https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 05:26:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2448323 Wed, 03 Feb 2016 21:02:38 +0000 FaithFertility 2448323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: prayers </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2438128 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 21:25:10 +0000 jaguar 2438128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's such an exhausting process. I've had beautiful embryos fail, and wonky looking ones work... and honestly? I don't think there's rhyme or reason to how this all works. Multiple rounds has me questioning a lot!</p> <p>Hoping the assisted hatching helps this one along. xx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2438114 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 21:13:24 +0000 fotolori1 2438114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We actually used donor eggs too! I am hoping it doesn't end up being a problem with the DNA fragmentation of Hubby's sperm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2438110 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 21:06:59 +0000 momazon 2438110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fotolori1: Hang in there! :goodluck: :goodluck: :goodluck: It took us moving on to donor eggs before I was finally able to keep a pregnancy - we just had to have patience and find the right egg! I'm 37 weeks pregnant this Thursday, and this pregnancy has been an absolute dream. We think back on all the years of struggle and crazy expense to get us to this point and are so happy we were able to keep on trying until we connected with the right egg. Wishing you all the luck in the world!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2437669 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 13:30:58 +0000 GreenThumb 2437669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fotolori1: I also wanted to add that we discussed grading with the RE right before my transfer - like literally, I was on the table - and she said that they just don't really see embryos that they would categorize as "perfect" almost ever, which was kind of surprising to me at first since they are looking at embryos every day. But when I thought about it, it is after all nature/biology we are dealing with here, which is by design perfectly imperfect on purpose! Hugs! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2437573 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 12:38:44 +0000 BSB 2437573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fotolori1: Sending hugs and thinking of you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2437564 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 12:33:06 +0000 fotolori1 2437564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Amorini: congratulations!!! That is such an encouraging story! I hope I have the same outcome! My Dr didn't want to get our hopes up, but he didn't want to stress us out either. </p> <p>@erinbaderin: I didn't think about it that way! If every embryo that resulted in a baby was perfect there would be much less people in the world! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2437447 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 11:29:48 +0000 erinbaderin 2437447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did IVF - got 4 eggs, 2 fertilized, only one made it to day 5. I now have a two year old. Try not to think about the quantity or the grading - remember that we have no idea about the "grade" of 99% of the eggs that turn into healthy happy babies! All it takes is one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2437437 Tue, 26 Jan 2016 11:24:16 +0000 Amorini 2437437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fotolori1: There's definitely some sanity in getting support from the HB ladies -- IVF grads and those of us still "in process."</p> <p>I completely understand getting discouraged. If it makes you feel any better, the RE and embryologist said our embies were "fine" and, at best, "pretty good." They were encouraging me to be realistic, but I was wanting to hear "perfect" or "beautiful." But I guess the embies (one or both?! TBD) decided they were perfect just as they are because I found out yesterday with my beta that one or both are thinking about sticking around.</p> <p>It's an uphill battle and the outcomes are so earth-shattering. Go easy on yourself and breath deep and hopefully that little embie is already making a nice home in your belly. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436762 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 20:07:52 +0000 fotolori1 2436762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love these stories! Thank you so much everyone for the encouragement and success stories! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436699 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 19:05:29 +0000 winter_wonder 2436699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're feeling so discouraged :( Sending you positive thoughts while you wait :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436687 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 18:43:27 +0000 agold 2436687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fotolori1: My embryos looked horrible. They were slow growers. I wasn't happy at all. But one of my got me pregnant! Even grade C and D emrbyos result in beautiful babies. Grading doesn't mean much really in terms of successful pregnancy. Best of luck! Don't worry just yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436677 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 18:34:19 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 2436677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending hugs and prayers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436670 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 18:30:36 +0000 raintreebee 2436670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my beautiful sons were crappy early blastocysts. Hang in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436644 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 18:00:34 +0000 fotolori1 2436644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bloved thank you so much! I am scared to death as none of this is covered by insurance and we are 25,000 out of pocket for 2 cycles. I am so happy to hear your story! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436643 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 17:58:03 +0000 MrsKRB 2436643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only had 1 embryo survive at 5 days, graded 'b,' but honestly fervently looked so bad to me compared to others I've seen. I'm now 21 weeks pregnant :) you can never tell what your embryo is going to do, it's so so hard. Good luck :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436641 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 17:50:33 +0000 Periwinkle 2436641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just sending you some hugs during this very stressful time. :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436640 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 17:48:11 +0000 bloved 2436640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I really don't know how much quality matters. I've had two frozen embryo transfers with near perfect day 5 blasts and neither was successful. My third frozen embryo transfer was a freeze all at day three because they look so terrible and the doctor gave me a 20% chance at best of it working. We transferred two and I am currently 27 weeks pregnant one of those. Fingers crossed for you that this is it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436594 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 16:54:08 +0000 Alivoo01 2436594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* Good luck!!! &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436581 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 16:46:46 +0000 GreenThumb 2436581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are going through this! I'm in my TWW after a day 5 transfer too. I think the fact that your embie was developing well today is great news!! Try to have faith even though I know it is hard. Join us on the IVF #3 board for more moral support. There are quite a few of us working our way through cycles right now. It is a nice way to feel like you aren't alone in all of this! Wishing you much :goodluck: ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436565 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 16:38:54 +0000 fotolori1 2436565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436558 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 16:36:07 +0000 snowjewelz 2436558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just leaving some :heart: :heart: :heart: and lots of baby dust here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-discouraged#post-2436547 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 16:31:15 +0000 fotolori1 2436547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I had to use donor eggs and we just did our second 5 day transfer this morning. Last month was unsuccessful. We started with 6 eggs, 4 fertilized and then 3 made it to day 3, but only one made it to day 5. When we got there today, they said it was still at the morula phase, but was starting to move into the blastocyst phase. It had changed since they had looked at it early this morning. So..... they did assisted hatching and now we wait. I can't help but feel defeated considering I was really hoping for rock star embryos this time! Does anyone have any success stories or encouraging words?? </p>