https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 22:21:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain/page/2#post-869438 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 03:00:02 +0000 erinpye 869438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, I'd be upset if my OB's nurse said anything about my weight. I wouldn't worry about 19 lbs. Most doctors say a pound a week, or 40 lbs total is healthy. I gained 30 with mine, and went a week over, and really didn't gain much of it at the end--my prime gain time was my second trimester, I even gained 10 lbs in a month! Every body is different, don't stress and just focus on growing that baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain/page/2#post-869161 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 21:21:38 +0000 Sapphiresun 869161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That doesn't sound completely unreasonable if you were a healthy weight to start with. Some people just go in fits and spurts, so who knows things may level off for the next few weeks.<br /> Personally, I'm 32 weeks and am currently at 6lbs net weight gain, BUT I gained 40 pounds of fertility treatment/PCOS weight in the six months before getting pregnant, and lost 10 pounds due to morning sickness in the first trimester, so I think my body was just searching for a state of equilibrium. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain/page/2#post-869011 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 20:29:04 +0000 marionberry 869011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@char54: I've gained the same amount and due at the same time. I could afford to cut out some sweets but I wouldn't worry too much about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain/page/2#post-868906 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:47:34 +0000 pastemoo 868906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained more and within 9 months was down to within a few pounds of my start weight.<br /> Your body knows what to do.</p> <p>Unless you're being ridiculous (and you KNOW if you're not!), I wouldn't worry about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain/page/2#post-868328 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:26:24 +0000 rachiecakes 868328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@char54: I gained almost half my body weight, started at 120 and gained almost 60lbs, and my doctor never said anything (though she did mention something about losing it at my 6 week PP checkup). They do watch for sudden gain because it can be a sign of GD or Pre-E (Pre-E was the case for me). As long as they're not concerned about those issues, I wouldn't worry much.<br /> (also, I did lose every pound and thensome without a mark on me, so it doesn't mean you'll be bigger for life either) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain/page/2#post-867970 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:25:26 +0000 luckypenny 867970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained 70 lbs and all the doc ever said was " you gained a bit of weight" and not even in a harsh way, more like a Casual comment. I had a very healthy pregnancy and baby. I have lost all the weight at 1 year pp. your body is doing what it needs to do. Don't worry about it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain/page/2#post-867935 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:14:44 +0000 mediagirl 867935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, hun I am so sorry the nurse made you feel bad!!!! What did your doctor say? I think I was around your stage when I gained a TON of weight. Then, I kind of leveled off until the end. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Sounds like that nurse needs a lesson in sensitivity!!!!!!!!</p> <p>Ps...this is coming from the girl who gained 50lbs during and lost 55 after pregnancy - go eat your bowl of ice cream and enjoy it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867912 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:08:19 +0000 sarac 867912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>19 pounds going into the third trimester? Unless you started way high, that's an absolutely normal amount of weight gain. Also, it really isn't the nurses business. Your doctor/midwife should be the one to council you about your weight gain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867399 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 10:46:40 +0000 PurplePeony 867399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Scales can be weird, too -- when I had my NT scan and bloodwork, the lab needed my weight so they had me hop on the scale. I had a regular appointment scheduled right afterward and my midwife weighed me again, somehow within that hour had magically lost 2.5 pounds. I know I'd had a bunch of water prior to the scan, but no way was it THAT much! So keep in mind that there can be some variation for who knows what reasons....maybe the scale doesn't "lie" but it also may not tell the whole story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867363 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 10:31:33 +0000 LazyLightning 867363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained a pile of weight, steadily throughout. It'll be ok! I gained 70 pounds--an amount I couldn't fathom before. 3 weeks pp I'm already down 40. A lot was swelling and such. I think 19 lbs at 27 weeks sounds fine. I was up 40+ by then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867342 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 10:23:48 +0000 kjpugs 867342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 23 weeks and up 10.2. I kept it about 5lbs through a few weeks ago and then BAM lately. I'm glad to see the above posts about weight gain in the 2nd tri. My goal was 20 or less but my more reasonable goal was 30 or less, so I'm hoping to stay in that range. No advice, just support!!!! Lots of us are there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867340 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 10:22:59 +0000 citymouse 867340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: thankyou for that chart! I took a picture and am going to keep it on my phone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867289 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 10:03:28 +0000 Pepper 867289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained the same as you by 27 weeks (I just looked at my charts), and my doctor always told me I'm right on track. I gained the bulk in my second tri too. Nobody has ever said a word to me about needing to slow it down, in fact, they've been telling me I'm doing well! Try not to worry, I think you're doing just fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867283 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:59:42 +0000 Charm54 867283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsStormy: My DH is at every apt with me so he knows my exact weight gain. I was complaining in the car "Ugh, 7 pounds since my last appointment!" He chimed in: "Actually hon, 7.8". He got death pregnant lady stares for that, lol.</p> <p>@Maysprout: Thank you for this chart! I started out in the normal range, but at the high end (BMI was 24.7 or something like that). I'm going to keep that handy ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867275 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:54:05 +0000 jetsa 867275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsStormy: @char54: I'm right around that and we have close to the same due dates. My dr hasn't said anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867268 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:52:33 +0000 Cherrybee 867268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@char54: 19lb at 27 weeks sounds pretty good to me! What's she talking about?!! I was overweight pre-pregnancy and had gained a further 7lb by my 9 week appointment. I got a lecture about that from my midwife! By 27 weeks, I'd gained 20lb and everyone was really pleased with me for keeping my weight gain so low!! So that makes no sense at all! </p> <p>At 34 weeks, since being diagnosed with GD at 28, I have actually lost 3lb and they are more concerned about that (they want to make sure I'm eating enough calories for the baby). </p> <p>Please don't let this horrible nurse upset you! As long as you are eating good, healthy food, taking your vitamins and drinking lots of water you will be fine and your body will do whatever it wants to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867261 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:49:19 +0000 .twist. 867261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't gain anything until about 25 weeks and then BAM! 25lbs now at 33 weeks... yikes! Don't listen to that mean nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867256 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:47:58 +0000 Maysprout 867256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@char54: According to this chart, there's a couple ones according to what bmi you have, you're within the normal range. <a href="http://www.nal.usda.gov/wicworks/Sharing_Center/NY/prenatalwt_charts.pdf" rel="nofollow">http://www.nal.usda.gov/wicworks/Sharing_Center/NY/prenatalwt_charts.pdf</a></p> <p>Not everyone gains the same, I pack on lbs in the beginning (like 7-8 lbs in the first trimester), don't put on any for a bit towards the end of the second, and then finish off with more weight gain. But last time I still ended at 25 lbs. It's good to still eat healthy and exercise but if that's what you're doing then your body is just doing what is good for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867246 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:45:30 +0000 Modern Daisy 867246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsStormy: Haha, I know! The majority of the time when I'm asked it's by a person who follows with something like "Oh I only gained about 5 lbs total and it came right off!" Um.. good for you? Do you want a gold star or something? lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867240 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:43:08 +0000 MrsStormy 867240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I haven't even told my husband how much I have gained, you can be sure I would not tell a random! Why would anyone ask that!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867235 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:41:23 +0000 MrsStormy 867235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@char54: I'm at about the same place as you, and my office hasn't said a peep to me about it. I just keep reminding myself that everyone's body is different and handles pregnancy differently. I think my situation was worse though I gained the most in the 1st tri and early 2nd tri, I haven't gained in a few weeks, but I think that just shows how uniquely each of our bodies deals with pregnancy (although I would by lying if I didn't tell you I hope that I hope that gaining continues to stall for a while). As long as you are eating pretty healthy and staying active, I think you are fine, it sucks to gain weight, but if you are being healthy then I think you should feel secure in knowing that your body knows what it is doing to best handle carrying your baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867225 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:38:45 +0000 twinmama 867225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made my big leaps in weight gain in the 2nd tri too. If it's any consolation, I think that gaining more of the weight earlier (and kind of slow and steady) helped prevent stretch marks for me :)</p> <p>But yeah, I feel your pain and just had to ignore the comments sometimes. I gained 50-55 with twins, which is normal and recommended by many, but my OB (who I otherwise love) gave me a hard time for a few visits. DH vouched for me and told her what my food and exercise habits were, and she backed off after that. Some people's bodies just gain more and some gain less, I think we can control it to some degree, but not entirely. </p> <p>Hang in there mama, you're doing a great job!</p> <p>@Modern Daisy: people asked me all the time too, and then would argue that they didn't believe I gained that much. And I had more than one shower guest say they were disappointed that I wasn't as big as a house.....um, thanks? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867210 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:36:10 +0000 Charm54 867210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone! I feel better. I've been lucky to have a healthy pregnancy and I'm such a natural worrier that I guess I have to have something to worry about! I will keep going for walks and maybe tracking a food journal just to make sure I'm not eating more junk than I think I am but I really liked the points a lot of you made about growing a human...I need to trust my body! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867200 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:33:56 +0000 illumina 867200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That doesn't make sense! I've gained around 14lbs and apparently I'm on the low side (mostly nausea and not having an appetite) so I cannot see how 19lbs is high!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867190 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:32:39 +0000 Meltini 867190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At my 25 week appt I was up 18 lbs and my doctor said "Weight gain looks good". I wouldn't worry about it. Your nurse shouldn't have said anything because it isn't really her place. I would ignore her and keep on like you are. You will gain what you gain and then after the baby is here you can work on getting the weight off :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867179 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:30:25 +0000 Lindsay05 867179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cant believe she said that! I gained over 40 and nobody ever said a thing to me. Your body is going to gain weight how it needs to in order to provide for you and baby. I truly believe the foods we crave while pregnant are the foods we need to make a healthy baby. Don't feel guilty about anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867160 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:24:51 +0000 Modern Daisy 867160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The question I get the most from people is "How much weight have you gained?" I am always shocked when people ask this, because I consider it a pretty personal question and a little inappropriate. Plus, the majority of the time it's asked by someone who just wants to show off how little they gained during their own pregnancy which I think is rude and a little mean.</p> <p>But to be honest, I've stopped paying attention to the scale and don't even know what the answer is. People look at me like I have two heads when I tell them this, but they just have to deal with it. The fact is, my doctor is not concerned about my weight gain, so why should I be? And if me and my doctor are both okay with my weight gain then I don't understand why everyone else feels they have to be as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867154 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:22:52 +0000 smocks 867154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained 60 lbs and the docs didn't make a peep about it. Everyone gains differently. I didn't have GD, I just swelled a lot. I'm 4.5 months pp and have maybe 5 lbs left to lose. Don't stress too much about it, and keep going for walks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867143 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:20:31 +0000 Navy_Mommy 867143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained 60 pounds during my last pregnancy and ended up with gestational hypertension and it was horrible. Honestly, if you're eating rather normal and just gaining a lot of weight, that's one thing, but if your diet has drastically changed I recommend trying to figure out how many calories a day you're actually consuming and going from there. </p> <p>I know no one wants to hear it when your pregnant, but gaining too much weight is dangerous even if you were thin beforehand (I was a size 2 and 5 foot 8 when I got pregnant with my son). </p> <p>I'm going to try really hard this time around to not gain that much weight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-badly-about-weight-gain#post-867126 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:17:47 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 867126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained ALL my weight during my 2nd tri!<br /> I gained 21lbs by 29w...<br /> And then an additional 9lb by my due date.<br /> I got lectured by my OB ;) but oh we'll, in the end, it only totaled to 30lbs.<br /> I did up my walking and lower my eating (not amount, just removed sweets). </p>