https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 16:52:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1233523 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 15:23:10 +0000 Mrs.Ham 1233523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone - this has been so encouraging. This baby is a surprise to us - so I think I feel a little bit like it's my fault - even though my hubby is excited, I know it's still a shock to him. And he definitely was not mentally prepared for me to be sick!</p> <p>@jhd: I hear you! We'll be moving in the 3rd trimester, maybe only a few weeks before I'm due! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1233208 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 14:28:34 +0000 Emsmems 1233208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetMamaM: exactly this. I've cried to my husband telling him how I feel so useless, and he just comforts me and tells me I'm doing something so much more important, I am growing our family! I also did not get the 2nd trimester amazing energy, although it does come back at least a little. It's hard to not to beat yourself up over it, but this too shall pass! </p> <p>Give yourself a break and do what you can, when you can! I am still telling myself that! Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1233085 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 14:08:46 +0000 jhd 1233085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first trimester is rough! Hang in there. I'm 19 weeks now &amp; we also just moved. Poor DH. It's been a crazy few months. I know how you feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1233062 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 14:04:55 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1233062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um... tell him this is just the start of being neglected :-p I kid.... kind of. The first trimester is so rough - I hope you feel better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1233045 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 14:02:31 +0000 LovelyPlum 1233045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs, lady! I felt that way, and I still feel that way a lot. It's HARD to grow a human! But I also know it's hard on DH to have everything fall to him. Hang in there, but don't push it. Hopefully you'll start to feel better very soon, and things can get back to normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1232731 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 13:11:41 +0000 leelee 1232731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same way but DH understands. The hardest part is DDs middle of the night waking a lately. She's cutting molars I think and is miserable. DH gets up everytime though :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1232704 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 13:07:13 +0000 SweetMamaM 1232704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt and still feel the same way... It's culminated in tears a couple of times for me. I never got the full amount of energy back in the second trimester and there are a few things I still can't do. I agree with luckypenny though, you have to give yourself a break sometimes and think about the work your body is doing 24/7. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1232571 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 12:46:56 +0000 luckypenny 1232571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the same way with the first pregnancy but this time around I have no guilt! You are growing a baby! Your body is taking millions of little cells and creating LIFE! It's tough work and you should take it easy :) You'll get your energy back in the second trimester and can go back to your normal work load. Enjoy the pampering Mama :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-a-bad-wife#post-1232542 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 12:37:19 +0000 Mrs.Ham 1232542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bees, can I just say, I feel like a terrible wife right now. The Mr. has been so supportive since our little surprise! I'm 9 weeks today - and let me tell you, I feel so nauseated, and have no energy. I'm trying to still cook and clean and help him with some projects...but it's so hard! I know that he's feeling a little neglected, but I just have no energy! He keeps saying it's okay, but I just feel like a really bad wife right now. :sad: </p> <p>Thanks - just needed someone to "listen!" </p>