https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 20:25:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2470410 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 17:33:50 +0000 Modern Daisy 2470410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is exactly why I hate it when people buy DS character/branded clothing. Because they are the only items he ever cares about wearing. When he is overtired I sometimes have to grab his superman sweatshirt out of the hamper. Otherwise he could care less what I dress him in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2470366 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 16:48:51 +0000 mediagirl 2470366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I have been working on a few things. They all work sometimes. But it's better than nothing?<br /> 1. Have her pick out her clothes the night before.<br /> 2. Have another optional "typically favorite" outfit available just in case.<br /> 3. Always get dressed in the same place. We do it on the floor in her bedroom right in front of the dresser.<br /> 4. Let her dress herself if she wants to. Ask if she wants help. Wait for her to ask you for help. ;-)<br /> 5. If all else fails - Anna and Elsa shirt. Just go with it. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2470354 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 16:38:37 +0000 travelgirl1 2470354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: ahhh, I was hoping you were going to have this amazing advice for me about how you have since got dressing her down to a fast, fine art with no tantrums and everyone smiling at the end :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2470319 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 15:59:23 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2470319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I choose my battles wisely - fighting about everyday clothing is not a battle I would win :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2470310 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 15:51:17 +0000 Greentea 2470310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't fight that. Well, as long as it isn't a necessary article of clothing (coat) for weather. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2470264 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 15:14:10 +0000 mediagirl 2470264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: she's still picky, so darn picky, about clothes. I am actually shocked I wrote this 10 months ago, I feel like I wrote it last week. Haha. Some days she loves one thing, the next day she hates that same thing. We did end up getting her into her dress for a couple of pictures. Turned out she was sick on Easter so we didn't actually go anywhere. Bribery works for special occasions.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2470234 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 14:43:05 +0000 travelgirl1 2470234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I was just searching for old threads about tantrums and getting dressed and stumbled on this..... Just curious how it all worked out? Our mornings are horrendous right now 🙈 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2129758 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 18:23:30 +0000 Kimberlybee 2129758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the weather and occasion. Coats, jackets, and shoes are nonnegotiable. I ignore her screams and tantrums for those. For church or a special event, I don't give in. Any place else, I just go with the flow. You win some, you lose some. :wink: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in/page/2#post-2129704 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:42:54 +0000 ShootingStar 2129704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now he doesn't fight yet because he wants to wear something other than what I've picked out, he fights because he doesn't want to get dressed. And he doesn't get that choice - I'm not sending him to school in PJs. I also feel like it sets a dangerous precedent that he can fight me on something and win. Today he fought and fought about putting on his jacket and I wasn't having it. I'm not interested in letting him scream and wiggle away from me and not put on his coat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129487 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 13:14:03 +0000 yoursilverlining 2129487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: :heart: it is so cute. She gets SO EXCITED to see them, say hi to them, say bye to them. I thought she would grow tired of visiting them, but every day she keeps asking! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129458 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 12:56:57 +0000 Mamaof2 2129458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: totally off subject but my DD also LOVES to stop and look at all the babies in the infant room! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129438 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 12:46:27 +0000 yoursilverlining 2129438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Not often, luckily – when she has, I give her the option of putting on her coat or losing X privilege/item. For example, every day when we leave daycare she wants to go look in at the infant’s room to see the babies. She has to put her coat on before she gets to see them – if she refuses, I tell her to put on her coat or she doesn’t get to see the babies. Coat goes on! </p> <p>Also, sometimes I bring her into/out of daycare wrapped in a fleece blanket instead of a coat (quicker/easier on me than wrangling those little arms into coats, buttoning up, etc.) and once in a blue moon nothing works and I just wrap her up and go - screaming child and all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129420 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 12:36:14 +0000 Freckles 2129420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Have you ever had to battle her when the weather is really bad? Today was blizzard-like weather after a stretch of warm weather. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129410 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 12:30:41 +0000 yoursilverlining 2129410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If LO fights me on what I’ve picked out, I let her pick. I don’t care if she matches or not. I only make available for picking appropriate clothes (i.e., only long pants and long sleeve shirts are in the drawers right now because it’s still freezing here!). She often fights putting on her coat, but unless it’s raining/snowing, I let her waltz her butt out into the cold, and viola! 2 seconds later, she “decides herself” to put on her coat. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129366 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 11:53:37 +0000 autumnlove 2129366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually give in. Right now it isn't bad because she likes dresses but her outfits during the winter were kinda weird... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129319 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 11:24:39 +0000 erinpye 2129319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest has been picking most of her outfits for a long time now. I don't care. If it's something that really looks crazy, I'll suggest something else, but if she balks, I don't sweat it. She recently refused to wear much other than footed PJs, night and day, often with a tutu, for about a month. Oh well. They're only kids once! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129310 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 11:20:00 +0000 sarac 2129310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never fight, why bother? Clothing not suited to the weather is put away. I will insist on tights under shorts when it's cold out. If she doesn't want to put her jacket on, we go outside, she gets cold, and puts it on. Besides that, never.</p> <p>ETA: I am for sure not concerned with if she matches, if her colors work together, etc. Not for a second. Life is way too short to power struggle with my 3 year old about the clothing she chooses. I also don't care for the message that sends - that my ideas about beauty and fashion are more important than hers. No way. She can decide those things for herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129260 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 10:47:32 +0000 hilsy85 2129260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: I totally bribe for special occasions!! An m&amp;m or extra video on my phone works wonders. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129170 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 10:00:54 +0000 Mamasig 2129170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on what it is and how hard he is fighting it. The other day he wanted to wear a paw patrol shirt with his shorts instead of the gray t shirt I picked out, which would have coordinated with his brother. Not a big deal, so I gave in. Other times, I have to distract him so he doesn't notice. He tends to get picky with shoes. </p> <p>In your case, as long as it was weather appropriate, I'd likely just give in. There aren't too many battles I feel like I must fight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129168 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:57:38 +0000 NovBaby1112 2129168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I give in if its just going to daycare or somewhere not dressy. She's worn her PJs to daycare before bc she refused to take them off! It's just not worth the fight to me. For dressier occasions it harder, but we mainly get comfy dressy clothes and bribing usually works well :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129166 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:56:18 +0000 Freckles 2129166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Shit hit the fan this morning because DD didn't want to wear her winter jacket this morning. It was cold, windy and snowing and she had gotten used to rain boots and a windbreaker. She would agree to wear something then start reaching for her preferred jacket. It was a bad morning. I find that the "choice between 2" works better when they are younger, not as much when they start approaching 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129163 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:53:48 +0000 babynumber1 2129163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Unless it is inappropriate (weather, too dressy for daycare, etc) I give in. She may have worn the same shirt 2 days in a row to daycare a few weeks ago. :meh: Its not worth ruining my morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129146 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:36:40 +0000 .twist. 2129146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I saw on pinterest a mini dresser (one of those plastic ones with like 5 drawers?) and the mom made outfits and put one in each drawer, and then the daughter/son could pick whichever drawer they wanted with whatever outfit was inside. Would something like that work? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129144 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:34:55 +0000 cascademom 2129144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I just hunted down long sleeve t-shirts for him the other day. I might have missed the season on them. Where we live, the long sleeve tees are good for spring. It was quite the hunt. There's cute stuff for boys, but my temptation level is a lot lower when I get a bunch of basics and some cute graphic shirts for him. Shopping for boys is so easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129131 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:28:42 +0000 prettylizy 2129131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have sort of a fluid situation going. On some things (special occasions, family pictures etc) it's non-negotiable. For those instances we do a lot of prep work (You get to wear your special *whatever* for *event* isn't that exciting?). For daycare we try to pick out her outfit before bed at night when she is in a better mood and doesn't need to be rushed out the door. Morning meltdowns are the worst! I pretty much let her pick what she's going to wear and if it isn't warm/cool enough we add/subtract layers accordingly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129129 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:28:26 +0000 Mrsjets 2129129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so dreading this! J is almost 3 and dosent care at all what he wears, ever. Maybe it's more a girl thing? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129123 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:26:10 +0000 looch 2129123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: yep! and you know what, it also helps the budget too, because I am not tempted and shopping isn't fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129121 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:25:12 +0000 cascademom 2129121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I keep my LO's clothes simple too. Button downs are for special occasions only. I stick to sweatpants even because I know that he's comfortable. When he wants to wear jeans, we'll do jeans. Otherwise, he's so much easier to dress in the mornings with knit thermals and sweatpants or tee shirt and when it's warmer, shorts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129117 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:21:27 +0000 looch 2129117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is why I don't buy any kind of special occasion clothing or anything that's complicated...I'd love to dress my son in button down shirts, but he doesn't like them. I totally get not wanting to wear certain things, so I stick to things I know he'll wear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fight-or-give-in#post-2129116 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 09:20:50 +0000 Mommy Finger 2129116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's supposed to be in the high 60's today and DS still insists on wearing his winter coat and hat. He'll be hot when they play outside at school but the battle isn't worth it to me. He often still requires that he wears his winter boots when we go to the park. Again, almost 70 degrees. Sigh. </p>