https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 02:02:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-846041 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 19:37:48 +0000 cascademom 846041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH and my inlaws all sleep in like it's their job. Since the baby arrived, I'm the one that does the mornings. At one point, DH was doing the morning shift for daycare. Now, I do all of the morning shift. Weekends, I still get up with the baby at 5:30am-6:30am while DH sleeps until 10am at the latest. This is considered some improvement where he wouldn't even wake up without my help. I got sick and tired of being his alarm clock. He has no choice but to wake himself up and get ready. Him setting the alarm on the weekend to 10am is some improvement too. These have been the hard won interpersonal changes we've had to deal with since LO arrived. I'd love to sleep in until 9am one day. I don't think that will happen until LO and a future sibling are 18 years old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-845925 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 18:50:06 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 845925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I could switches places with you!</p> <p>My DH wakes up at 6:00 on weekends just to work in the yard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-845904 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 18:40:23 +0000 lemondrop 845904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to have this problem a lot, I used to either set the dog or cat on him or bring him coffee a la @Cherrybee: to get his butt out of bed. </p> <p>Since we have the baby it really hasn't been much of an issue. He's quite effective at getting us both out of bed pretty early. We make a weekend plan ahead of time- nothing formal or exact, just what we both want to accomplish that weekend. It also helps for us to get moving on the earlier side of the morning when we want to go out for breakfast so we don't have to wait to be seated with a hungry baby. </p> <p>We still do have sleep-in days, if he gets one, I get a nap or early bedtime- fair is fair! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-845788 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 17:44:32 +0000 AprilFool 845788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is *exactly* like that and it really frustrates me. I usually end up starving waiting for him to get up to go get some brekkie. Or like last weekend when he got up at 9 to cook breakfast and at 11 it was just going on the table and I lost it. I have found being clear the night before about plans for the next day and setting a sleep in limit has really helped. So if we're going out at 10 we set the alarm for 9 and he then knows how late he can stay up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843361 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 17:09:48 +0000 aprk 843361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My only advice is to be super clear about your expectations. My husband has no awareness for subtlety, so I just say exactly what I want to happen. If I just get up early and try to wake him up without saying "I want to go to lunch in 15 minutes with you," or whatever, then he would just laze around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843236 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 14:55:27 +0000 MrsMac 843236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, if he's just terrible about getting up and being on time for ANYthing than yes, you have every right to be annoyed!! Our weekend planning works for us because I am very punctual in the face of any scheduled activity. </p> <p>In that case I guess I have no advice, lol. Other than having a heart-to-heart and telling him how it makes you feel, but I have a hunch you've already tried that :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843233 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 14:52:39 +0000 Cherrybee 843233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ooh, I know what that feels like! </p> <p>Wanna know what I do? Bring him breakfast and coffee in bed when I want him to wake up! Its like gift wrapping a great big "get up you lazy *string of obscenities *" and popping a bow on it! Then I bounce excitedly next to him, speaking ten to the dozen, listing all the lovely things we have planned for the day until he realises that hanging out in bed isn't really proving all that relaxing anyway and he gets up! Sometimes I have to resort to "come on, get up...." (in a whiny voice) but rarely. </p> <p>To be fair, of late, I'm the one who has to be fished out of bed!! Pregnancy insomnia sucks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843225 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 14:38:32 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 843225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMac: thank you for your perspective! His idea of a great day is sleeping in then lying on the couch! Lol. I struggle with it because its such a nice day, we only have 2 days off, so lets do stuff! </p> <p>He isn't great at being on time for plans. If we had plans at 11 he'd get up at 11 and take his sweet time getting ready. But if he had a tee time with friends at 11 he'd be there almost on time (he's literally never actually on time!)</p> <p>I think I'm going to try to get him to commit to at least a time he can wake up so we can relax/ eat together!</p> <p>Also: part of the issue is that I work at home so on the weekends I love getting out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843221 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 14:33:48 +0000 MrsMac 843221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a little bit more like your husband, so I can see it from both sides. It seems like really, you just have a different idea of what the "ideal" Sunday would be. </p> <p>For me, sleeping late, taking a leisurely shower, grabbing some lunch and going out on the boat sounds perfect! But my husband is a little more like you, @Mrs. Champagne, and likes to get "up an' at 'em" on the weekends and pack in as much stuff as we can. It was causing some grumblings in our house for the exact reasons you outlined, he felt like he was "waiting around" for me, and I felt he was rushing me around for no reason!</p> <p>What works for us is, like @T.H.O.U. suggested, making a plan. Even if that plan is "lazy morning, see where the afternoon takes us", at least then we're both on the same page. If our plan is "wake up early and do x, y, z" then I am perfectly capable of getting out of bed and making it happen, but if left to my own devices I will sleep in! </p> <p>How does your husband do if you have plans? Like, if you're meeting friends for brunch at 11, will he be ready on time? If he has no problem with that kind of thing, than our solution could work for you guys too. If he CAN'T get his butt in gear even then, than yeah, I'd just leave without him and do my own thing in that case! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843188 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 13:48:27 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 843188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well at least it's not just my DH! </p> <p>He finally got up/dressed/out the door for lunch.. now he is in the bathroom while I wait and we are going to take the boat out.</p> <p>Rest of the day should be good. He just really needs to improve his awareness of the fact that I spend a good part of each day waiting for him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843175 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 13:39:38 +0000 keiki_mama 843175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is the same way! =( No advice but I hope you guys make the best of the rest of your day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843152 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 13:25:32 +0000 beachbee 843152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh!! I always tell DH he has no "quick button" :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843151 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 13:25:16 +0000 heffalump 843151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh was like that before lo came. I didn't mind too much though, that's when I had me time. Now he wakes up when lo gets up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843140 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 13:17:58 +0000 googly-eyes 843140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No suggestions, but my DH is similar!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843112 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 13:00:58 +0000 loveisstrange 843112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I make DH get up with me and the baby on weekends. He pulled the "I get to sleep in" BS on me for about 7 months before I flipped out and told him that if he got to sleep until 12 one day a weekend, so did I. That lasted about 2 weeks... lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843102 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:53:32 +0000 shopaholic 843102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: have no suggestions but my DH is the same way. Even with the baby, if there is no set reason why and when he needs to be up on the weekends, he'd sleep until past noon any given chance! I would get annoyed, but he would be perfectly happy if I went out and he stays home and catches up on TV even. Every so often I will just wake him up and tell him where he's taking me (us). That's the only way I can figure it out. I used to wait for him to eat and that got old quick. Now I'll just do my own thing until he wakes up or I'm bugged enough to wake him up myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843045 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:10:46 +0000 runsyellowlites 843045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any suggestion but I big hug of sympathy bc, on his own, DH is like this too! I'm lucky to get a shower long enough to wash my hair &amp; shave my legs ONCE a week (all other showers are in a flash)... He takes a daily 30+ minutes shower &amp; I'm always having to drag him out of bed on his days off. Boo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843037 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:09:08 +0000 T.H.O.U. 843037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It helps if I set plans for DH. Like, we are going to lunch at noon. The. If he wasn't ready I would leave without him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843033 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:04:22 +0000 anbanan15 843033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is the same way! So frustrating.</p> <p>In fact he just left for the gym and I have to be at work in 1.5 hours. The gym is 20 min away. I just asked him to pick DS up at my parents so we're not rushed and he said no so now I have to wait and risk being late for work (he's also stubborn and in a bad mood). Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843032 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:03:55 +0000 mrbee 843032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: If you start doing fun things in morning, he may come around!</p> <p>It's really hard to get someone to change, unless they really want to... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843029 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:02:36 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 843029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I guess that's what I'll have to do! I just wish we could spend more of the weekend together. Its 1pm and I've said 2 words to him so far today. He told me he would start getting up at 10am on the weekends but that didn't happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843027 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:01:45 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 843027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rawrasaur: It's really frustrating!! I know one of my posts Mr. Bee suggested allowing natural consequences to happen, like leaving without him if he's not on time, but I want to hang out with him and don't want to leave by myself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843026 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:01:40 +0000 mrbee 843026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would plan on morning time alone and the afternoon time together? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843024 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 12:00:23 +0000 rawrasaur 843024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. My DH is so slow about getting ready, but he is at least respectful about my time for the most part. I would also be so frustrated were I in your shoes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feel-like-ive-posted-this-100-times-before#post-843015 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 11:55:38 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 843015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is always late/slow/sleeps in and it KILLS me!!</p> <p>I had to wake him up at NOON today. We went to bed at the same time last night (around 1) after drinking with our neighbours. At 9 the dogs woke up, so I got up and stayed up. He is STILL in the shower and its 12:55. He has no consideration for the fact that I've been waiting around all morning for him to wake up so we can go do something.</p> <p>I told him before he got in to "be quick" so we could go get lunch. Well he's been in there for way over 30 minutes and still going.</p> <p>I want to just leave with out him, but then that ruins my day because I wanted to hang out with him.</p> <p>Sorry - this is more of just a vent. But any suggestions would be wonderful!!</p> <p>ETA: 12:56 and he just got out of the shower. Let's see how long until he makes an appearance. </p>