https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 12:08:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-154430 Thu, 10 May 2012 17:58:01 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 154430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone else... your BIL really needs to chill.</p> <p>I wouldn't necessarily call it a "feud", but my MIL has always been *really* passive aggressive toward me &amp; I only recently started to stand up for myself. I honestly think I'm the first person to ever tell her "no" or to disagree with something she says, and it hasn't been a pleasant experience.</p> <p>After Jumper was born, her p/a remarks became unbearable &amp; I called her on it. She refuses to acknowledge what she's done &amp; refuses to take responsibility for her actions. I've not spoken to her in two months, and I'm perfectly OK with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-154422 Thu, 10 May 2012 17:45:22 +0000 heffalump 154422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That makes me sad :(</p> <p>My mom and her sister don't get along. They're friendly now, because their mom is in hospice. But I have a feeling when my grandma passes away we won't see my aunt very often, if ever. DH's mom also has issues with her brother. They'll go years without talking, but then make up, and then stop talking again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-154179 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:43:11 +0000 chopsuey 154179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wow. You BIL needs to chill. Sorry to hear he's being a douche. :T Hopefully things will blow over soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153944 Thu, 10 May 2012 11:06:31 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 153944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: No she's younger (but only 2 years) Her boyfriend actually has nieces/nephews but they live far. I don't know if my sister will ever be a "children" kind of girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153938 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:59:23 +0000 autumnlove 153938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blushink: Does your sister have children of her own? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153937 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:59:18 +0000 lilteacherbee 153937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Family feuds are hard. We have arguments in my mom's family over my cousin. He's 10 years old and absolutely spoiled. He's rude to everyone (example- he wouldn't let my grandpa use his phone to call my grandma). My sister and I are both teachers and we don't put up with his attitude. This usually means every couple of months my aunt/uncle gets upset with us because we try to make him behave when he's at our mom's house (they live next door). </p> <p>He's OBSESSED with technology. He has a smart phone and talks on facebook/twitter to people he doesn't know and his parents don't monitor him at all. He has no respect for anyone and its really hard to be around him, but I try to be civil for the sake of my grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153928 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:52:14 +0000 autumnlove 153928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: I haven't but my DH will try to on Friday! I hope it goes well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153926 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:50:13 +0000 Honeybee 153926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't talk to my oldest sister. It started when DD was about 3 days old, and it's been going for 2 years. My sister didn't meet DD until she was a year old, and she's only seen her once since then; she has yet to meet DS (h's 7 weeks). Honestly, it's a long story, but let's just say I decided I wasn't going to subject myself or my children to her selfish, immature behavior, and I don't regret it. The only thing that makes me sad is that I don't get to see my nephew as often as I would like, but my parents try to bring him up to visit about once a month.</p> <p>Personally, I think you sometimes have to make a decision for yourself and your family, and sometimes that decision includes removing people from your daily lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153922 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:45:57 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 153922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well... not feuds per say, but my younger sister strictly told us many times that she does not babysit, that she might not always make it for birthdays/events... but it nothing I'm surprised about.</p> <p>On the other side, my family in law can be a little intense (not my parent in laws) but my brother and sister in law. Let's just say they aren't my favorite people.... and the fact that my inlaws indirectly favor us over them... can cause tension</p> <p>I honestly... would let it go. It's not worth getting worked up about it. Yes it sucks but theres nothing you can do really. Eventually he might come around (as I am hoping with my sister and BIL) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153917 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:44:09 +0000 LuLu Mom 153917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried talking to him in person, sometimes it's easier to come to an agreement or an understanding face to face? It seems like a tough choice to remove someone from your life and your LOs over dog sitting. Is it something that could blow over with a little time? </p> <p>Otherwise if it's the best I wish you luck, that is tough! </p> <p>Luckily we don't have too much family drama, DH's extended family tends to get into disagreements a lot (large family) however we have mostly been able to stay out of the drama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-feuds#post-153892 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:24:36 +0000 autumnlove 153892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are having issues with DH's brother. He has always been difficult but the last straw was a text he sent last night asking us to remove him from LO's daycare emergency contact lists and to not speak to him or include him in any family functions that we will be present at. (All this is over DOG SITTING! Ridiculous!) We have decided that dealing with him is just too exhausting and we will comply with his wishes.</p> <p>It makes me sad to not talk to family but maybe it is for the better?</p> <p>Do you have any ongoing family feuds with any family members? How long have the feuds been going on? </p>