaderin 2928322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the drinking and the participating in beer pong but wouldn’t have a problem with them playing it around a kid. Just say they’re playing a grownup game, I don’t see it as being any different from telling kids that they can’t taste my drink because it has alcohol in it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928321 Mon, 07 Aug 2023 19:17:07 +0000 Lahela017 2928321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also adding that I definitely wouldn't want anyone smoking anything near my kids!! They don't need to be getting second hand anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928320 Mon, 07 Aug 2023 19:15:12 +0000 Lahela017 2928320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't want it going on right next to my kid, but could they play on the garage or on the deck away from the children? I definitely wouldn't have kids participating in any way, but maybe there's a way everyone can do their thing at the camp? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928319 Mon, 07 Aug 2023 18:25:21 +0000 karenbme 2928319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nwm: right?? Pre-Covid we went on an annual snowboard trip that was always half kids half no kids and it was a big party at night, but no one ever suggested that the flip cup tournaments should start at lunch time, and if we had it would’ve been quickly shut down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928318 Mon, 07 Aug 2023 11:12:14 +0000 nwm 2928318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i consider myself to be relatively liberal about drinking around children but am completely on your side on this one. the idea of having a three year old not just present for but actually participating in beer pong is absolutely wild to me (lemonade really doesn't solve the issue) and i sincerely doubt even some of my hard partying child-free friends would ever suggest something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928317 Sun, 06 Aug 2023 21:46:07 +0000 karenbme 2928317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure if anyone is still here to see this, but I’m looking for other opinions. I have 3 siblings, 26, 33 and 42, none of whom have kids, and we all have access to a shared family camp. Two years ago the then 24 year old invited her friends over for beer pong and Jell-O shots explicitly when my then 20 month old was getting up from nap. I shut it down and said you can’t do that around a toddler. That was then interpreted as me saying no drinking ever at camp, which is not my position at all, and we’re in the process of talking through what’s ok and what’s not (again). All three siblings think there’s nothing wrong with beer pong around kids, comparing it to a sober friend at a party. Am I crazy in not wanting my curious 3 year old to be learning drinking games from her aunts and uncles, even if they have her play with lemonade??? It seems insane to me, but it’s the position they’ve all taken. They’ve also decided that since weed is legal in our state daytime smoking in shared outdoor spaces should also be totally fine no matter who’s around. I don’t care if they’re drinking, but I really don’t want my kid getting a contact high or playing drinking games at camp. Am I the only one totally horrified by these positions? This stuff seems like basic health and safety for kids to me, but the reaction I’m getting is that I’m a total killjoy for asking them to save it until bedtime.</p> <p>ETA: I should also note that I’m only there 2-3 weekends per summer so it’s not like they never have time to do whatever they want at camp. </p>