https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 15 Jun 2026 16:54:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444819 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 13:56:24 +0000 ChitownRo 2444819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind detailed inquiries from friends...most of them are TTC for the first time, so I understand the curiosity. I somehow feel weirder about family/ILs knowing details about my vag. With LO1, I had a bajillion questions from friends/family/coworkers and even patients. I had one patient ask if I tore and if I was "ok down there" LOL. I guess I ask them personal questions all of the time... but I was totally caught off guard... I laughed and said everything went smoothly (even though it didn't) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444638 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:54:33 +0000 Eko 2444638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I was fortunate that I never really had many people ask me crazy questions. The one thing I was surprised about though is the #1 question I got asked is whether I was breast feeding or not. I actually felt kind of offended because I was like 'why do you want to know?' What knowledge is there to be gained by knowing whether someone is breastfeeding or not. But, I think it was just my insecurities because I feel like I gave up on it too quickly. I felt kind of ashamed to say that I was formula feeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444607 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:39:23 +0000 MoonMoon 2444607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After the birth, my friends all wanted to talk about the nitty gritty details, which worked out because I was so excited to talk about everything! Sometimes it was couples, sometimes just women. I didn't mind, although I'm naturally reserved about SUPER personal things like poo on the table or whatnot... I just think you become part of a cool "club" after you give birth, and for a while, many people want to talk about it and bond over it. But it never came up with coworkers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444587 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:32:57 +0000 erinbaderin 2444587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny, I saw my neighbour picking her son up at daycare shortly before she gave birth and she told me she was 2cm dilated and I thought "woah woah, I do not need that information!" If anybody ever asks me something I think I'll just turn bright red and mumble something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444579 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:30:06 +0000 QueensBee 2444579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: Yes, I felt this way a lot! I'm extremely private and hated all the questioning from people, especially my family. I was able to avoid it with my first LO- he was breech and a scheduled c-section. This time, my doctor wanted me to try a VBAC and I had to field all sorts of questions about VBACs. There was also lots of unsolicited advice on how to recover from delivery. I'm 3 weeks pp and I think it's finally over now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444513 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:02:29 +0000 LBee 2444513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get asked a lot of times why I had a c-section. Usually it's complete strangers. This usually wouldn't matter, but my story is kind of complex - I had suspected placental abruption, it clamped, but they felt it was dangerous for me to push. That usually prompts people to ask all about what happened and how I knew something was wrong, bed rest, etc. I think a little bit of my issue with it is that I'm still sensitive about everything that happened so I try to remember that and answer kindly (although once I told someone it was because I didn't want to risk down there. My husband wasn't amused.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444504 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:57:36 +0000 LovelyPlum 2444504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I once had a woman follow me around the grocery store telling me that if I had sex, DH needed to come inside me to make it more effective. She wanted to know alllll sorts of things about my vag and cervix that I would be perfectly happy to tell my best friend. In a grocery store, at 10 p.m., to a complete stranger? Ummm, no thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444479 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:31:06 +0000 snowjewelz 2444479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, after baring all to multiple doctors/nurses and pushing a baby out of my vagina I really didn't care what people asked anymore, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444468 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:25:17 +0000 cascademom 2444468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mainly had those questions from family and my boss. My boss was concerned that I would go into labor at work both times. Never happened. My brother asked me some of the TMI questions about labor and delivery after having gone through it twice with his wife. My mom just said that he was concerned and wanted to know where I was in labor/delivery with my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444464 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:23:51 +0000 rachiecakes 2444464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was really really uncomfortable talking about my body. I started showing at 20 weeks or so and suddenly it was like my body was public property open for discussion at all times. Never mind the fact that I felt awful and out of control (PIH &amp; pre-eclampsia). Every day it was a comment about my face getting bigger. My legs. My feet. :(<br /> After I had him I had an awful recovery. Episiotomy, nerve damage, granulation tissue, etc. I didn't want to talk about that either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444457 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:18:46 +0000 Anagram 2444457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No questions of that nature at work. Actually, none from family either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444454 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:16:45 +0000 travellingbee 2444454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm probably an over-sharer so I didn't mind questions. To me, childbirth and breastfeeding are so removed from sexual that it doesn't feel weird talking about my breasts or vagina. I also work with almost all women so they've almost all been through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444435 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:06:45 +0000 littlebug 2444435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had multiple people asking for updates on how dilated I am. Whatever. I'm so over it, I just answer. If they are ballsy enough to ask the question, then they'll get the answer. I've stopped caring, ha! </p> <p>A lot of people recommend sex. I've had SEVERAL people also recommend nipple stimulation, which for some reason I find far more awkward/intimate than the sex suggestion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444433 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:05:41 +0000 hilsy85 2444433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got these questions from close friends, and didn't mind at all, even in the presence of good guy friends (although I did laugh and make some comment about them probably never wanting to know this much info about my cervix). I would be really taken aback by not close friends/at the workplace! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444429 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:03:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 2444429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't get too many questions, besides from close friends that I don't mind. The one question I have had and heard a lot is "was it natural?" referencing the birth. I think what they mean was "vaginal or csection" but no one wants to say vaginal. But yeah in general I think pregnancy gives people brain farts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444420 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:00:15 +0000 avivoca 2444420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My coworker asked me if I was tired of being fat. That was fun.</p> <p>As soon as I hit 40 weeks, people kept asking me when she was getting evicted, if I was dilated (I refused checks, so I had no idea), if I lost my plug, etc. I'm of the belief that if you were not there when the baby was conceived or my doctor, you have no business asking any of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fielding-tmi-questions-about-laborbirth#post-2444416 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 09:58:34 +0000 DesertDreams88 2444416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to admit, I am so taken aback by the intimately personal questions people have asked me since 37 weeks - today (6 days postpartum)!</p> <p>MULTIPLE people asked me how dilated &amp; effaced I was, if I was having sex to try to get the baby out, if I tore during birth, if i was bleeding a lot, etc. Also lots of questions about nursing too though that's not as TMI, just a bit awkward to start talking about my boobs with people.</p> <p>These questions are coming from women, but almost always in the presence of men. They range from close friends to just standard coworkers. One time it was in the teachers lounge with 8 people present! Possibly they think it's ok bc normally I'm an open person....? But never about my vagina! Haha.</p> <p>What kinds of crazy questions did you get? How often? Or is this more normal than I think? </p>