Hellobee Boards Topic: Family drug use

Hellobee Boards Topic: Family drug use https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 02:22:06 +0000 T.H.O.U. on "Family drug use" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drug-use#post-2758128 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:55:24 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2758128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would just approach the conversation from the stand point of any smoke. Tell her here are my rules/boundaries and if you want to hold the baby, these are the rules. Things like washing hands, changing shirts, etc. Mrs. Microscope on "Family drug use" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drug-use#post-2758119 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:47:33 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2758119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Just be honest. And if she resists, explain that it is the same as cigarettes in term of smell, and alcohol in term of intoxication. You wouldn't leave your kid with someone who was drunk, so same rules apply. You are the mom, you make the rules for your kiddo! Good luck! matador84 on "Family drug use" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drug-use#post-2758109 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:41:23 +0000 matador84 2758109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Honestly, I have been through something very similar with my inlaws and I just had to make DH have the conversation--he realized just how bad it was when he started paying more attention to smoking in the house, in the car, etc. etc. When our kids were babies, inlaws couldn't hold them unless they had a blanket over them. I will never let my kids go over there alone or unsupervised because ashtrays are everywhere and they smoke in the car and in the house whether kids are around or not. In the case with smoking weed (I'm not sure how old your kids are), I feel the same as you do--what other people do is their business, UNTIL it effects my kids. My kids are at an age now where they would start asking questions and I wouldn't want to address it with them at this time. I would have to cut off all times because of the risk involved with possibly smoking before interacting with the kids. eta: my brother is a drug user (weed/prescription pills, not sure what else but there is probably more) and he is not to have any contact with the kids. Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Family drug use" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drug-use#post-2758106 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:34:59 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2758106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had a similar convo with my mom just recently. She wants to come stay with us during Thanksgiving. However, every time she goes outside to smoke we hear it because of the door alarm (annoying) and the smoke smell lingers in her clothes (gross). She was supposed to quit before the baby came. Anyway, after asking on the progress of her quitting I let her know if she was still smoking in Nov she would have to get a hotel. I would let your MIL know that her pot smell transferred onto the baby. If the odor becomes to uncomfortable/ unbearable you will cut the visit short. Astro Bee on "Family drug use" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drug-use#post-2758099 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:23:48 +0000 Astro Bee 2758099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL and FIL both smoke marijuana, my MIL most heavily. It's not for medical reasons and while I don't care how they live their lives, I care how it relates to my children. It's partly because of their lifestyle choices that we've never allowed them to babysit or left the kids alone with them. Their idea of child proofing their house was to put a chair in front of the stairs. We finally decided enough was enough and bought a gate and some other items for their house. We don't visit often anymore because they live 2 hrs away And everyone is always busy. They visited a month ago to go to a concert in our city, but only spent 3-4 hours with us, including supper and breakfast. During that time MIL held LO2 a lot, as it was only the second time they'd seen him since he was born (aside from a brief hospital visit). Well, long story short, she'd been smoking pot shortly before and when I got him back HE smelled like pot, too! And the entire time, she was congratulating herself for quitting smoking cigarettes. Ugh! On Saturday we are going down to visit for her birthday, and I want to tell her in advance that I don't want her smoking up if she is going to be holding the baby, but I am dreading it. How would you approach this conversation? It's useless to suggest that DH do it. He is even less confrontational than I am.