https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 21:16:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-137322 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 14:31:00 +0000 jennylynn 137322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think 1 day set aside is a great idea! I wish we'd have thought to do that. My husband took 1 week off after our LO was born, and there was not one single day in that entire week that we didn't have visitors. It was exhausting. It would have been so much better to pack it all in one day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-137289 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 14:09:46 +0000 HabesBabe 137289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We'll be spreading it out... my dad lives across the country, so he won't be able to visit until the baby is about a month old. The other grandparents live nearby, so I'm sure they'll be at the hospital, then in and out of our house after the baby comes home.</p> <p>Not sure about DH's aunts and cousins... they'll prob call to come by. Same with our friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-137178 Wed, 25 Apr 2012 13:19:53 +0000 purrpletulips 137178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our families are all about 3hrs from us. My parents came and stayed the weekend after we came home from hosp, my sibling (and extended family) didn't meet LO until she was about 2 weeks old when we were at my parents for a wedding shower (she pretty much slept through it so not very traumatic). DH's family didn't meet her until she was 18mo (despite DH's efforts for it to happen sooner). We did have lots of friends come to meet her but they came one family at a time the two weeks after she was born and always brought a meal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-135221 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 11:20:14 +0000 lavender 135221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We spread it out over a couple of days, it gets to overwhelming if everyone shows up at once. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-134390 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 16:39:47 +0000 Honeybee 134390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We spread it out with both babies; I like it better that way because it's less overwhleming for me since I get a little anxious with too many people around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-134249 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:34:45 +0000 heffalump 134249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had our families over the day we came home from the hospital. It was our parents, my grandma, and my siblings. It was a lot to have everyone there all at once, both for us and lo. I think we were all just overwhelmed with it all. Everybody wants to hold your lo, and they don't always love being passed around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-134246 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:31:59 +0000 daniellemybelle 134246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first reaction is that it would be better to spread it out, but I see the benefits off just getting it over with in one fell swoop! I think a "meet the baby" gathering is a great idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-133722 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 08:57:11 +0000 Rubies 133722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, I had to have it spread over time (actually, it took about a month for all the important people to meet her)...LO and I both had a rough start to this new life and we weren't up for any visitors but allowed them out of obligation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-133717 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 08:55:11 +0000 chopsuey 133717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had people come to the hospital (just told them when visiting hours were over and let them decide when they wanted to drop by).<br /> We only have 2 relatives (families) that live locally, so they dropped by when they could/wanted to.<br /> If I had my LO in CA where we have tons of friends and family, it probably would have been a different story. I think having one day as a meet the baby day would be good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-133704 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 08:42:19 +0000 regberadaisy 133704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aunt pol: wow. that's horrible!!! I know the families well enough that I know they won't be like that. And even if they are I'm the type that will just let it roll of my shoulders.<br /> But yea, we def won't commit to a day until after LO arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-133586 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 03:05:04 +0000 aunt pol 133586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on baby, I think. DH's SIL A had a horrible experience kind of like that. Baby had met most of her family, not DH's. (they're two hours from us). Anyhoo, her hubby's 40th birthday was two weeks after baby was born so they decided to combine the two things, have everyone over the same evening. It didn't work out. Everyone insisted on holding/ feeding DS. He got more and more pissed off as it went on, so everyone insisted on sharing their opinions on how to settle him, or indeed tried to settle him themselves, then hand him back to A when their method didn't work! Poor baby was just so wound up and over stimulated, nothing was going to work except peace and quiet. In desperation, A snuck out of the house with her sister H and made H drive for about an hour and a half, round the block, (middle of nowhere, five mile block) until baby calmed down. </p> <p>That was last July and she's still quite bitter about it. She said at one memorable point she had 9 women telling her what she should do with DS. And she already had an older son so she did have a fair idea what to do herself. She doesn't get to meet his family as often as I do so isn't as at ease to fight with them. </p> <p>Sorry long story there! I think if people are willing to take it easy on LO and not spend the evening passing the child from Billy to Jack, then it could go ok. I can see the merit in getting it out of the way, so to speak. Do wait until after delivery to decide, tho- if your recovery is difficult you might not feel up to it either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-133560 Sun, 22 Apr 2012 21:41:33 +0000 mrstilly 133560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think having one night where people can drop by, meet lo and give you congrats is a great idea. It will help eliminate people calling last minute or not calling and just showing up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-visits-spread-out-or-all-at-once#post-133532 Sun, 22 Apr 2012 20:53:36 +0000 regberadaisy 133532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey mamas,<br /> For family coming to visit after baby comes.<br /> In your opinion do you think it's a better idea to have family come visit all on one day? Or spread it out?</p> <p>I'm kinda thinking just set one day aside, probably a weeknight. Open invitation and if people can come great. If not then we can for sure work something out another time.</p> <p>I say weeknight because we'll rather do it when the ILs are in town and they'll be here from a Saturday to Saturday.</p> <p>And oh I'm talking about after we bring her home? </p>