https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 09 Jun 2026 12:29:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-796582 Mon, 20 May 2013 19:44:01 +0000 BrentLee88 796582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: thanks for all information and advise, makes me feel a lot better knowing someone else had gone through the same thing, hopefully the wacky periods are just stress like yours was and nothing serious, i will deff feel much better after i figure out whats going on :) and good luck on your second child! :) its a blessing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-796235 Mon, 20 May 2013 16:00:13 +0000 Raindrop 796235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 65 lbs over where I "should" be (obese) when I had my first baby. I'm pretty short so I haven't gotten into the plus size clothing range yet but I think I definitely would be plus size if I was taller. :) </p> <p>I didn't have any conceiving issues, we were very lucky I think we conceived our first month of trying. When I went in for my first appointments, I saw many OBGYNs because my regular OB was on a leave of absence. My regular OB was not coming back so I was assigned another OB at 4 months in. No one ever mentioned to me anything about my weight.</p> <p>But I actually lost 20 lbs because of my LO. 10 lbs during pregnancy and 10 lbs after giving birth.</p> <p>My doctor never says anything about my weight. She just says that I should try to walk more. </p> <p>My last routine appointment (a month ago) I asked about trying for another one (still 45 lbs overweight) and she told me that the best way to do that was to track my period and good luck! Haha. She did not mention anything about losing weight at all.</p> <p>-----------------------------------------------</p> <p>I also wanted to comment about the "wacky" periods. I always had super normal periods, they came like clockwork since I was a teenager. </p> <p>One time in my life about 4 years ago they got super wacky, they didn't come on time, and when they did come they were shorter or longer than normal. Also for two months in a row it didn't come at all! I knew I wasn't pregnant but it was weird. I made an appointment with my OB to get checked out.</p> <p>Everything was fine technically - also not pregnant. My OB asked about my life in general and asked if I happened to be stressed out? I thought about it and I just talked about my life, I was juggling full time work, part time masters program, planning a wedding and buying a house. I didn't even know how stressed out I was till that very moment. She told me to relax and I did and my period went back to normal and has been normal since.</p> <p>-----------------------------------------------</p> <p>Not sure if any of this info is useful to you, but hopefully it helps. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795842 Mon, 20 May 2013 14:06:51 +0000 BrentLee88 795842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: yes i guess everyone women is different that would be hard!, and the getting sick part without eating would stink!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795833 Mon, 20 May 2013 14:05:34 +0000 BrentLee88 795833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: well i am sure i will be getting one since i am almost 25 and this sis my first..... opppsss.. i feel horrible for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795825 Mon, 20 May 2013 14:03:59 +0000 BrentLee88 795825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: OMG that first Ob sounded horrible i would have hated that!, but im so glad your found a much nicer one and thanks for the advice! i really hope my ob is nice as well and i dont have problems with her, but like you said if i don't like much i can always find a new one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795812 Mon, 20 May 2013 14:00:40 +0000 BrentLee88 795812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: thanks a bunch! yeah its hard for some people to understand the anxiety issue but man does it suck!, im glad you got your teeth work done and congrats on being pregnant i am sure it will all go well, it helps that your comfortable with that doctor as well, now lets hope mine is just as awesome! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795798 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:58:17 +0000 BrentLee88 795798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yeah some of my friends that were over weiht and preggers lost alot of weight while pregnant from getting sick, hopefully i have that instead but deff what a healthy baby :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795789 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:56:35 +0000 BrentLee88 795789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: i will have to try that out i need something to get me through the doctors... lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795646 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:12:10 +0000 heffalump 795646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrentLee88: Everybody is different.... but it was very hard for me! I craved peanut butter milkshakes all the time. And in my first trimester especially everything made me want to puke except carbs. And I had to constantly eat because an empty tummy made me nauseous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795553 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:41:50 +0000 googly-eyes 795553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNYC: I definitely got a little lecture about how I should have gone earlier when I went for the first time at 19..oops! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795433 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:07:28 +0000 Mrs. Train 795433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although I had been going regularly since 18 I did switch doctors during a move and went to an OB for irregular cycles and we had ben TTC for 9 months. She looked at me said I was way to over weight to get pregnant and that even if. Could get pregnant I would be so high risk it would be a horrible idea. I had no exam no blood text, nothing, she just said loose weight and. Could get pregnant. I was mortified and I cried in my car. I also never went back to her. I found a different OB who did say that my weight could be involved and it sounded like I might have PCOS. She did say that loosing some weight and cutting way back in carbs could help with the insulin resistance that is involved in PCOS and she referred me to an RE to start treatments. </p> <p>I think that first OB was terribly unprofessional and it highly unusual but it does happen. Just know that if you are uncomfortable or don't like the person you have a choice to see some one else. </p> <p>Your first Pap smear is a bit awkward just because you might not know what to expect but really they are not tha bad (and if you get pregnant you will get used to all kinds of shenanigans going on down there so it's just a good prep for that) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795392 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:51:57 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 795392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrentLee88: I totally get where you're coming from with the anxiety. It took me getting a horrible toothache (that resulted in that tooth having to be pulled because it got so bad) to get me to go to the dentist. I finally just finished having all this work done and I was so nervous for every visit, but I really felt much better afterwards! </p> <p>I actually just got pregnant (like, found out last week, haha) and I'm sure I'll be nervous for my first appointment. Not just for being overweight, but also just in general. The reason I love my doctor so much is that he makes me comfortable and I forget my worries as soon as I'm back in the room! It's really important to find someone who you are comfortable with, which really helps me with my anxiety. I really wish you the best of luck and I'm glad you made the appointment; that's the hardest step for me! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795085 Mon, 20 May 2013 10:19:36 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 795085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ob gyn did. She told me to start working towards a 40lb weight loss, but said if I conceived at the weight I was that would be okay. I'm 5'2 and started at 170. She also said many overweight mamas to be shed pounds when they become pregnant as they get healthy for the sake of their baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size/page/2#post-795079 Mon, 20 May 2013 10:18:00 +0000 yoursilverlining 795079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrentLee88: If you have anxiety that bad for doctor's visits you can ask for a shortterm Rx for an anti-anxiety that you would only take when you need to go see a doctor. One of my good friends is petrified of the dentist, so she takes an anti-anxiety beforehand and is fine. Better option than not going, or suffering while you are there :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-795027 Mon, 20 May 2013 10:00:29 +0000 BrentLee88 795027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: okay thanks! glad im not the only one, just happy i finally made an appointment! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794842 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:54:41 +0000 BrentLee88 794842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Well i always had normal periods, i just noticed recently the last 3 months they have been wacky, that's what made me make this appointment and i wanted to make sure i am okay to carry a baby, even though i should have made the appointment earlier .... but at least i did now thank god.. lol, yeah that is true about the ovarian,uterine or cervical cancer, well lets hope i don't have any of those!!! like i said since i made an appointment now i am going to keep going in as much as they need me to for checkups. I have really bad Anxiety going to any doctors! its a big thing i start shaking in waiting room and stuttering. i am horrible it even took me forever to make a dentist appointment i went when i was a child but after 10 years i finally went and got everything done, so with me making this appointment to go to a OBGYN is a big step for me. dang Anxiety issues! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794819 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:49:25 +0000 BrentLee88 794819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNYC: yes that is very true, I am deff sticking to going yearly now just to make sure everything is fine with my health! i should have way sooner now i regret it but at least i have the guts to go now, lol even though its a lil late but at least i decided to get it done i guess lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794811 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:46:56 +0000 2PeasinaPod 794811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrentLee88: Your irregular cycles would have been a trigger for me to head to the OBGYN. You just don't know why they're irregular, and you're better safe than sorry to get that checked out. And @kjpugs: is right...you don't have to have sex to develop ovarian, uterine or cervical cancer. Getting regular check-ups can help detect anything like that early enough so that you can take care of it if you need to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794790 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:41:03 +0000 LindsayInNY 794790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrentLee88: But, in theory, you have also slept with anyone else your husband slept with before you! And either of you can contract things without having actual intercourse. But, again, like everyone said after me, it's a good idea to go regularly for general health purposes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794782 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:34:49 +0000 BrentLee88 794782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I heard they check the breast and such as well, i have had a mammogram before due to a hard lump in my breast but it was just a caffeine cyst, so the breast part should be easier for me to be honest since i know what is going to happen, i will deff get one yearly for now on :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794771 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:31:23 +0000 BrentLee88 794771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kjpugs: yes i guess you do never know, all that is very true, i am going to ask as many questions as i can lol , and talk to her about my irregular cycles as well, hopefully if all is well wonder if she could give me a precise time to when i ovulate every month </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794766 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:27:17 +0000 regberadaisy 794766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, seeing an OB is not just for getting pregnant! They check for lots of of other things too. Breast cancer, make sure your lady parts are working, general women's health. It's a good idea to get one yearly.</p> <p>I've only ever been with my husband and go yearly still since I was 18. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794765 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:25:51 +0000 kjpugs 794765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrentLee88: It could go really quick to get pregnant too, you never know! It's just nice to know if you have issues that might impact your pregnancy. It'll be good to discuss your cycles, any pain or issues- lots of things besides STD's, like cysts, or abnomal cycles, or missing cycles, any abnormal pap results (you don't have to sleep around to get cervical cancer) or even just bad menstrual pain- all good things to be discussed/figured out. And then they can give you a good POA for TTC, and help you focus on what you need to. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794753 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:19:53 +0000 BrentLee88 794753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kjpugs: okay thank you for the advice, i will always keep making my yearly check ups now, yeah i am 24 almost 25 so im sure it will take a lil bit to get preggers but like you said i have to see if there is anything wrong first "crosses fingers there isnt" but i guess timing will tell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794742 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:14:37 +0000 BrentLee88 794742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNYC: Sorry i so didn't mean it that way, :( i meant that's my way of thinking like well if i haven't slept with anyone but my husband then i should be alright, even though that isnt safe to think i still should have made an appointment a lot sooner, i guess when u are scared of doctors really bad like i am u will think of any way to stop from going, like you said its not all about the sex when you go just to make sure everything is working good, I am sure it wont be as bad as i think it may be, i tend to over think things to much lol, at least i will know what it going on though, sorry again i should have used different words or not have said that at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794720 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:04:49 +0000 kjpugs 794720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @LindsayInNYC I had the same thoughts/concerns. I went to the gyno first at 17 or 18 and have gone at least yearly since. They may want you to hold on TTC until they are sure you are healthy- there are many gynocological issues that could arise that aren't STDs. From here out you should definitely go at least annually for your pap to make sure it's normal and stay in front of your health. Regarding weight/fertility- I was diagnosed at 18 (at my OBGYN) with PCOS, which stemmed from months of checks after concerns with my weight. (I was not very overweight then but carried my weight mostly in my stomach, and had a few other PCOS symptoms.) When you mention "testing fertility" though, really there's not a fertility test you can take. What's probably going to happen is they'll check to make sure you're healthy, and then see how long TTC takes for you. Then after probably a year (due to your age- I'm assuming 20s?) they'll try some tests/treatments. It's kind of a hit or miss game with treating/testing fertility so that's why checkups are important- they help show if you have anything wrong that could impact your fertility.</p> <p>The OB is always a little weird at first but after your appointment you'll be a pro! Keep it up- going for your annual checkups will keep you happier and healthier and on your way to starting your family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794710 Mon, 20 May 2013 07:57:23 +0000 LindsayInNY 794710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrentLee88: "i wasn't one of the kids that had sex with everyone" &lt;-- That has nothing to do with it (and honestly is kinda offensive!). Generally, it's recommended that you start going either once you have sex or when you turn 18 (some say 21). Obviously the sex part is to ensure you don't contract anything but otherwise, it's to make sure your body is working properly - everything looks and work normal, etc. I promise you, it won't be as bad as you think it will be! It's not fun, by any means, but it's not terrible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794689 Mon, 20 May 2013 07:45:51 +0000 BrentLee88 794689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNYC: yeah i was afraid of that as well, idk why it took me so long to make an appointment with one, guess i was always to scared too :( plus not only that i wasn't one of the kids that had sex with eveyone..... only my husband to be honest, but i still should have gone soon :/ guess the though of someone looking down there scares me :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794686 Mon, 20 May 2013 07:41:09 +0000 BrentLee88 794686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: okay well i guess i will do that as well when i get preggers, of course i have to see what they say but im sure i will be alright!, just hope she is nice and not to straight forward .. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/first-visit-to-obgyn-and-plus-size#post-794683 Mon, 20 May 2013 07:40:02 +0000 LindsayInNY 794683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with a lot of the above commenters when it comes to whether she will/won't mention weight.</p> <p>However, she MAY comment on the fact you've never been to the gyno before... That may complicate things because you haven't had any standard preventative care (pap spears, pelvic exam, etc.) </p>