https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 01:44:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2325096 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 20:20:34 +0000 Corduroy 2325096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: Thanks, I did consider that. I'm past FMLA but this would extend beyond the California protected leave as well. Not that I think they would fire me for one day. </p> <p>I just checked my work calendar and my boss filled in my afternoon with a request for assistance since I last checked on Friday. So looks like I'm going in.</p> <p>I'm planning to pack several 2oz bottles (and ear plugs) for my parents and hope for the best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2325093 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 20:14:48 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2325093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly at this point (it's past 6pm on Sunday) I would just go to work, but it depends on how your relationship with your employer is imo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324985 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 18:24:55 +0000 SweetCaroline 2324985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is this going to drive you nuts all day on your first day back? I think the first day back is hard enough. I would call your employer and be honest about the fact that you were really undecided and that it would probably be best if you just went to this funeral. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324981 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 18:20:28 +0000 MamaCate 2324981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: you might want to check if you actually have the option with work? I just came back from leave with #2 and I took the full 12 weeks under FMLA. My paperwork clearly stated that if I was not back at work the first day after that time, then I no longer had protection of FMLA and my employer would not have to keep my job for me. I am hoping you already made sure this was an option but I wanted to chime in just in case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324965 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 17:48:28 +0000 Mrs. Peanut 2324965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would take the extra day but be sure to tell your employer it's because of this funeral. That way you don't seem flakey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324936 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:48:19 +0000 birdofafeather 2324936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: I would take an extra day for the funeral. It's legit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324934 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:39:42 +0000 Corduroy 2324934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I do want to go to the funeral. I knew about it on Friday but I talked myself out of going. My mom was being so insistent that they could handle it I was feeling like she deserved whatever she gets. But that's not exactly a great strategy for parenting or a caregiver relationship and I don't feel good about that today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324928 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:25:23 +0000 looch 2324928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd take the extra day, but this is me speaking from the point of having been with this company for a bazillion years. They'd insist if they knew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324924 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:22:03 +0000 regberadaisy 2324924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your first day is tomorrow, I would not be telling them today that you will start Tuesday instead. I think that's starting off on the wrong foot. If you *wanted* to go to the funeral then that's a different story. But I assume you probably knew about the funeral for a few days already?</p> <p>They will be fine. Everyone will survive, even if LO screams in the car continuously, for an hour straight. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324923 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:21:14 +0000 Torchwood 2324923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely take the extra day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-day-back-at-work-not-confident-my-parents-can-handle-day-one-on-the-go#post-2324915 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:00:24 +0000 Corduroy 2324915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tomorrow is my first day back at work with LO2. My parents came to stay for two weeks to watch baby before he starts daycare. Tomorrow happens to be my mom's uncle's funeral. So my parents plan to take LO to the funeral an hour away, midday. Ambitious since LO hates the car and only naps when nursing or walking. I'm also not sure LO will take the bottle.</p> <p>I think this sounds like an incredibly stressful day for my parents and LO. I'm debating taking LO to the funeral myself and telling work I'll start Tuesday. I would attend the funeral without question if it weren't for LO and it was a normal work day. My parents are insisting I go to work and that they'll be fine.</p> <p>Am I stalling? Does it sound like they'll be fine? I am kind of bummed that LO would meet my extended family without me. And generally bummed to be going back to work so I might not be weighing my options fairly. </p>