https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 05:14:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away/page/2#post-2716012 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 19:17:07 +0000 MrsADS 2716012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I spent 1 night away when he was 12 months to see a friend a few hours away. Did the same thing when he was 17 months (he's 19 months now). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away/page/2#post-2716005 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 19:05:33 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2716005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cookiemomster: I don't think that makes you a bad mom at all! Overnights or not it is about balance. I spent probably a total of 1.5/2 weeks away from lo1 in her first year but the rest of the time I was with her. I spend a chunk of time every month away from the kids but the rest of he time we are together. It's whatever makes your family happy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away/page/2#post-2715946 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 15:48:42 +0000 birdofafeather 2715946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hm, maybe 5/6 months with DD1 and 4 months with DD2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away/page/2#post-2715934 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 15:27:59 +0000 bubblegum 2715934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far never! I'll be having baby number 2 next month and I am dyingggg knowing I'll be away from him. He'll be with DH but it's not the same lol I always said other than having another child, I will not sleep away from my babe until he asks to sleep over other people's houses and must only be family members until he's older! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away/page/2#post-2715914 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 14:58:34 +0000 psw27 2715914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went away for a night when he was about 5 months old. DH and I went to a wedding for 5 nights when he was 9 months old. It was amazing. I missed him but I loved getting away! We have left him numerous times with his grandparents in the last 2 years, it is good for him and good for our marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away/page/2#post-2715902 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 14:41:38 +0000 Jennibenni 2715902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cookiemomster: Don't feel like a bad mom! I think it's great she gets to have a close grandparent relationship, such fun memories for her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away/page/2#post-2715898 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 14:33:00 +0000 cookiemomster 2715898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Starting to feel like a bad mom. Our first overnight away was at 10 weeks- we had a wedding a few states away and she stayed with my inlaws for two days/one night. Over the last 2yrs 8 months we've taken probably four or five trips of different lengths that have involved her staying with them overnight, and they're about to take her for two weeks to visit family while we make adjustments to the house before baby 2 comes in June. It's going to be the longest by far we've been apart and it will be so so hard but I'm happy she has a good enough relationship with her grandparents that it's possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715892 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 14:12:30 +0000 IRunForFun 2715892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are thinking ahead about an overnight trip for our anniversary when DD will be 8 months. I keep trying to figure out if that's too young! She'd be with grandparents and only for 1 night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715890 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 14:09:57 +0000 bushelandapeck 2715890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was 2. We went away for two nights right before I had my DD. We don't have family so we left him with our nanny. I was nervous but he did great and it helped for when I was away two nights after DD was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715868 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 13:22:36 +0000 alphagam84 2715868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One night at 8 months with my sister in our house to celebrate our anniversary. We were only 20 mins away so super close if anything came up and we were back the next morning. My sister works at a posh hotel and got us a great rate for a fancy room ;) In June when Emma is 19 months my parents are coming to watch her for an entire week while we go on a big anniversary trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715840 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 12:46:26 +0000 lioneyes 2715840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Spent a night away when he was 9 months, then did a 4 night trip when he was 13 months and again at 28 months.</p> <p>He does not like sleeping anywhere that isn't his crib at home (it takes him like 2-3 nights to acclimate), so unless my parents stay here, we can't really leave him overnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715831 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 12:28:36 +0000 kayla0416 2715831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: agreed - I was about the latest of my friends at 8 months. Most people I know in real life leave kid with a grandparent about 1 weekend a month starting early, like 3-4 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715825 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 12:18:18 +0000 Jennibenni 2715825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: Yep, it seems like most people I know in rea life leave small babies overnight with grandparents all the time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715805 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 11:35:42 +0000 Trailmix 2715805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very surprised by the answers here, not the norm in my parent circle! My first night away was when they were 10 months, for work, and thats probably the latest of my IRL parent friends. Have done it 2-3x a year since! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715761 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 10:24:12 +0000 Portboston 2715761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At about 15 months I went on a girls weekend 2 hours away by plane. DS stayed with DH. It was great. Gave me time to recharge and gave them some bonding time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715752 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 10:10:56 +0000 catomd00 2715752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>15 months just me, 16 months both of us (for 1 night), 26 months for 2 nights. Next month we will be away for 4 nights (my girls are 3 and 10 months). It's the first time leaving the baby overnight and I am super excited! Feel a little bad for my inlaws, but mama deserves a break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715743 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 09:59:38 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2715743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MissLace: I have two and I would do it for a future baby! I so agree about them being too small to miss you. I have a MUCH more difficult time leaving them now, but for the work stuff it is getting to be routine. But if it were say both dh and I leaving at the same time it would be tough when they're old enough to miss us and really feel the disruption! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715658 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 08:42:13 +0000 MissLace 2715658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i feel like this makes me sound bad, but when my daughter was 6 weeks old (half way through my maternity leave) my work offered all employees plus a guest an all expenses paid long weekend in Disney (including flights, hotels, food, alcohol), so we HAD to take advantage of that! my sister watched my daughter for 2 nights and everything went perfectly. I also ended up watching her son for a long weekend when they went away for a wedding when he was also around 6 weeks old. people thought we were crazy, and i still had to pump every few hours, but at that point they're too little to actually miss you or throw tantrums. as long as they're fed, safe &amp; happy, they're fine : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715618 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 07:58:39 +0000 kayla0416 2715618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I did a weekend away with friends when she was 8 months. She stayed with my parents. She's 11 months now and I have a work trip next week where I'll be gone for 4 days and I'm really not looking forward to it. :( She'll be with DH though, so that's better. He travels for work a lot, so he was gone overnight the first time when she was just 10 days old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715598 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 07:32:41 +0000 Banana330 2715598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has taken DD (23months) for 24hrs twice in the last few months. It's amazing. She sleeps over at grandmas in a travel crib and we get to sleep in (although we've done it generally to paint or work on stuff around the house). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715597 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 07:30:50 +0000 skinnycow 2715597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a work trip (2 nights away) when DD was 10 months. She's a little over 1 now and I've since had two more trips. She's been with DH for all three though, so no overnights without a parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715579 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 06:02:32 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2715579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When LO was 4.5/ 5 weeks old I spent two nights away. I drove to our new house to drop off one car and meet/ unload the moving truck. Then flew back to our old house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715573 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 05:26:58 +0000 brownepiano 2715573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS 1: 18 months for an out of town wedding. He stayed with the inlaws. Since then he stays at their house for one or two nights about once a month. It's been great for his relationship with them. </p> <p>DS 2 is going to stay when he is 12 months for our anniversary trip. I can't wait! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715560 Fri, 24 Mar 2017 00:06:44 +0000 LindsayLou 2715560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daughter spent the night at Lyon law's house at 12 months. My 11 year old stepson went as well, so she had a buddy. We just stayed home and relaxed, and we were away from her for about 20 hours total. I did not enjoy it. </p> <p>We went away for 2 nights when she was 15 months, and she stayed with my parents. It was great to get away and have some time just the two of us. I felt much more ready that time. She also does way better with my parents and had a great time. We just went away for another weekend and she stayed with them again, at 18 months. Another positive experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715555 Thu, 23 Mar 2017 23:58:51 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2715555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: lo 1: less than 2 months, for a night. Had to do with PPD/PPA. Worst day ever.</p> <p>Lo2: 14 months, for work, which is a regular thing now and I miss them a ton when gone but SAH a lot of the month too so it's ok. Plus dh regularly handling the kids on his own (from woh ft to part time with trips) has helped him have a great relationship with the kids and less mommy preference with lo2. </p> <p>I say go for it! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715552 Thu, 23 Mar 2017 23:33:32 +0000 bhbee 2715552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did it twice when she was two. Once, we were moving cross country. I flew with her to my mom's and after a week or so left her there while I flew to new home to get things ready. She flew in with my mom 2-3 days later. It was nerve wracking for me, especially knowing she had to drive/fly with someone else too, but all the crazy move stuff kept my mind busy. And she did great, only stress was with me. Second time we did a staycation in town later that year for Or anniversary, again my mom was there. That time we were gone all weekend but only 25 min away and she was at our home so much less to worry about. </p> <p>DH has been away from them a ton as he travels for work some, and since I also take the kids to visit my mom by myself at times. </p> <p>I think it would actually be much harder now as she's started to completely freak out when I leave for anything (I sah now and didn't then, could be a factor). I try not to tell her I'm leaving in advance but it may get ugly when #3 comes later this year. </p> <p>The hardest thing I did in this area was end up in the hospital for 4 days when #2 was 5 months old. Being away from both (they did come to see me once or twice but it was confusing for them) made me so sad but I also had a baby who wouldn't take formula and I had little supply due to illness and little freezer stash. I was so happy to come home!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715551 Thu, 23 Mar 2017 23:22:51 +0000 maddyz 2715551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 nights when LO1 was 17 months or so. I am currently away with LO2 for whats about to turn into 7 or 8 days. It's too long, but it is what it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715542 Thu, 23 Mar 2017 22:50:02 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2715542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>17 months. :) I'm on night two of a girls trip. I go home tomorrow. DH has been away twice. Once when she was 8 months and once when she was 10 months. And I've took DD to visit my mom for a couple nights when she was 11 months without him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715539 Thu, 23 Mar 2017 22:31:42 +0000 KT326 2715539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS1 was almost 5 months old and we went to a wedding an hour away and stayed the night. My mom babysat at our house. After he turned one he would go stay at grandmas house for a few days every few months. </p> <p>DS2 is three months old and I haven't been away from him yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-overnight-away#post-2715517 Thu, 23 Mar 2017 21:43:09 +0000 Purpledaisy 2715517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>13 months for LO1. We went away for one night for DH's 30th bday. Now she's 4 and spends the night at my dads or grandmas house multiple times a month. </p> <p>LO2 is 9.5 months and I haven't been away for more than 4-5 hours. I don't have enough pumped milk to be gone long and he's really needy anyways. </p>