https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 08:35:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-856071 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 17:51:11 +0000 hilsy85 856071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: nope we were able to keep one feeding! He eats anywhere between 1230 and 230 (or later if he wakes later)--I should probably be stricter about the time frame but I'm not pushing it. He will sometimes wake up one or two other times, like at 1030 or 1130, but he'll cry for a minute and then put himself back to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-855979 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 17:08:54 +0000 Mrs. Blue 855979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I'm just wandering how everything went now that it's been a few weeks since you started. Did LO drop all his night feedings or did he settle into one wake up? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-775184 Sat, 11 May 2013 12:26:17 +0000 hilsy85 775184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beehive: @Mrs. High Heels: thanks! I definitely hope tonight goes well too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-775125 Sat, 11 May 2013 11:38:21 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 775125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I was just about to write on your wall to see how it all went - that's soo great that it was such a success, yay!! Here's to better sleep ahead :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-775116 Sat, 11 May 2013 11:26:28 +0000 Beehive 775116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's great, it sounds like it went well! I definitely know what you mean about being paranoid when LO looks like his face is mushed into the mattress. There have been many times I've flipped or otherwise moved him, and totally messed up his sleep by doing that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-775075 Sat, 11 May 2013 10:56:08 +0000 hilsy85 775075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cranberryapple: oh man! I would way rather have him wake up at 2:30 or 3 and then sleep til 6:30 than wake up at 5 for the day!! I'm hoping that he wakes up around 2/230 tonight so I can nurse him...I really didn't want to drop all overnight feedings. </p> <p>@Smurfette: @Running Elley: @TurtleDoves: @hummusgirl: thanks guys! DH was pretty pissed at me, lol...but it ended up going pretty well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-775066 Sat, 11 May 2013 10:49:34 +0000 cranberryapple 775066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We recently night-weaned completely. I wouldn't have minded keeping just one feeding, but I was confused about how to go about it, which is why we just went all the way. DS was waking up 3-4 times a night, but he used to only wake up once at around 2-ish, which I was okay with. But, with waking and eating so much at night, he became a lousy nurser during the daytime and it was a cycle. I was confused like you on how I would know when I should feed him when it wasn't "time", and I suspected that even after I fed him earlier, he would just be up again for the third time. Since night-weaning completely, he eats a LOT more during the day and is surprisingly focused. Ahahahahaha. But, I suspect he is actually really hungry by the morning because now he wakes up at 5AM, and doesn't go back to sleep until his first nap of the day! Oh boy..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774999 Sat, 11 May 2013 09:54:32 +0000 hummusgirl 774999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I totally rolled LO back on to his back last night after finding him face-planted into the mattress. He's 7.5 months and I know it's fine for them to sleep that way but I just couldn't help myself! I was lucky LO went right back to sleep but don't feel bad, I think it's totally normal to be paranoid and take action. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774994 Sat, 11 May 2013 09:49:56 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 774994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: that's awesome! Any mother woul have done what you did!! Dot feel bad. Everything else went so well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774975 Sat, 11 May 2013 09:37:12 +0000 Running Elley 774975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: He did so well last night! And so did you, mama!! I always sneak in to check on E when he rolls out of the monitor's view and he stirs every tme...I'm sure it's just a matter of time before I wake him up to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774951 Sat, 11 May 2013 09:09:23 +0000 Smurfette 774951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: that is great!!! I am sure when our time comes to do it, I will mess up like that too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774940 Sat, 11 May 2013 08:59:29 +0000 hilsy85 774940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: thanks for asking!</p> <p>It didn't go too badly last night...falling asleep, he cried for 20 minutes, with checks at 3, 5, and 7 minutes. He woke up at 1am, cried for 2 minutes, fussed for 6, and fell back asleep. </p> <p>This is where I totally f*cked up. He was out of sight on the monitor and I couldn't see his face. He was on his stomach and I was worried that his face was smushed into the mattress (irrational fear of mine). So I snuck in to check and woke him up :( He then cried for 35 minutes, with checks at 3, 5, 7, and 10 minutes. </p> <p>THEN he didn't wake up until 6:00! I hadn't fed him at the 1am wakeup, I figured he'd wake around 3 or 4. But he slept straight through. I feel really bad that I messed it up, but I think it went pretty well. We'll see how tonight goes! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774856 Sat, 11 May 2013 07:34:45 +0000 Weagle 774856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: We did this! If it was before 4am, DH would go in. I would go in after 20 minutes and feed if she didn't calm down. It actually only took a night or two before she stopped waking up for that feeding at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774843 Sat, 11 May 2013 07:19:56 +0000 Smurfette 774843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: How did it go? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774790 Sat, 11 May 2013 06:15:56 +0000 LulaBee 774790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing! We started CIO last might but I ended up nursing DD twic, once because she cried for an hour:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774731 Sat, 11 May 2013 02:25:03 +0000 Tidybee 774731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First i'd send DH in to comfort if it's before your feeding time. If he can't get C back down within 10-15 min, I'll gO in and feed her. Just do what you are comfortable with and don't stress out about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774509 Fri, 10 May 2013 21:04:00 +0000 hilsy85 774509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: he's almost 7 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774481 Fri, 10 May 2013 20:51:53 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 774481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: How old is he? Depending on age, I would go check after waiting anywhere from 10-20 min after that 1 am wakeup but would not feed. Ex: kIf he's 6-months old, I'd wait 15 minutes before going in, if he's still crying after that I'd go in and soothe, then put right back down the moment he's calm.</p> <p>Agree with turtledoves that my LO has never stayed up for a full hour just crying in the motn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774462 Fri, 10 May 2013 20:43:30 +0000 hilsy85 774462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: that's what I think too but dh is. Thinking of all these worst case scenarios lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774385 Fri, 10 May 2013 20:01:55 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 774385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: yes-according the method: you shouldn't. But! I've never had my son wake at 1 and stay awake until 2....if Leo went to sleep after 20mins the first time, then *hopefully* he would never be up an entire hour in the middle of the night:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774299 Fri, 10 May 2013 19:29:50 +0000 hilsy85 774299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: ok so your'e saying even if he wakes up at 1 and cries until 2/230, we shouldn't feed him right? That's what I thought. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774297 Fri, 10 May 2013 19:29:05 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 774297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just my 2cents:<br /> Don't give in or else he will literally add another wake-up.<br /> You have to just soothe him back down (paci maybe?) or whatever way you did it when you checked on him at the 3,5,7min interval.<br /> Then, next time he wakes and it has been 8h, then is feed.<br /> Ours will make up sometimes and I know he might want to eat? Maybe? But it's only been like 5h. So, I run on sleep sheep and all that and I walk out. He falls back asleep and wakes up at a good time to eat! Then: I'll feed him. Even then it's half a feeding or water (because he does 12h without food, 98% of the time since being 12w old, so I know he isn't truly hungry). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774293 Fri, 10 May 2013 19:27:02 +0000 hilsy85 774293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beehive: thanks! :) @Running Elley: thanks! and what if (not that I think this will happen but) he wakes up at 1am and is crying for like an hour or so? Do I still feed him if he's crying around 2/230? Or do I wait til he falls asleep and feed him the next time he wakes up? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774290 Fri, 10 May 2013 19:25:16 +0000 Running Elley 774290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you were planning on feeding him at /after 2:30 I'd go ahead and feed him if he wakes up after 2. </p> <p>20 minutes is awesome!!! That's a great start. Go L :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774261 Fri, 10 May 2013 19:09:59 +0000 Beehive 774261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice, but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you - good luck tonight, I hope it goes well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774238 Fri, 10 May 2013 19:01:14 +0000 hilsy85 774238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: but how close? Like if he wakes at 1:30? or 1:15? </p> <p>And what if he wakes at like 1, but then doesn't stop crying by 2:30? then what do I do? Feed him? or wait for him to go to sleep and then feed when he wakes? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774235 Fri, 10 May 2013 18:59:52 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 774235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just feed him if its close to the time you expect him to wake up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ferber-and-night-feedings#post-774226 Fri, 10 May 2013 18:50:25 +0000 hilsy85 774226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we started the sleep training process tonight...eek! LO cried for 20 minutes (with checks at 3, 5, and 7 minutes) before falling asleep--not too bad, I think.</p> <p>We plan on keeping one night nursing session. I'd like to not feed him until he's gone at least 8 hours--2:30am (which I know he can do because he's done it several times, most recently last night). My question is: what do I do if he wakes up at 2am? or 1:45am? Do I do the checks until he falls asleep and then feed him the next time he wakes? Or do I do the checks until it's 2:30 and then feed him? or just feed him if it's within an hour of 2:30? </p>