https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 15:47:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1863314 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 14:36:55 +0000 alohaorchid 1863314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: "I wish I knew. Facebook is killing me right now and I hate myself for it." I came to post exactly the same thing! No advice, just lots of hugs! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1861400 Sat, 13 Sep 2014 13:34:29 +0000 winter_wonder 1861400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: I'm so sorry :heart:. I don't have any advice but I have similar feelings. I say just keep venting in HB. You will find support here. I hate that anyone has to go through IF. Hugs to you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1861035 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 22:16:37 +0000 travelgirl1 1861035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I knew. Facebook is killing me right now and I hate myself for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1860894 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 18:42:23 +0000 jaguar 1860894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I could have posted that word for word! Not a day goes by that I'm not thankful for Georgia, my gorgeous girl, but we're back to where we started. The royal news wasn't exciting to me... it was just a slap in the face. I hate taking stuff like that so personally.</p> <p>One day at a time, I guess..</p> <p>@marionberry: *hugs*</p> <p>@Mrs. Juice: Thanks chick. The worst part is... I LOVE babies. I love pregnancy. I'm a school teacher, for pete's sake! I hate that I'm not automatically thrilled... it's like IF/the miscarriage has jaded that whole special part of me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859627 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 07:04:36 +0000 marionberry 1859627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: @bluestripedbee: my heart goes out to you both. My IF was nothing compared to yours and it still killed me everyday until we got our bfp. I just pray good things for you both. Do whatever you need to do to stay sane. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859569 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 06:06:57 +0000 BSB 1859569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: yeah, I know the jealousy doesn't go away. I follow the 'infertility voice' and she recently posted a FB status about having a child already but still getting jealous about Kate Middleton getting pregnant so easily for the second time.</p> <p>So I get it, IF never leaves you. It does make me sad that having IF changes you. A part of me thinks, if only I can have my own baby in arms and I'll be the happiest person on earth, but I know I'll probably be annoyed that I had to wait so long and pay so much money to have a child. Right now, I'm concentrating on baby #1, but we do want more than one, so I'm sure I'll have these jealous thoughts for baby 2 or 3. </p> <p>So yeah, I see it and I know the reality is this jealousy of people who conceive easier will always be with me for the rest of my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859536 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 05:33:57 +0000 Mrs. Juice 1859536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss and I agree that it is so hard when you are surrounded by other pregnancies and babies... Sending prayers and hugs for you and your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859512 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 03:50:24 +0000 jaguar 1859512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I totally understand - the waiting portion of IVF is the WORST, because you physically CANNOT DO ANYTHING to get pregnant during that time, and it's awful. At least IUI's and FET's you can have a shot at pregnancy, ya know?</p> <p>I think that's why the post-miscarriage jealousy has been even worse - because I *was* pregnant, but I can't get pregnant again until we do more IVF. And that sucks.</p> <p>Big hugs. x </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859487 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 01:40:52 +0000 BSB 1859487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggling with this recently. With my IUIs, I was always distracted by the process. Now that I'm in the IVF process and I'm currently on BCP before stims, it's a lot of time to think things. Jealousy has come full force. It's really hard. My sister is newly pregnant and a lot of people on my FB feed are pregnant. It seems like everyone is due March or April 2015. (Really! A friend just posted her ultrasound today. WTF!?! Really?... There goes another hidden friend.) Usually I can be strong and keep them in my newsfeed but I have been hiding people left and right. Yup, I hid my own sister. I feel bad saying this but I'm even getting jealous of fellow IFer who are now pregnant with #2. I think it's the ones that started TTC when I started are the ones that are starting to hurt the most. Just so jealous lately. I've even stepped away from HB because of it. Trying to pull away from the baby talk. Especially during this lull in IVF.</p> <p>This IVF process and all this waiting is really testing me. I'm trying to be strong but not doing a good job. Trying to be positive on all the other aspects of life. If you see my IG account, I'm posting a ton on my dogs. My dogs and my DH is how I don't go insane. </p> <p>I feel guilty with these jealous thoughts. I want to be happy for people but it's so hard. </p> <p>I don't have any advice. I'm in the thick of it right now. I'm hoping this is a weak time for me and the jealousy will go away with other distractions. Hugs!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859481 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 01:33:14 +0000 jaguar 1859481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part, I smile and bear it. But for now... it's just that bit harder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859445 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 23:37:22 +0000 sapphire 1859445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was facing this, I tried to remember that there is no limit to the # of babies that can born. That another woman being pregnant is not taking an opportunity away from me. That helped me be happier for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859425 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 23:07:53 +0000 MaryM 1859425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the others. I didn't.</p> <p>We know almost 20 couples that had babies this year. I've done major hiding on Facebook too, and generally just been withdrawn from the new parents. I've sent gifts, but haven't visited a new born other than my niece. </p> <p>It's gotten easier for me as the kids have gotten a little older and I've met a couple of them, but generally, I need to look out for me. And I need time for my heart to heal.</p> <p>People are so busy and overwhelmed I don't know if anyone has really noticed how withdrawn I've been.</p> <p>It felt better to talk to DH about it because he's not nearly as cynical as I am and still believes everything will be puppies and rainbows for us when we have our baby. But some days, I'm even jealous of him for not being so jaded!</p> <p>Do whatever helps you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859343 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:08:23 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had any good advice right now. As much as I can, when I can, I'm trying to radiate warmth, light, and good-will. And when I can't...I try to escape...or vent (usually to you all or to DH). I hope you can take whatever time you need to heal. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859342 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:08:17 +0000 lilteacherbee 1859342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After my miscarriage, I hid people on Facebook and eventually deactivated it for awhile. It was entirely too hard to see updates from people who were due around the same time I should have been. When I saw pregnant people in person, it was super hard and I usually had a little cry afterward.</p> <p>Hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859337 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:04:18 +0000 brownie 1859337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't. I straight up removed them from my facebook stream. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/feeling-so-jealous#post-1859316 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:53:31 +0000 jaguar 1859316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we were TTC the first time, I really struggled with being positive and happy for people when they announced they were pregnant - but I managed it. I did my best to be excited, I was thrilled for other infertile friends when they hit their magical goal... and eventually, we got our girl (thanks to IVF)</p> <p>Here we are, after many moons of TTC #2, and I'm back where we started - only this time, I'm even sadder because of the little boy we lost at 11 weeks along. (We found out through genetic testing that he had T21, which caused the miscarriage.)</p> <p>How do you stop yourself from being so jealous of other people's luck? I'm quite literally surrounded by people who are pregnant right now, including those who are now due AFTER I would have been, and I'm finding it really hard to be as positive this time around. Too cynical maybe? :( </p>