https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 19 Jun 2026 07:10:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-844150 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 08:16:23 +0000 ValentineMommy 844150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I miss being lazy and sleeping in more than anything. LO is 4 months old. I think it's a totally normal feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-843901 Mon, 10 Jun 2013 02:19:28 +0000 erinpye 843901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally normal! I think we all miss having time that was our own, instead of being on baby's schedule. I just try to remind myself that someday, LO will be older, and will be doing her own activities, and I'll even get to sleep in again! And, I'll probably miss her needing me so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842887 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 10:13:55 +0000 bamblm 842887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Katrocap: I feel like this every weekend morning, when all I want to do is sleep in---until 8:00AM! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842696 Sun, 09 Jun 2013 06:26:11 +0000 heffalump 842696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I think I'm going to be like my mom and always drive a mini van now. I was so against getting it because it's a mom car.... but now I love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842525 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:17:29 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 842525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: this. One day my kids will grow up and I will drive a sedan again :) and I'll miss my mom life :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842523 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 22:16:22 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 842523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I miss it everyday!!! ''twas good!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842480 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:31:11 +0000 photojane 842480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. I miss our prebaby life a lot, but I do love this new life even more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842455 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 21:03:24 +0000 yoursilverlining 842455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel like a bad mama for feeling this way!!! Man, the first 6 months of my daughter's life I felt like way A LOT. Like, a lot, a lot. Life is just way, way easier without a baby. Want to eat dinner at 10pm; that's cool. Want to sleep in, why not? Want to spur-of-the-moment get away for the weekend; sounds like fun!</p> <p>Babies change everything. It isn't that you can't ever travel, or eat late or whatever, but you also have to take this little person into consideration. It is a "new life", it's an adjusted life, and adjusting takes time. There's no reason to feel bad or guilty about that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842452 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 20:59:57 +0000 sarac 842452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't, but I think that many people do. Don't feel guilty - life changes hugely when you have a baby. It's totally normal to miss parts of it, and it doesn't mean that you don't enjoy and love your child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842336 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 19:43:42 +0000 Katrocap 842336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. It's good to hear your stories and know that what I'm feeling is completely normal. Sometimes it's just hard to realize that while my feelings of missing my old life are the result of being a parent, it has nothing to do with LO specifically.</p> <p>@andrea: It does go by so fast. I can't believe I have a 5 month old already!</p> <p>@cottoncandy: I'm glad you've come to terms with the new life. Makes me feel like I'll get there soon!</p> <p>@artbee: Good point about your parents. Mine had fun times on their own while I was growing up, no reason why we can't, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842304 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 19:29:51 +0000 Andrea 842304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Give yourself time! I have a 3 year old and 5 month old and I think I am used to the "new life" now. My kids bring me so much joy even though it would be nice to take care of my needs a bit more. And old people come up to me all the time and tell me to enjoy it because it all goes so fast. I really do believe them. I can't believe I have a 3 year old already. It almost all seems like a blur sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842275 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 19:08:25 +0000 heffalump 842275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. But then I see my parents always doing fun things, and I realize that one day I'll do those things again too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842257 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 19:00:37 +0000 JoJoGirl 842257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. Probably more than I should. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842185 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 17:51:28 +0000 CottonCandy 842185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not a bad mom...I feel that way too, especially when I'm sick or tired and all I want to do is be lazy and relax on the couch and my LO won't let me....I don't think the feeling of missing my old life will go away totally, but I've come to terms with it. I love my LO and wouldn't change anything, but I definitely know how you feel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842166 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 17:26:28 +0000 marionberry 842166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby isn't here yet, but after having DH's dsd move in with us full time recently, there are moments when I certainly wish DH and I could have alone time again. I guess it was good prep for when baby marionberry gets here though. He'll be much worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842161 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 17:21:24 +0000 Smurfette 842161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! We had this conversation last night. We don't regret R at all but do miss going out to dinners with friends, coming and going when we wanted too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842087 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 16:25:35 +0000 blackbird 842087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes, totally normal. Mine's been taking a super long nap and DH is working today, so it kind of feels like it used to be before we had her. I cleaned and napped and have watched two hour-long episodes of tv uninterrupted. I would be lying if I said I didn't miss my solo, no-responsibility days sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842058 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 16:04:36 +0000 Mrs. Pen 842058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I miss it all the time. I think part of it has come with having a child so young (22, 23 now). I didn't live much of an adult life before having a child. Sometimes I get feelings of regret having a child this early (or even at all) and I feel guilty. But I realize it isn't about J at all, it's nothing against HIM because I LOVE HIM, just as you love your LO. And the moment we think of about them no longer being with us, we're filled with horrific dread. It's more about us. I don't think I'd be hurt at all if my mom ever said she wished she had waited to have kids - sure that would mean I wouldn't be here but it's not about me, it about her life (just an example, she never said that).</p> <p>I think it's normal and while we have babies needing our attention all hours of the day, I am sure the feeling will continue to rear it's ugly head. But just remember it has nothing to do with the amount of love you have for your child, but more so for wanting that freedom again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842056 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 16:02:25 +0000 Weagle 842056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've definitely had those feelings. I agree with @Mrs. Yoyo: ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842054 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:55:24 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 842054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It still comes and goes, and LO is turning 2. Definitely doesn't mean you're a bad mom, just a human one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842028 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:22:34 +0000 loveisstrange 842028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont think any parent can say theyve never felt like that at some point.</p> <p>Ive definitely had time where I missed being childless and carefree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842026 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:21:31 +0000 lovehoneybee 842026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely. I love my son to pieces, but sometimes I wish I could just take a day or two off. Especially when I have a migraine (or am just sick). Being a mom is a tough, 24/7 responsibility, and I think it's perfectly normal to want to go back to not having said responsibility every now and then. </p> <p>I hope you both feel better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842024 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:20:11 +0000 BlueWolverine 842024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely understand. LO is 4.5 mo and woke up an hour early this morning. Sigh. I really just wanted to sleep. I miss long afternoons spent with sangria on a patio downtown. That's not happening anytime soon. Doesn't mean I love LO any less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842023 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:18:18 +0000 Lindsay05 842023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep all the time! LO is at DH's mom's place for a few days, and although I miss her like crazy, it feels SOO good to just be able to relax and get some things done. Hopefully you and DH can take turns getting away and just nap or relax for a bit and get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842017 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:14:38 +0000 MaisyMay 842017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A is 5 1./2 months and I still feel that way sometimes. This morning all I wanted to do was sleep but since DH had to go to work, I had to take care of LO. It's okay to miss what you once had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-guilty-about-missing-old-life#post-842011 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 15:09:57 +0000 Katrocap 842011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my 5 month old son fiercely. But sometimes I just really miss my old, casual life with my DH. Right now both DH and I are super sick with colds and all I want to do is curl up in bed and watch TV. I feel guilty feeling this way. Does anyone else miss their old pre-baby life? Does the feeling go away or do you just end up getting used to it? Feeling like a bad mama ... </p>