https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 06:12:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-68662 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 01:33:12 +0000 Boogs 68662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel ya! DH works 24 hour shifts so some days are reaaaally long and rough, lol. Other days are luckily better, though. Whenever he has other stuff going on I really dread it because 24 hours easily turns into 36 alone hours. Like a couple weeks ago he worked 3 out of 5 weekdays on top of having a class all week and a sporting event one night. It was quite the hellish week and it gave me a new appreciation for single parents. They deserve more than gold medals...platinum encrusted with diamonds! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-68654 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:56:56 +0000 SAHM0811 68654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM mom of 2 LO's (4yo and 7 months) with a hubby who works a lot... So I do mostly everything for the kids and house with hardly a break because I don't have family nearby either. It's really, really tough and we actually are moving in a few months to be closer to family. Hopefully hubby will have better hours in our new city too. Flying solo sucks no matter your situation, but I do think I've just gotten used to it more and more over time. Still sucks though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-68605 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 22:00:37 +0000 sulli301 68605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: Aww! It sounds like you are doing a great job!! You aren't alone!! DH left today for just a night but @ the end of the month he will be gone a full week. It's HARD to do it all alone. I always look so forward to him coming home so that I can get a mini break, even though a lot of times he comes home after DD goes to bed. DD has been waking up with teething pain lately &amp; he gets up with her a lot. Hang in there :) :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-68593 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:55:07 +0000 chopsuey 68593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: aw great job mama! I think it's def harder taking care of a toddler alone. Dh travels 3 days a week so I feel your pain! Lo is only 10 mos Old so I can put her in her pack n play or exersaucer when I need to get stuff done. Not looking forward to how crazy life will be when Im a sahm of 2+! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-68518 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:23:13 +0000 mrs. wagon 68518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So dinnertime and bedtime went relatively smoothly... he had one meltdown at the very end because I took away his apple (he let me take him upstairs because I gave it to him, he clutched it through the bedtime routine) but he let me comfort him and sing his regular bedtime songs, and then he let me put him down as normal, thankfully. I've forgotten that the bedtime routine is so much easier now that he's older... no bottle, no rocking, etc. The toughest part is in the bathroom with the tooth brushing and bath. I let him choose whether he wanted to sit in the baby tub or stand, and he chose to stand. That was so cute. He normally doesn't like to make a choice between two things, and he normally doesn't point or say what he wants (he'll just repeat both words). I pointed at the tub and at the space next to the tub and said "sit? or stand? sit? or stand?" and he pointed to the space and said "stand." :) He's really getting to be such a big boy.</p> <p>Now Rob Sr. is on his way home and I'm relaxing. Phew! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-68015 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 12:27:02 +0000 Red 68015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear ya. I have LO all day but my husband comes home and relieves me around 5:30pm. But the weeks when he has a deadline and has to work late are so rough and exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67918 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:22:35 +0000 Andrea 67918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: you are the nacho authority! yes, go for clementine!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67915 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:20:48 +0000 mrs. wagon 67915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ooh, I'm SO close to clementine... maybe that will be my goal today on my day off :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67914 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:19:57 +0000 mrs. wagon 67914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: seriously it's even easier and less ingredients than the other nachos! And easy to make "skinny" if you use fat free sour cream, low fat cheddar (don't use fat free cheddar, it melts funny) and white meat chicken! Don't use baked tortilla chips either... yuck. I may make another batch tonight :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67909 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:16:03 +0000 Andrea 67909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: holy moly. i love BBQ chicken so this would be right up my alley. maybe i will make a small batch with some ingredients i have left over. and i have some chicken in the fridge. hahaha. oink oink oink. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67905 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:13:15 +0000 mrs. wagon 67905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: yaaaaay!!! So glad!!</p> <p>Something VERY surprising actually happened. I made my nachos, but I split the pan-- half my nachos and half BBQ chicken nachos. I tried to re-create my favorite Bugaboo Creek nachos because our local one closed :( And guess what?? The new BBQ chicken nachos DISAPPEARED and my famous nachos were barely touched!!!</p> <p>Here's the recipe for the new nachos:</p> <p>finely ground corn tortilla chips or flour tortilla chips (We used a brand called xochitil or something like that)<br /> 1 rotisserie chicken, meat pulled off the bones<br /> sweet baby ray's bbq sauce<br /> shredded cheddar cheese<br /> 1 tomato, diced<br /> sour cream<br /> sliced jalapenos</p> <p>spread chips onto a cookie sheet (cover in foil for easy clean-up). spread BBQ sauce over chips, sprinkle all over with pieces of chicken, spread more BBQ sauce over chicken, and cover with a thick layer of cheddar. Bake at 350 until cheese is melted and starting to bubble. Take out, sprinkle with diced tomatoes, sliced jalapenos and dollops of sour cream and serve. YUM!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67896 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:07:06 +0000 Andrea 67896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: we are ALL super moms!! oh, this is off topic but didn't think you would mind me writing it here. i made your nachos yesterday. YUMMY. i can't believe the hormel chili is so good!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67861 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 10:25:46 +0000 mrs. wagon 67861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Wow, another supermom... big huge props to you and other moms who do it all alone!!!</p> <p>@Rubies: hehe... I am sure you will be fine! At least you will have a huge sigh of relief after dropping her off each morning... that's how I feel, even when I have a tough day of work ahead of me!</p> <p>@artbee: I so wish my mom was around to help...!!! The kind of grandma she is, I know she wouldn't want to be an everyday kind of helper, but I know she wouldn't hesitate to come stay with me in the very occasional instance Rob Sr. has to be away, and at the very least help with the dogs, the cooking and cleaning, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67853 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 10:14:48 +0000 heffalump 67853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far I've always had my mom stay with me if hubby has to be away for the weekend. It's just too much having LO all day and take care of the dog, and I usually have a migraine. I don't know how people without family around them do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67822 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:43:43 +0000 Rubies 67822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tina: LO is only 6 months old so it's 'okay'...When she's bigger and in daycare, I might cry if I have to do it alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67814 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:37:21 +0000 Andrea 67814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I get the LO ready by myself in the mornings. DH just has to drive her to daycare. I work all day. Then I go do pick up, dinner, bath, bedtime by myself. DH comes home after LO has gone to bed. So even I feel like a single parent sometimes but of course I'm not because eventually DH does come home and keeps me company! </p> <p>I really don't know how I would get 2 kids ready in the mornings and then do 2 evening routines by myself, though. Oh well, I guess you just figure it out when the time comes right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67807 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:29:39 +0000 mrs. wagon 67807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: oh my!! I don't know how you do it...!! Even the idea of handling pickup and dinnertime on my own for the rest of the week is giving me major anxiety. I think I have been totally spoiled for the past 4 months with RJ at daycare all day every day and Rob Sr. and I working together every morning and night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67806 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:25:40 +0000 Rubies 67806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear ya! It's a tough job doing it alone! LO gets up just as hubs leaves for work and she goes down for the night before hubs gets home so sometimes I feel like a single mom. I'm exhausted and it's lonely during the day. I seriously wonder how we'll manage if/when #2 comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/flying-solo-today#post-67804 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:21:50 +0000 mrs. wagon 67804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As I said in a different post, Rob Sr. and I RARELY spend any time apart. Neither of us travels for work and we commute to and from work together, and we have dinner together every night. But for his work, Rob Sr. hosts a weeklong conference once a year at a hotel in downtown Boston. Last year, he planned to stay at the hotel most nights because there are networking receptions that last until about 8 or 9pm, and then the next morning he'd have to be there by 8am or earlier to set up for the day. Since we live in the 'burbs and only have one car, taking the train in and out of the city can be a pain-- late at night, if you miss one, you have to wait like an hour and a half for the next. He ended up coming home every night because RJ was super sick (vomiting in the crib and falling back asleep covered in his own vomit.... ackkk) and I was freaking out. </p> <p>This year, RJ is a year older and (THANKFULLY) not as tantrum-y anymore, but I'm working now and getting him up and over to daycare in the mornings while also having to get ready myself would be roughsauce. So Rob Sr. stayed at the hotel last night and will come home super late tonight, but he will be coming home every day at almost normal time for the rest of the week (yay!). I don't work on Mondays and RJ still goes to daycare, so I decided to take on the morning and evening on my own today. </p> <p>Morning went great-- the toughest part was getting out of bed, walking the dogs, and making RJ's eggs before getting him out of his crib. I felt like I was racing against the clock and I am NOT a morning person-- ESPECIALLY not a first-thing-in-the-morning person!! This is why Rob Sr. takes the mornings-- I can work nonstop all day, but I need to take my time waking up in the mornings. He can do the burst of energy thing in the morning but then crashes and burns later ;) But RJ was super sweet and agreeable with me and the morning went great. Now he's at school and I just ate a leisurely breakfast and have a whole day of free time ahead of me before tackling pickup, dinner and bedtime on my own for the first time since I became a working mom!</p> <p>It's been GREAT so far but I don't know how single parents do it (or parents whose spouses travel)... I would never be able to do this alone, and I'm seriously thinking we'll need to hire a nanny when we end up having a second! And this coming from an 18 month long SAHM! I definitely believe each kid requires about 1.25 adults to care for them.</p> <p>That's the end of my novel... just felt like I had to share. :) </p>