https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 08:23:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211714 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 16:03:05 +0000 looch 1211714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it not possible for her to stay in a hotel? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211712 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 16:02:15 +0000 septca 1211712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks all. I know we aren't alone in this situation. :sad: </p> <p>I think a huge part of this specific problem is that my grandmother is a major guilt-tripper, so my parents did whatever she wanted when I was a kid. My mom therefore developed a mentality of "make it work," and I think she thinks that I am stressing too much about a few bad nights' sleep. The problem, of course, is that it is *much* harder to deal with the bad sleep and the aftershock effects of that through the whole family when you are actually in the middle of it - versus thinking back on how it was for you 30+ years ago... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211661 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 15:45:33 +0000 MCD919 1211661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I know how you feel. My family and DH's are both an 9 hr car ride or 1 hour plane ride away, and it definitely sucks sometimes! We also see them often, but I know it will get harder when the baby comes in January. We always make it there for the holidays, and this xmas I will be 35 weeks.... so we're probably going to be spending it here just us, which is something different. I know it'll be so hard once the baby's here. I feel your frustration! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211631 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 15:38:35 +0000 MamaBehr 1211631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca: So she'll only come if she stays with you? That's weird.... Is she worried about having to rent a car too? </p> <p> We can't move bedrooms when people come to visit either, I'm not willing to mess with my LOs sleep and soon we won't even have a spare bedroom because we are expecting our third! I have no idea what we are going to do then.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211616 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 15:33:48 +0000 loveisstrange 1211616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family is across an ocean, so I totally get it. It sucks. :(</p> <p>Thankfully, we get to move back home next spring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211605 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 15:27:57 +0000 septca 1211605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: Thanks. I hope she does, too. I offered to split the hotel cost with her, but she was really weird about it (like I said, $ isn't an issue here). Now I am torn between feeling bad and feeling manipulated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211604 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 15:27:45 +0000 Weagle 1211604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have no family near us, save a random cousin that lives somewhat close-by. It's been 3+ years since we've seen him, so obviously that doesn't count. It does suck. We love living here, and don't have plans to move home, but I hate feeling sad when we miss yet another family dinner or a niece or nephew's ball game, etc. We see my parents fairly often, and they're good about coming to visit us when they can, but we don't see DH's as much. Fortunately, we have a ridiculously fantastic group of friends who are like family. Most of them are also not at all near family, so we support each other well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211602 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 15:25:53 +0000 MamaBehr 1211602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca: I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. We have NO family close, they are all at least a 6 hour plane ride away. It pains me that my kids aren't going to know their cousins or grandparents well. My family has only been to visit once since we moved here two and a half years ago. So I totally get it. It sucks. I hope your mom still makes the trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-far-away-and-it-just-sucks-sometimes#post-1211569 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 15:14:24 +0000 septca 1211569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does anyone only have family far away? My parents live on the opposite coast and my MIL lives about about 90 minutes away by plane. We see our families fairly often, but sometimes it just makes me so sad that my baby is growing up without family close by - it's not the day-to-day work of it (although having babysitters nearby would be awesome), it's more the holidays that get me down. My husband and I have to live where we do for career reasons and we don't intend to move closer to our parents, but the distance just sucks! Especially since we have a small house and can't have anyone stay with us, so visits from parents have to include airfare *and* hotels. </p> <p>My mom spontaneously called and said she wanted to come visit soon (she hasn't seen my daughter since August), but when I reminded her that she couldn't stay with us (it worked when my daughter was tiny, but now no one sleeps if my daughter shares a room), she said she was going to have to revaulate. On one hand, I am annoyed because she *knows* she can't stay with us (and she is retired with plenty of money, so it's not a financial hardship issue), and on the other I am just really sad because she got my hopes up for a visit and now I just feel like it's my fault she can't come. Agh. No real question here, just a long vent. I am feeling really icky right now. </p>