https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 11:57:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-555559 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 21:19:05 +0000 MrsLilybugg 555559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: lol!!!! It's a big deal in MA </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-554586 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 17:00:02 +0000 Foodnerd81 554586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: Yeah... I've posted obsessively about lead. I'm sick of myself :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-554553 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 16:50:56 +0000 MrsLilybugg 554553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: UGH I cannot believe that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope that driver got cited.</p> <p>@Foodnerd81: oh good luck! I think yuo'd posted about lead before right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-554185 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 14:35:57 +0000 Foodnerd81 554185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in the process of looking for a new place and I'm adamant that we stay on the T-- sometimes I just cannot remember why it is that I want to take the T at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-554173 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 14:31:46 +0000 rachiecakes 554173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: When I worked in Harvard Sq. the 86 used to pick up right in front of Body Shop. I watched a very pregnant woman run to catch the bus. The bus driver was well aware and slammed the door shut. (At this point everyone, including me of course was screaming at the bus driver to open the door) The bus hit the light at the corner and by that time the pregnant woman was knocking on the bus door and the driver just shook her head no. Unreal. I actually called the MBTA to complain about the incident. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-554155 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 14:24:18 +0000 MrsLilybugg 554155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: AAAA i could totally just HUG you right now!!! THANK YOU!!!! :) Those rude riders have been making me feel like a blimp!<br /> I am just appalled that even at 37 weeks no effort was made. Sooo sweet that your DH would pick you up even if just for a few stops. The behavior is just disgusting though! We should start a PreggoMomma Protest on the MBTA. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-553711 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 11:22:07 +0000 mrs. wagon 553711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: p.s. I just checked out your bump photos on your blog and you are NOT huge or fat. You look awesome!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-553709 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 11:21:35 +0000 mrs. wagon 553709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: um ok, I just read this thread for the first time and you are NOT alone. Whenever I rode the T or bus no one ever got up for me-- even when I was waddling and HUGE at 37 weeks!! We live in a cold, cold city :( I actually made Wagon Sr. pick me up a few times instead of having to ride the T a few stops to meet him because I didn't want to have an emotional breakdown standing there as the young, fit, healthy kids sat and didn't even look up at me as they played on their iphones and I'm literally holding my 35 lb baby bump up with my hands!! I was preggo in the dead of summer as well and I would practically strip down to nothing because I was dying. I was on the orange line most of the time. I wanted to strap 25 lb bags of rice on these kids to make them realize that no matter what they were going through, I needed that seat a lot more than them!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-553646 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 10:58:45 +0000 MrsLilybugg 553646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much everyone!!!! I appreciate all of your support/ideas- really!!</p> <p>@rachiecakes: aw thanks! ;) we can coordinate seat saving lol@hummusgirl: i LOOVED Gloria's line!!!<br /> @Alivoo01: last night i thought i should even walk around with the What to Expect When You're Expecting book too. And whip that out after saying my "more room for baby" line. I decided it was too heavy lol.<br /> @hellobeeboston: thanks hon. I can't believe even in the sweltering heat there was no compassion. I'd cry too. @JoJoGirl: LOL! Sit on the floor- awesome idea, They'd feel horrible!<br /> @Foodnerd81: Did you show him this thread? I hope it works for you! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552505 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 15:33:42 +0000 RLCeigh 552505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone-- people are so rude!<br /> I ride the Red Line and Green Line everyday, when I was 9 months pregnant in the summer I was hoping my water would break just so the able-bodied-young-people who didn't give me a seat would be horrified :)<br /> Now I feel like I'm on patrol for anyone pregnant or who appears they need a seat for whatever reason-- sometimes I arrive at work so mad because of my T experience.<br /> All I know is my son will be the first person to offer his seat :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552480 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 15:20:44 +0000 tororojo 552480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Umm you shouldn't have to apologize for sitting down, pregnant or not! Sorry people are jerks. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552390 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:39:17 +0000 Modern Daisy 552390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah, I hear ya on this. NYC is bad too, I see pregnant women standing all the time. I always stand unless the train is empty because I don't want to take seats away from the elderly, pregnant or children. I'm not showing yet, but I'm dreading the day I am super uncomfortable and actually want a seat - I feel like no one will offer me one. My commute is really quick though, so at least I have that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552388 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:38:29 +0000 Mrs. Stroller 552388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, what a bunch of jerks! I used to put my hand on my stomach long before I had a bump and wore my most "maternity" looking clothes when I'd ride the metro. But standing was really too much and I'd freak out on the inside when people would bump into me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552379 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:32:03 +0000 Amelieisme 552379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People are assholes. This makes me mad. Even if you were just overweight and not pregnant, no one deserves to be treated this way. So sorry! HUGS to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552376 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:31:56 +0000 betsyboop 552376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: I'm so sorry, T riders can be so inconsiderate! I rode the T a lot when I was pregnant and found most people to be so rude to pregnant women. It was shocking actually. I wouldn't take it personally AT ALL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552371 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:28:45 +0000 JoJoGirl 552371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh they're all the worst. I rode the Orange line for a long time and it was no better. I would just sit down on the ground if nobody gives up their seat, that'll make them feel bad.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552369 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:28:09 +0000 hellobeeboston 552369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: we used to live in Washington Square - and admittedly, that green line commute was a pain - i remember when we moved to the north shore, my commute on the commuter rail was faster than taking the T!!! BUT - if you live out far enough ( i was one stop past washington square) I always got a seat on the way in... the way home was different - and I couldn't imagine being pregnant &amp; commuting during Sox games - it would be borderline dangerous I think! and the green line was definitely worse than the red - I would stick my huge bellies in peoples faces and they wouldn't even flinch. NOT COOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552365 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:25:39 +0000 Foodnerd81 552365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: UGH-- The green line is the worst. We are moving and DH keeps suggesting out towards Brookline, but I simply cannot take the greenline during Red Sox home games! He claims people will give me a seat, but I'm going to show him this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552339 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:15:23 +0000 Mrsbells 552339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Sorry you have to deal with this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552329 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:13:31 +0000 hellobeeboston 552329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: umm, I rode the green and red line every weekday up until 37 weeks preggo in the summer - and with a huge belly in the sweltering heat people did not let me sit many times!! I would get SO pissed and almost start to cry.... </p> <p>Mbta riders can be super rude and only care about themselves. Ugh!! I am sorry u r dealing with this!! The dude with the newspaper prob put it there so no one would sit next to him, I have seen people do that.... And I have had people get up and seem pissed when I take the seat next to them for no reason... So don't take it personally! People are just d*cks sometimes!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552307 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:05:08 +0000 Alivoo01 552307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG!! That's so effing rude of people!! Seriously, what happen to chivalry and kindess peole?! I like @Mrs. Lemon-Lime's suggestion that when this occurs again (which I really hope doesn't), blurt out "Great! More room for preggo me and the baby" so that it makes people feel bad because they really should feel terrible!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552304 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:03:22 +0000 rachiecakes 552304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: ugh, I'm so sorry! I've seen some awful things involving pregnant ladies on the T..<br /> if you are on the Harvard side of the Red Line I'll kick 'em outta a seat for ya :) hope your day gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552263 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:41:26 +0000 keiki_mama 552263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you had to go through that!! I feel your pain. I got b!tched out on the bus once for taking a seat when I was 8 months pregnant. Folks need to relearn their manners. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552252 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:38:00 +0000 hummusgirl 552252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw don't take it personally, there are a-holes everywhere. As Gloria on Modern Family said, "I'm turning FOOD into a HUMAN!" You're doing something important and you deserve a seat and shouldn't be shy about it. </p> <p>@Trailmix: I totally did the shaming/sighing thing too, but probably too subtly. I would see people on the subway CLOSE THEIR EYES when I got on, pretending they were napping so they wouldn't have to give me their seat! And the people who did give up their seats were women 90% of the time. I hope to raise my son so he's not one of those jerks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552228 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:23:10 +0000 MrsLilybugg 552228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: And boston clearly needs reminders!!! Thanks for the support :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552225 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:22:23 +0000 MrsLilybugg 552225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lisa1783: I am still in shock hearing about women 9 months pregnant standing on the T and suited men just sitting there. SO wrong!!!<br /> @Foodnerd81: EXACTLY! There's no First Class roomy seats on the T. If they are so skeeved about touching elbows they need a bubble to walk around in and car service. It's true about the winter coat too - it just makes me look bulky and not preggo. can't wait to shed it!<br /> @Trailmix: I love this. Unzipping your coat and glaring at people. SHAME them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552218 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:18:58 +0000 JoJoGirl 552218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh ugh ugh. You know they announced on the news this morning they're having a new campaign on the T to remind people of MANNERS? Like covering your mouth with your elbow when you cough and... standing up for pregnant women. So you're not alone. I'm sorry :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552217 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:18:29 +0000 MrsLilybugg 552217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awwww I love all of you ladies - thank you so much for making me finally feel a little better this dark morning!!! HUGS back!!</p> <p>@oliviaoblivia: that's a great point - i have found myself more mindful too, since disabilities aren't always so obvious!</p> <p>@T-Mom: @Cherrybee: I especially hate the people that pretend to be oblivious! I've seen them glance up and bury their faces back in their phones, magazines, etc., and when an elderly is with a cane standing! disgusting</p> <p>@Anagram: right?? they make me feel like I'm some sort of disease, and I'm like a "pregnant size 14", not a junkie shooting up on the train!<br /> @maybebaby: thanks for the reassurance on my retort! I'll be using that more firmly and fiercely!! I like your idea of patting my tummy and sighing too!</p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: "more room for me and the baby" will be my motto if these jerks behave like this again!</p> <p>@travelgirl1: thanks so much. I was feeling a little guilty for imposing on these jerks but it's true- i shouldn't have to stand while pregnant if there's a seat available! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552214 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:17:38 +0000 Trailmix 552214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I'm so sorry! I live in NYC and since it's winter, my coat hides my bump but I have no shame about unzipping my coat, making it obvious and then GLARING around at everyone until someone offers me a seat. You can also put your hand on your stomach, that's a pretty good way to signal to people that you're expecting. And you deserve a seat, dangit!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-huge-mbta-riders-have-been-rude-to-me#post-552200 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:11:48 +0000 Foodnerd81 552200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! The T is just the worst, period. And for these people to be so rude, whether they know you are pregnant or not is just so unacceptable! And oh my god, people do so many worse things than sit down in a seat that's crowded-- they are smaller than the average person, if you choose to sit, you know the person sitting next to you will probably be touching you. Deal with it or don't take public transportation at rush hour! I don't understand why either people would feel the need to react! </p> <p>I am hoping it will get better with people being more polite about offering seats once we shed our winter coats-- I'm 15 weeks and you can see a bump a little bit now in a tight shirt, but in a winter coat it's just more bulk. Try not to let rude people bother you-- even though I know that's so hard to do. </p>