https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 15:20:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2352057 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 10:02:28 +0000 mrsrain 2352057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TemperanceBrennan: I agree with this. If it bothers you/him that much, then it sounds worthwhile to correct him. If he gets corrected often enough he should learn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2352035 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:53:04 +0000 Alivoo01 2352035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With Asian parents/older generations, they butcher the crap out of names, even simple ones sometimes. That's why we all ask both sides to pronounce the following names to see if they pronounce it right or not. If not, we pick a different name because that would drive me crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2352020 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:47:14 +0000 looch 2352020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom does this, it doesn't matter your relation, unless your name is one syllable, she butchers it. It's hilarious because she even gets my name wrong sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351997 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:37:08 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 2351997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DH should talk to him the next time he mispronounces it. Say, "I know you probably don't realize it but sometimes you pronounce Callum's name incorrectly" and then give him a way to remember - "It might help if you think 'My PAL Callum". The first half rhymes with pal.<br /> And then continue to correct him every time. I would think he would get it eventually - and I don't think there is anything wrong with correcting him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351949 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:23:44 +0000 windswept 2351949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would drive me nuts. Are you ever planning to use the nickname Cal? Maybe using it now, even a few times, will help him realize how the first syllable is pronounced. Then maybe he'll remember even if you end up using the full name most or all of the time in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351941 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:21:30 +0000 MrsBucky 2351941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I empathize. I didn't think about the fact that there are two legit pronunciations of it when we picked my son's name. To me, it was *obvious* which was the "correct" pronunciation. However, my mom was saying his name wrong for a week until she finally heard me say it (I had called to let her know he was born, but hadn't picked a name, and sent the name via text... stupid me). Now people mispronouncing it bothers me less than it did early on, though close family would probably drive me nuts too. I handle it the same way your DH does. I just use his name often pronouncing it the way I prefer. Even if the other person doesn't get it, at least my kid will learn the "right" way to say his name, haha!</p> <p>ETA: I should also mention that most of *my* aunts/uncles (who we only see maybe once every two years) still totally stumble over how to pronounce his name. sigh.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351922 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:13:09 +0000 blackbird 2351922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every time my mom calls T "Taylor", I correct her very pointedly. There is no exdcuse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351921 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:12:38 +0000 BandDmommy 2351921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: Same here, my grandma never said my name right. It didn't bother me at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351917 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:11:55 +0000 BandDmommy 2351917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me. Family members have butchered my name my entire life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351914 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:11:15 +0000 nana87 2351914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandmother called me Ann rather than Anna (my name) until she passed away, completely willfully (she knew my name was Anna but preferred Ann because that was her mother's name...). It must have driven my parents crazy at first. But it never really phased me--by the time I was old enough to pick up on it myself, I knew it was just one of her quirks. I also had a ballet teacher for 8 years (ages 4-12) who called used the European pronounciation of my name (Ahhh-na rather than Ann-ah, if that makes sense). There just are some names that have multiple pronunciations and lo will learn to deal. I think Callum is like Cara/Kara where the A could either be like car or care, and lo will just get used to having to correct people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351910 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 09:09:14 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2351910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would drive me insane.</p> <p>FIL's caregiver calls DD2 Molly. Her name is Camilla. Don't even get me started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351826 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 08:10:49 +0000 travelgirl1 2351826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few people have been mispronouncing our baby's name. In a way I honestly never envisaged happening. But I find that even when they know the correct way, they keep doing it, because I think the way they originally thought is burned in their brain or something and it just sounds more natural to them that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351818 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 08:00:01 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2351818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think some people can't hear they are doing it wrong. Mil said DSs name wrong for a bit (so so annoying. She told everyone it was the wrong name.). DHs grandma still says it wrong and it's like she has no idea she is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351788 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 05:28:21 +0000 bloved 2351788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandmother has spelt my (step)sister's name wrong for over the last 25 years! Honestly she has been my sister since we've been 7 so there is no excuse why and it is not that hard a name! It used to drive my mom crazy, but at this point we just laugh about it. I could definitely see where it would be worse with pronunciation though, just because you have to deal with it so often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351760 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 01:10:38 +0000 lamariniere 2351760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad pronounced my son's name wrong for the first two years. I would correct him every time. My son's name is not difficult at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351745 Wed, 11 Nov 2015 00:14:11 +0000 hotpink 2351745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad say my name funny when he slips into his accent. Um, he named me! Is it possible FIL is getting older and having trouble remembering or pronouncing it correctly? Have you asked MIL about what she thinks is going on? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351644 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 21:42:06 +0000 Mrsk 2351644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HappyBaker: I can see how that would be hard, and I can see that maybe FIL is struggling the same way, but like you said, for a grandkid.... The saddest part is, it's really bugging DH, he's been in a funk all night since he talked to his parents on the phone. He said he feels pretty crappy that his father can't learn our sons name. DS doesn't know the difference right now, it's so hard to see DH hurt about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351626 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 21:21:37 +0000 HappyBaker 2351626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsk: This would drive me crazy, but I'll admit I had a mental block about a close friend's baby's name. I think the issue is that in his head the way it's spelled and the way HE is saying it is phonetically correct to him. </p> <p>My friend's baby's name was Rita and I called her "Ree-ta" because to me that is how it looks like it should be pronounced. Friend pronounced it "Rit-a" where Rit rhymes with fit. Even though I KNEW this I had the hardest the time correcting myself to say it right, because I would mentally picture the name and just sound it out. </p> <p>BUT if it were my own grandkid I'd hope I'd practice more and just get it right!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351611 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 21:11:27 +0000 Mrsk 2351611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see that maybe it wasn't as clear a name as I thought, but that still doesn't explain how after 4 months he hasn't figured it out. He doesn't have an accent, part of my wonders if he's just doing it to be an arse to me, but then he says it to DH when I'm not around, so hopefully not. We don't have the best relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351595 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 21:03:50 +0000 Mrs. D 2351595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Short a Callum, like in California is what I think most people expect to hear. English language spelling rules would suggest it's said this way.</p> <p>Long a Callum, like Kale, almost sounds like it's spoken with a southern accent.</p> <p>He's definitely using phonics.</p> <p>My FIL insisted on calling our daughter Helen Kay for her entire first year. NO one else uses her middle name. He's since dropped it. Not because I protested to him though. But I wanted to. I knew it would just start an arguement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351593 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 21:01:30 +0000 Greentea 2351593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought it was Cay-lum. Maybe FIL just gets confused, or heard it the other way prior so it is more familiar. Does he have an accent? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351591 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:59:20 +0000 fancyfunction 2351591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsk: I think it was only after a few weeks - she took it fine. I think she couldn't hear/get the difference between lay and lee but it was making me crazy!! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351588 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:58:22 +0000 Mrsk 2351588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: right? How can he not notice we (and everyone else in the family) is saying it differently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351585 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:56:54 +0000 Mrsk 2351585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fancyfunction: how did you mil take being told she was mispronuncing it? How long has she been saying it wrong? It seems really awkward now that it's been so long.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351584 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:56:07 +0000 Mrsk 2351584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: @MoonMoon: we pronounce it like cal (California) - um.<br /> DH corrected him during the first few days when we talked to him on the phone, but now it's weird.<br /> DH usually will say "Callum (and put emphasis on it) is doing well, Callum (more emphasis) is yadda yadda yadda..." </p> <p>Do you really think he can't hear the difference between Cay and cal?? Maybe, I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351553 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:31:07 +0000 fancyfunction 2351553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL did that and it was infuriating me, especially since she would hear us pronounce it. I had my husband correct her - I felt it would be taken better than coming from me. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351543 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:23:29 +0000 MoonMoon 2351543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How is the name supposed to be pronounced? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351535 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:13:11 +0000 gingerbebe 2351535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsk: When I saw it I read it as Cal (like California) - Um. So maybe it's just phonetic to him in his brain? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351534 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:13:09 +0000 Truth Bombs 2351534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend who named her son this (she is Irish and her husband is Scottish) and they pronounce it Cal-um so I would probably mess this up too. But your FIL should have learned by now! That's frustrating. I'm not sure how you really address this since I can't imagine he doesn't notice that you are saying it smdifferently than he does..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fil-keeps-mispronouncing-los-name-argh#post-2351532 Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:12:14 +0000 Synchronicity 2351532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So weird! That would drive me nuts. Has anyone outright corrected him? </p>