https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 18:27:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless/page/2#post-1071974 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:54:16 +0000 Boheme 1071974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to offer you my support. My son is 14 weeks now, and from weeks 2-8 he was a terror several hours a day. No sleep, horrible reflux, crying, screaming, arching his back away from us. We ultimately found that he had a tongue and lip tie along with reflux. Trust your gut if you think something is wrong.<br /> I promise you it gets SO much better. Just take it a day at a time. If all your baby's needs are met, step away for a minute to gather your thoughts. You are not failing as a mom. You will get there little by little :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless/page/2#post-1071972 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:53:18 +0000 Ms.Badger 1071972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only skimmed the posts so forgive me if it has been mentioned already, but my baby was like this until I figured out he was sensitive to nuts. Stopped eating nuts and he has been a lot calmer with less spitting up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071961 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:37:40 +0000 LazyLightning 1071961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Exactly what @googly-eyes said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071960 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:36:05 +0000 googly-eyes 1071960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, and people who say to enjoy the newborn stage either a) forgot, b) dont have kids, or c) had easy newborns. I even disliked cards that came with gifts proclaiming that "they grow so fast" and "enjoy" and the like. Didn't help that I had bad ppd but even without that, fussy newborns are not enjoyable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071956 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:33:44 +0000 googly-eyes 1071956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You have gotten some great advice already, but I just wanted to chime in and say that my dd also did terribly on similac sensitive and Gerber gentle made a huge difference. She went from crying five+ hours a day and also grunting and fussing etc to being a normal albeit fussy newborn. Yes all formulas are nutritionally about the same, but I really believe this formula is easier to digest because ive heard a lot of stories like mine. parents choice tender is the generic. The next step would have been hypoallergenic similac alimentum or nutragimen (sp?). Our pedi gave us a sample of nutragimen for if Gerber didn't work out. It's expensive though which is why we tried the Gerber first. Hugs to you. Finding the right formula AND the right diet for bf'ing is a lot. It does get much easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071948 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:18:33 +0000 winniebee 1071948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cut dairy, but ultimately we tried nutramigen and my son really thrived on it.</p> <p>It WILL get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071944 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 17:14:44 +0000 Elderberrygin 1071944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LazyLightning: this was pretty much exactly our experience. We had LO checked out for anything that could've been causing the fussiness and she was otherwise feeding fine and our pediatrician told us we were one of the unlucky families with a baby who just has trouble adjusting to the outside world. It's really hard when you can't figure out a way to stop your baby crying, but like everyone else has said, it really, truly does get better. For us it was almost overnight. Brought her home from her three month appointment, she was sleepy from her shots and didn't cry that evening, and after that she had one more evening session of inconsolable crying and that was it.</p> <p>I second @cherrybee's recommendation of the PURPLE Crying website. It really helped me deal with the emotional strain of the colic stage.</p> <p>I really hear you on feeling terrible when people tell you to enjoy the newborn stage. I would come home crying every time someone stopped me on the street while I was pushing her in her stroller to tell me how wonderful and how worth it it all was, because my reality was so different. Do not feel guilty about finding this tough, or not being enjoying this stage. It sucks, and feeling like it sucks does not make you a bad mom. </p> <p>It gets better. I know the weeks that it normally takes for colic to settle seem like an eternity, but it will end. The important thing now is that you take care of yourself. *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071681 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 13:39:57 +0000 sarac 1071681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lots of good advice here. Just know that you aren't alone, it WILL get better, and everything you're feeling is a very normal reaction to very difficult circumstances. You are a wonderful mother, and it will be better, and soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071428 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 08:19:37 +0000 LazyLightning 1071428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby screamed from 3-9 weeks straight I think. It got a lot better after that. I was on here begging for help too, and definitely having regrets over "ruining" our lives by having a baby. You'll make it! Call in extra support (friends, family) when you can. If you need to, put your baby down in a Safe place and walk away. He will cry either way whether you are holding him or not, so set him in his crib and just step away to where you can't hear him for a few minutes. I used to stand in my back yard and sob some days. It's awful. I know. I cried so much. And I felt like taking "breaks" wasn't really helping since I still had to go right back and deal with it... But it does help. Keeps you from throwing baby out the window!!!</p> <p>Nothing anyone told me would work, worked. Car ride, tummy rub, etc. My dr said she was fine...it was so frustrating. I know people will tell you it gets better at X weeks and you're thinking "that's too long, I don't think I can make it one week." You will tho. Hugs. Hard to see it now, but "this too shall pass." (If it didn't we would all be at our childhood homes screaming In our mothers faces like we did as babies right??) I tried to think back to pregnancy - I hated it and was so sick and each week felt like a month. But it ended! Fussy newborn stage will end too. Promise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1071329 Sat, 07 Sep 2013 06:04:22 +0000 Cherrybee 1071329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right! I'm back - although I didn't get my bath after all, E woke up not 2 minutes after I'd finished writing my post and by the time I got her off to sleep again 30 mins later the moment had passed! That'll teach me for being so chuffed!! :happy: Here is everything I know - in no real order! </p> <p>Firstly, I want to start off by saying how your post makes me feel so sad. I wish I could come and give you a huge hug! I've been there (very recently) and my thoughts got pretty dark. I'm here if you ever need to vent.... it's ridiculously tough. It's interesting that you mentioned your birth experience, too. This is how I felt, after a long and traumatic induction - like I had been looking forward to this for 9 months and it's nothing at all like I thought it would be. I felt robbed of my dreams and my happiness. I promise you - it not only gets better but the pain does fade away and you are left with the dream, honestly. </p> <p>The "colic days" were only 2 weeks ago but they really, really do feel like a distant memory. It's a bit like childbirth - somehow the horror of it (which was so very real at the time) has faded.... E is 6 weeks and 2 days old now and, sure, she is a fussy little madam and some evening she treats us to a several-hour cry-fest but it's different. Its a different kind of cry. The colic cry - WOW - it's a frantic, desperate, pain-fuelled cry. It's IMPOSSIBLE to soothe your baby because they are in pain (at least, that's what I think). </p> <p>It's my belief that "colic" is a very misused word. It is banded about as a catch all definition for all types of inconsolable crying - and then it is stated as some kind of diagnosis: "Ahh, it's colic, he/she will grow out of it". It seems to me, from my layman's understanding, that colic is more of a symptom (it's the crying bit) - and it can either be for no reason at all OR for a very real reason like MSPI. I hate it when people - especially medical professionals - fob you off with "It's colic". What is causing my child's colic? Can we help alleviate it? It's not unreasonable to ask!!! </p> <p>So, here are the things we tried! You might find different things successful because your child is different to mine - his colic might be caused by something different or might be entirely idiopathic (cause completely unknown). </p> <p>1) Gas drops. </p> <p>If your baby is crying because he has trapped gas, gas drops might help. We tried two different types (Infacol and Dentinox - I'm in the UK) but neither helped whatsoever. They might help for you - alone or in conjunction with other measures. </p> <p>2) Gripe water </p> <p>We counted down the days until we could give E gripe water because so many people swear by it. It didn't work for us, personally. It's hard to get E to burp (I can't burp, actually!) so I guess trying to get the air out that was was futile! </p> <p>3) Anti-colic bottles </p> <p>E was on Tommee Tippee bottles and, from the start, used to gulp her food down, gasping for breath and honking like a little goose. We tried the Tommee Tippee anti-colic bottles to no avail and finally splashed out of some Dr Browns anti-colic bottles which are AMAZING! Sure, they leak (and make DH furious) but when she eats now she is peaceful and quiet! As gas drops and gripe water couldn't get the air out, we had to minimise the air going in and these bottles do that! it didn't solve the problem completely but it heped! </p> <p>4) Easy to digest formula </p> <p>We tried a colic medicine available here called Colief and it worked wonders! Basically, it's an enzyme that starts digesting the lactose in the formula before the baby drinks it. The website talks about "transient lactose intolerance" - like a temporary intolerance. In fact, here's the website. <a href="http://www.colief.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.colief.com</a> There's some great info on there - I'm not sure how medically accurate it is but I can vouch for the fact that it worked wonders for E. </p> <p>This got us thinking.... if she's struggling to digest the lactose, perhaps we could move her to an east to digest formula with lower levels of lactose. We use Cow and Gate comfort milk - but I bet you have a similar product where you are. This also worked wonderfully. We now use a combination of comfort milk in the day and pre-made regular formula with Colief in the night (because you can't get pre-made comfort milk and I like to make my bottles up for the night feeds!). </p> <p>5) Tummy massage and a warm bath </p> <p>E still has a sensitive little tummy, even on the low lactose milk. It's a far cry from where we were but sometimes she does struggle a little. When she does, we pop her in a soothing warm bath and rub her tummy in a clockwise direction. We also use a thumb to trace the number 7 from her belly button down. I read somewhere that this mirrors the path of the intestine or the colon or something. It does help. </p> <p>Going forward: </p> <p>My LO's colic eased at 5.5 weeks because we found out what was causing it. It's common for it to last until 3 months and then get magically better. Other Bees dealt with it for shorter or longer periods of time - so it's anyone's guess when it will improve for you but rest assured IT WILL. I mean, how many 18 year olds do you know with colic?? That's what I kept telling myself - lol. </p> <p>At this point, it will all be one big screamy blur of awfulness but once he is over the awful tummy issues you will still have some of this to deal with - but these bits, I think, are totally normal: </p> <p>1) The evening cry-fests. </p> <p>Screaming in agony isn't normal - that's horrible - but crying in the evening and resisting soothing is. All babies do it to one degree or another. This website really helped me: </p> <p><a href="http://www.purplecrying.info" rel="nofollow">http://www.purplecrying.info</a></p> <p>Read the testimonies - they made me sob. </p> <p>Now we've sorted E's tummy issues, she still does this. But it's different... it's bearable. This is the kind of crying the 5 Ss works well on. She's usually easily soothed now with swaddling, rocking and a bit of white noise and the days she's not soothed so easily are becoming fewer and fewer. </p> <p>2) Straining to poop</p> <p>E goes red faced, squirms and strains as though she's trying to poop and can't. However, when she goes, it's soft so she's not constipated. It stands to reason, really. Pooping is actually quite a skill - you have to relax your sphincter but tense your back passage muscles all at the same time. I think that it takes a while for some babies to learn to do this - and so the straining - and crying when she can't go - is probably quite normal. </p> <p>I really hope this helps. If these self help measures don't help, then bug your ped for a diagnosis - it might be reflux or a real intolerance like MSPI. </p> <p>More hugs for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070769 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 15:43:53 +0000 Crisark 1070769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO did this as well. We found that she had Silent Reflux. We started giving her Zantac 1ml twice a day and switched to Similac Sensitive Ready to Feed and in about a week she was a whole different child.<br /> Switching formulas can take at least a week to show full improvement.<br /> I would also caution from switching formulas too often. That can cause more issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070732 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 15:21:24 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1070732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: soy is very cross reactive with milk, so it's kind of pointless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070724 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 15:16:37 +0000 Cherrybee 1070724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: I saw you posted on the thread I started 2 wks ago about this.... I will come back and write a proper reply in a little while but right now Im going up for a bath..... Is my baby at grandma's I hear you ask? Nope, she's sleeping! And its 9pm. Because IT GETS BETTER. Surprisingly QUICKLY. I PROMISE. I got so down about it I plummeted into depression and honestly flirted with some desperate ideas to escape the constant screaming but here i am, just 2 wks later and I barely remember writing that post! She's a different baby and Im a different mum. Sure, she's still fussy in the evenings - and has really bad days, like any baby does - but its a far cry from the colic nights.....</p> <p>I'll come back and write some more later or maybe tomorrow but right now a glass of wine and a bubble bath beckons. This will be you soon, I promise. Big, big hugs xxx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070720 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 15:13:06 +0000 JamieLee 1070720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: since my ped told me to try a soy formula, should I do that first? I just don't want to waste my time and give my LO more discomfort if the soy is not a good choice...</p> <p>I just don't know what to do... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070694 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 15:00:46 +0000 regberadaisy 1070694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: IF your ped deems LO to have MSPI your insurance might pay for nutrimagen if it comes to that. My SIL's insurance comped hers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070684 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 14:57:01 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1070684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: the only non dairy formulas that I'd recommend are also soy free. Most people trial Nutramigen first, but elemental formulas are expensive so only do it in conjunction with your doc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070680 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 14:55:19 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1070680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: One thing that we also did in desperation was the exercise ball. For some reason, holding him while bouncing on the ball quieted him down immediately. My DH discovered it while he was walking DS in our basement in the Baby Bjorn and he was inconsolable, he sat down on the ball for a second and he stopped crying immediately. He called me down and was like, "We need to bring this upstairs NOW!!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070679 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 14:55:05 +0000 regberadaisy 1070679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: my LO was on Similac Soy Formula RTF bc I read that Ready to feed is less gassy then mixing powder.</p> <p>ETA: I just wanted to mention MSPI is for milk, soy protein intolerance. My LO was fine on soy formula. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070676 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 14:53:03 +0000 JamieLee 1070676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: thanks for the info about formula switching. I asked my LC about it before I tried the sensitive and she never mentioned that. Good to know. I've done some bicycling, but I don't think I did it long enough because he was crying so much.</p> <p>@blackbird: I think it's reflux. But the doctor wants me to try the no dairy thing first before trying Zantac. </p> <p>@Mrsbells: thanks! I don't know what formula to try. The doctor said soy, but I've read so much about problems with soy...</p> <p>@edelweiss: I am going to talk to the ped on Tuesday and really ask about reflux. I totally think that's what it is, but I don't want to give him unnecessary meds...</p> <p>@locavore_mama: I know what you mean. I'm going to try the no dairy thing first. I have to figure out a non dairy formula to buy tomorrow though, so if you have any suggestions...</p> <p>@Lindsay05: thanks for the vote of confidence. </p> <p>@BananaPancakes: thanks. I'm glad to hear it gets better. I really hate feeling this way...</p> <p>@mrs. mochi: I'll keep that in mind if my other trials don't work. I didn't even know chiropractors treated babies...</p> <p>@StbHisMrs: I need to look into this Wonder Weeks thing. I'm terrified its colic. That word is so scary to me...I think because to me, it means theres nothing you can do...</p> <p>@JoJoGirl: thanks</p> <p>@Smurfette: I haven't tried gas drops or gripe water yet, but they are on my list of things to try.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: do you have a non dairy formula to recommend? I am going to start cutting the dairy this weekend so I need to pick up the formula when I go to town tomorrow. </p> <p>@Corduroy: I found a shushing app on my phone that quieted him today so I'm guessing that's along the same lines as the vacuum...</p> <p>@Mrs. High Heels: I wonder if they have that formula at Target. We live in a smallish town so we don't have a ton of choices of where to buy baby stuff...I have noticed he sleeps better in the Rock and Play than the Pack and Play, and I'm guessing its the elevation. I have the same concern about the soy formula. Plus I read that a lot of babies with milk sensitivities are also sensitive to soy.</p> <p>@2PeasinaPod: thank you so much. Just hearing from mommas who have been there makes me feel so much better. </p> <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I fear it could be colic. His fussiness seems to be worse in the evening and night, but I don't know. I'll have to pay more attention to when he's fussy.</p> <p>@MrsF: we haven't had any testing done yet. The doctor just did a basic physical exam. He told me to try a soy formula when I eliminate the dairy. But I heard the whole thing about the soy, so I don't know. I don't really have any family close. DH's family is close but I don't really find them that helpful. They really stress me out more than anything. My friend is coming on Sunday though so that's something to look forward to. I haven't tried the yoga ball yet. I will have to dig mine out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070645 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 14:42:34 +0000 red_seattle 1070645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others have said, it sounds like reflux to me. I've also heard from friends that chiropractors helped their babies. It's worth looking into those things with your doctor.</p> <p>Mostly though, I wanted to say hang in there. Newborns are tough. I really feel like there should be an "it gets better" campaign for new parents. It does get better! Don't feel guilty for not enjoying it. The people that say "enjoy every minute" are the ones that had angel babies who slept well from the beginning and hardly cried, or their kids are so grown up that they've forgotten how grueling caring for a newborn can be. I want another child (someday) very much, but I am afraid of going through the newborn stage again, and with a toddler/preschooler, too. I think it's normal/ok to admit it hasn't been fun for you. But it does get better and easier eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070578 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 14:05:29 +0000 MrsF 1070578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: I'm so sorry you're going through this. My daughter's newborn phase was absolutely the worst period of my life. People would tell me to "enjoy every moment" and I just thought I must be the worst mom in the world. The good news is, it ABSOLUTELY will get better. I honestly thought that I had made a huge mistake in having a baby. Now my life is so much happier because of her. I promise you will feel the same way!</p> <p>M ended up being treated for both reflux (we had success with prilosec, not so much with zantac) and MSPI. I had stopped nursing at 3 months and she had obvious blood in her stool from the milk-based formula. I'm sure she was suffering from dairy in my diet while I was BF and then it became more obvious on the formula. Has your pedi tested your LO's diaper for blood? We started M on hypoallergenic formula (Nutramigen) and she was like a new baby. I wouldn't switch formulas without talking to your pedi (though if you eliminate dairy from your diet without switching formulas it's not going to help). I think that soy formulas are not recommended for babies with MSPI because they can be cross-reactive with soy. </p> <p>A baby who cries all the time is really the hardest thing to handle as a new mom. I cried to my mom on the phone every day. Do you have family or friends who can come and sit with you or hold the baby? My days seemed so much brighter when I knew that someone would be stopping by that much day. I'm sure you've heard it - but the only thing that helped M stop crying was holding her while bouncing on a yoga ball 24/7. We borrowed one from my aunt who had had a colicky baby and it saved me. I hope things get better for you soon. Keep reaching out when you need support. We're here for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070522 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 13:37:08 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1070522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: Do you think it could be colic? I know DD did something very similar when she was that age, but it was definite times during the day, like from 6-9pm EVERY day for 3 weeks. It was so stressful and difficult. We also started putting some gripe water in her bottle and, I don't know if it was the timing or if it actually helped, but the crying did stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070422 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:55:58 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1070422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my LO was 4 weeks, I definitely could have written your post word for word. S was so colicky and I was also exclusively pumping and feeding him expressed breastmilk. Try cutting dairy from your diet first and switch to a soy based formula. If that doesn't help, start eliminating things from your diet that you think may be causing gas. I didn't realize things like tomato sauce was wreaking havoc on his stomach. I had to avoid so many veggies that were causing him gas too. </p> <p>After a certain point, we started putting a dose of gas drops in every single bottle we fed him. Things started to improve after he was 2 months, and then he was worlds better after 3 months and just kept getting better after that. We started having more good days than bad days (we did still have bad days), but he suddenly took a turn around 5 months. He was like a different baby. So happy and was doing so much better.</p> <p>I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. I know things seem really hopeless right now, but things will start to get better. Keep working with your doctor and start eliminating things a bit at a time. I've unfortunately been there and wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Lots of love :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070312 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:19:42 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1070312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: My first daughter was similar to this - she had reflux and spit up a lot. The first couple weeks home I was drinking a lot of milk, and she was so gassy - she would cry when burped, cry when she farted, and just arch her back all the time. As soon as I cut out dairy and it was completely out of my system she was a lot better. We also used gripe water for her gas, and let her sleep in elevated surfaces, which helped. </p> <p>I would switch to a dairy free formula too. I like the Baby's Only brand - the lactose free formula. I personally would not switch to a soy-based formula. With all the studies out there about soy and its high levels of estrogen I would just steer clear.</p> <p>I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. 4 weeks is really really hard, even with "easier" babies!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070301 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:14:52 +0000 Corduroy 1070301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not a bad mom and the newborn phase can be so very hard. (Thankfully) People tend to forget really quickly. That's why they tell you to enjoy it - they don't remember enjoying it themselves. </p> <p>I had a fussy newborn and I can relate to your frustration. We never found any tummy issues with her although I did cut out dairy just because the idea that it might cause 1/10th of the crying made it worth it for me. We did find the vacuum and walking seemed to soothe her. </p> <p>It gets better with time. In the meantime, vent all you want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070298 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:13:24 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1070298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you are cutting dairy and not cutting the dairy formula, you won't see any change in behavior if this is MSPI. There are lots of good MSPI posts on the boards if you search for them, and I did a blog post on the topic if you want more information. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070277 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:00:52 +0000 Smurfette 1070277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs Mom!!! It is so hard to figure out what is wrong when they just can't tell tell you what is wrong. </p> <p>The back arching makes me wonder if it is reflux. </p> <p>Have you tried gas drops with every feeding? Gripe water? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070265 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 11:54:42 +0000 JoJoGirl 1070265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started so many threads like this. It gets better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070259 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 11:50:02 +0000 StbHisMrs 1070259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: My oldest was like that, the only time he didn't cry was when he was asleep on someones chest, the vacuum was running or we were in the car. There's 9 years between him and his sister for a reason. I thought I was a failure as a Mother, but it turned out that he had colic. I hated the newborn stage. </p> <p>You aren't doing anything wrong, every baby is different. My second was such an easy baby, but Charlie is pretty fussy. I'm trying to find my Wonder Weeks book this morning, I'm pretty sure there is one coming up. </p> <p>Little Tummys gripe water has worked amazingly for Charlie, I found it at Target after looking for it at 3 other stores.</p> <p>I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, it isn't easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-lost-and-hopeless#post-1070236 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 11:41:59 +0000 Lindsay05 1070236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. mochi: I've heard good things about chiropractic work treating fussy babies. </p>