https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:27:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage/page/2#post-171561 Tue, 29 May 2012 01:34:20 +0000 regberadaisy 171561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we got pregnant within a year of trying. We had already been together almost 10 years, owned a home together already for a few, combined finances for a few years as well. Being together we dicny really need that "first" year of marriage,<br /> We moved our TTC plans up when my BIL passed away suddenly. Losing someone so young so suddenlyade is realized all those "thing" we wanted to accomplish prior to TTC was...,, pointless to us. Having a family trumped making more money, getting licensed, etc etc</p> <p>We would absolutely do it all over again.</p> <p>But you have to do what's right for you and your husband.</p> <p>GL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage/page/2#post-171551 Tue, 29 May 2012 00:25:06 +0000 googly-eyes 171551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out we were expecting after about a year and a half of marriage, so not quite in your timeline, but we don't own a house and are not in the financial situation we hope to be in in a year or two. This is something we were ready enough for financially and especially emotionally and we are so excited! Sometimes I do wish we had taken just ONE more trip, but we are so excited to also travel with our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-171544 Mon, 28 May 2012 23:59:37 +0000 singingbee 171544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married in January 2011, got pregnant November 2011, miscarried at 20 weeks in March 2012. It was planned. I feel like it had a great foundation, but our next pregnancy will have an even better foundation now that we have gone through a loss of a child. My husband was excited about trying, but until we lost our daughter, he didn't really completely realized how much he wanted our child. He is totally ready for our next child, which we hope will be soon. I would give anything in the world to still have our daughter and I wish I could've carried her full term, but I'm coming to peace with it right now because we had a lot of changes that I don't think would have happened or would have been very difficult if I was almost 7 months pregnant. I'm hoping we get pregnant again very soon and we will have our take home baby sometime next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-171519 Mon, 28 May 2012 23:12:56 +0000 Mrs. Pen 171519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: agreed!!</p> <p>We definitely aren't what many would say "financially secure", but DH has a stable job that makes enough for me to be a SAHM as long as we live quite frugally. We don't own a home - I wish we did but it would take years for us to be able to buy. The apt we rent is small. </p> <p>but I see the enormous smile on LO's face everyday and know that none of that matters to him, he has no idea. He wants our love and care and he gets it! And that is most important :)</p> <p>like many say, if you wait for it ALL to happen, it will take forever. I made a list of what MUST happen, and it all happened after we were married for 8 months. We started trying at 10 months and got pregnant at 13 months married. </p> <p>Our must-do list:<br /> me get my AA degree (check)<br /> DH get a FT job in his field (check)<br /> Get health insurance (check)<br /> take a second honeymoon (that didn't get done, but in a couple years we will do it again. before the second child :)<br /> lose weight (lost 10 lbs, still wanted to lose another 20 but I can do that after baby too!)<br /> pay off credit card debt (check!!)</p> <p>All the most important things got done!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-171506 Mon, 28 May 2012 22:54:13 +0000 dc yoga bee 171506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: @Mrs. Blue: Yep tomorrow is week two of bar prep. Le sigh. I have no real desire for firm work. I've been into public interest work my whole time in law school. Now if only I can get paid for it! </p> <p>@Witz: This makes a lot of sense. The day before I graduated law school dh got a job offer, and we are packing up and moving to dc metro in 3 weeks. We are going to live in a one bedroom apt, BUT it's in the middle of downtown. We move in with his parents right before the wedding to save for the wedding and the upcoming move. I'm really lOoking forward to being able to walk downtown to the movies or local festivals and farmers markets and explore this new part of the country for us as newlyweds finally on our own! So your post was excellent perspective on how it is really exciting to go out there and try to make it on our own. Although struggling is never cool, it's already made us stronger! If I were pregnant or we had a baby we could in no way make this exciting move and survive off his salary alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150882 Mon, 07 May 2012 15:36:26 +0000 sulli301 150882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Congratulations on your second anniversary coming up!! And I just read your comment &amp; as a mom of a 12 month old who is 7 weeks 3 days pregnant I thought "sleep while you can girlie!!" :) enjoy it &amp; the baby will come soon enough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150839 Mon, 07 May 2012 15:14:09 +0000 daniellemybelle 150839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Whoa, whoa, whoa - you got married 2 months after you met?! You crazy girl! But seriously - how romantic :) And here I thought *I* had a whirlwind romance!</p> <p>It's surprising to see how many of you mamas got pregs so soon after the wedding! DH &amp; I are coming up on our 2nd anniversary and will have been together almost 4 years. The baby bug has bit me bad, but I still don't feel like we'll be ready for another year or two. We're pretty young though, and finances are tight. Plus, we love to sleep in and take long naps :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150789 Mon, 07 May 2012 14:52:53 +0000 sulli301 150789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: We got pregnant a month after our wedding &amp; I would not change it because the timing was right for us, but if you're hesitant you could always wait a few more months &amp; enjoy your sleep (&amp; DH!) ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150700 Mon, 07 May 2012 13:55:56 +0000 Witz 150700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister got pregnant in her first year of marriage. They had been together for about 5 years at that point, lived together for 4 and already owned a home. At the time they got pregnant, they felt that their jobs and living situation were stable, so they thought, why not? </p> <p>However, since that time, they have changed jobs several times, moved several times, gone through several months of unemployment, etc., and I think my sister wonders if those transitions would have been easier / more successful (and more fun) if they didn't have to "worry" about their daughter. As one example, when my BIL lost his job when my niece was 2, they had to move to my parents' city because that's what they felt would be best for my niece -- to be somewhere with family support, with a lower cost of living, where they could live in a 2+ bedroom place while BIL looked for new work. Had it just been the two of them, they probably would have gotten by on just my sister's income, downsized to a studio, eaten Ramen, etc., while my BIL looked for a new job.</p> <p>Bottom line -- although they adore their daughter and wouldn't trade her for the world (obviously), I think they feel like they missed out on some cool young-couple-with-no-kids experiences... for them, they always had their house to work on, then their wedding to plan, and then right away after that, a baby. They never focused on themselves alone and I think they wish they had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150510 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:08:34 +0000 Mrs. Blue 150510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you! We have been married just shy of 8 months and we'll be starting to TTC at the beginning of June. We thought a lot about having time to ourselves. With me turning 30 in June, our desire to definitely have more than one kiddo, and my overwhelming baby fever, we're going for it and can't wait to start. </p> <p>I think I recall you saying that you were about to start studying for the Bar. The legal market isn't great right now, and I'm sure you know starting a job pregnant or getting pregnant right after can be tricky, but not impossible. One of my friends started when I did at my prior firm, and she was in her second trimester. Even though legally there was nothing they could do about it, the partners she worked for made her life tough. That's mostly because they were jerks and didn't approve of other people's choices if it didn't line up with theirs, but it was so miserable she still ended up leaving for another firm with the year. I'm starting a new job at the end of July and hoping to be one month pregnant if we get lucky our first cycle or getting pregnant within the first few months of the job. I think you have to evaluate your life and priorities and decide what you can live with and what you can't. I would say maybe wait and see what job you find and when your start date will be, and that might help in making the decision when to start, especially if you'll be expecting paid maternity leave because a lot of companies require you to be there at least 12 months prior to being eligible for paid leave or for you to be able to take unpaid FMLA while they hold your job for you. I'm virtually certain that I won't have paid leave and it will be a short leave, but that wouldn't change no matter how long I were at that job, so I decided I just wanted to be there a minimum of 6-8 months before taking maternity. Just a few thoughts on pregnancy and starting a legal job.</p> <p>I totally agree that it seems like it was way easier back in the day when you just got married and pregnancy happened when it happened! This comment definitely became a novel, but I've really struggled with these same issues so I'm all over it. Good luck in deciding when to TTC, good luck finding a job, and don't let Bar prep scare you too much! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150508 Mon, 07 May 2012 12:07:58 +0000 MsLipGloss 150508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DCYogaBee: DH and I have been together for 6 years--married for 1.5--and I am 22 weeks pregnant. We both were/are financially stable (and stable within our careers), own a large house (really too big for just the both of us, but we loved the extra space), and were planning to get pregnant. Not that those things are requirements, by any means, but they were considerations for us. We are also older (in our mid-thirties), so timing was definitely a factor. </p> <p>With regard to getting pregnant so quickly after getting a job (if I remember correctly, this would be your first year as a practicing attorney), that presents many additional considerations. First, it really depends on your personal (long-term) career goals and what kind of environment you intend to practice in . . . In some firms, having a baby during your first year could set you back for the entirety of your career (gosh that sounds super doomsday, and I don't mean it to sound quite so harsh). Despite *modern* progress, having a baby early, without having had the chance to establish some *street cred* as a young attorney, could (in some minds) place you (unofficially) in the (widely-acknowledged-but-rarely-openly -discussed) non-competitive mommy category/track.</p> <p>Ultimately, you will need to weigh your career goals with your family goals, and make a decision based on what's right for *you.* Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150487 Mon, 07 May 2012 11:48:13 +0000 red_seattle 150487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got pregnant 10 months after our wedding. I suspect I miscarried at 6 months after our wedding, which is what made me/us think "hmm... that wouldn't have been so bad if we had ended up with a baby" and we moved up our timeline for NTNT. Anyway, I'm glad we had nearly a year together before Baby X was conceived. We had known each other for a long time, and dated for almost 4 years when we got married, but still, it was great to have a year to use all of our wedding gifts, establish new traditions, and just enjoy being married before the baby took over our lives. Love Baby X, and I love our life... but I'm really looking forward to moving past the baby stage and going back to some semblance of our early post-wedding life. Y'know... until we have the next baby. Ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150452 Mon, 07 May 2012 11:20:58 +0000 LuLu Mom 150452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married last May, and got pregnant in January. Yes we planned it, as we were told we might have a tough time conceiving (not the case.) We were going to wait a year, but both felt the pull to start sooner. </p> <p>We have been living together for 2 years and together for 3, but we were older (27 &amp; 33) so we knew we wanted to start a family sooner rather than later and were financially stable to do so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-150396 Mon, 07 May 2012 10:47:44 +0000 Maysprout 150396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We TTC at 11 months after wedding and it's been nice. We had dated for awhile before getting married and had traveled together so for us it's been a fine amount of time. I did have big issues with work after finding out I was pregnant, some that i'm still dealing with over a year and a half later unfortunately, but I think my situation is thankfully rare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149790 Sun, 06 May 2012 14:39:26 +0000 chrispygal 149790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were married Sept 2011 and got our BFP early Nov 2011. Part of me wishes we did wait a year or so, but we had lived together for 3.5 of the 4 years we were together, and I was quickly approaching 38 and didn't feel like I had the luxury of time. We are financially able to handle our LO and are in a house, albeit a bit small. But we are certainly comfortable. I've had a tough go with this pregnancy, so I feel a big bad for my DH some in that way, but this journey is certainly bringing us closer and I don't regret our decision at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149780 Sun, 06 May 2012 14:29:15 +0000 pastemoo 149780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married Nov 2010, BFP September 2011, and I'm glad we didn't wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149726 Sun, 06 May 2012 12:40:39 +0000 Rosie Girl 149726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got pregnant end of May, and our 1 yr fell in September. We did buy a house (actually before we got married!), but I still have TONS of student loan debt (it always seems that we are going to have debt of some sort!). We don't have a savings, etc. I have always said that if you wait for everytihng to be "perfect", you won't ever have kids! If I could go back, the only thing I may have done differently was to be able to get pregnant quicker! We don't have any regrets on starting a family so soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149723 Sun, 06 May 2012 12:32:43 +0000 Honeybee 149723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got pregnant about 4 months after we got married, but we'd been together for 5 years, and lived together 3 years before we tied the knot. Honestly, we're pretty young, and even though we were prepared financially, emotionally, etc... we could've waited longer. We have a great relationship and a great marriage, though, and I'm really glad we decided to start a family when we did. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149720 Sun, 06 May 2012 12:14:46 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 149720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was not exactly planned, but I have Endo and we decided that it was better to have a baby sooner rather than never!</p> <p>I got pregnant about five months after we got married...</p> <p>I absolutely feel that we 100% had a good foundation to our marriage and I do not feel that I am missing out on anything. We spent three amazing years together (not married for all of them) before this baby and there is nothing we could want more than to create a family together!<br /> Besides, my DH is almost 30 and he didn't want to wait too long anyways... he didn't want to be an "old dad."</p> <p>I honestly don't get all of the "prerequisites" for having a baby. Like, "we need to have X amount in savings," or "have X size house," or "go on X vacations to X places...." All a baby needs is LOTS of love, food, and a warm place to sleep at night. I feel totally qualified. As for the money.... well... you will never have "enough" money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149482 Sun, 06 May 2012 02:20:02 +0000 Penny Lane 149482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married in October, exactly 2 years after we first started dating, didn't live together before the wedding and got our BFP in December, the 2nd month of half hearted "trying".</p> <p>He's 11 years older than me so I was in the "let's wait a year or so then see what happens", but he doesn't want to be an old dad and convinced me to see it his way :) I am absolutely happy with this, the thing I eventually realized was what if we waited a couple of years only to find out that we couldn't have kids... I would have tortured myself wondering if it would have happened had we started earlier. </p> <p>The other good thing is DH is financially stable so we didn't have as many financial worries, eg I have a student loan (that is interest free, thank you government!) but we can easily pay it in one go. So that was a lot of worry that I didn't need to worry about.</p> <p>That was a lot of words! Lol! Essentially, I'm glad we did what we did. Ask me again once DS is here though ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149448 Sat, 05 May 2012 23:29:14 +0000 cyneswith 149448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were married six months before TTC, then it I got pregnant roughly 2 months before our first anniversary. We've been "we" for over three years, though. He was with me through hell and back - I trust him completely (even if I do sometimes vent here.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149411 Sat, 05 May 2012 21:43:16 +0000 Arden 149411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been married almost a year and we're just starting TTC, but this is still a worry sometimes. I think we'll just make the most of our time together while I'm pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149403 Sat, 05 May 2012 21:16:09 +0000 Kemma 149403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got our BFP a week before our first anniversary and we'd pretty much been NTNP or TTC since the wedding.</p> <p>We'd been living together for 6.5 years when we got married and having babies was part of the reason we tied the knot :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149039 Sat, 05 May 2012 08:44:26 +0000 808love 149039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes, 6 months after marriage, 2 years after we started dating. We were in a good place financially and it just seemed like the right timing. We weren't sure about kids for awhile but when we finally decided, we chose to conceive RIGHT away. I am so glad we got our little boogaboo. It's been rough emotionally since we have things to work out as a marital couple but other than that...I'm glad we did what we did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149031 Sat, 05 May 2012 08:31:34 +0000 Shimmer 149031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes to all three! DH and I have been married for 7 months, and I am 5.5 months pregnant with twin boys. </p> <p>We talked about our desire for babies as soon as we started dating. We wanted to make sure that the other one was on the same page or it would have been a deal breaker.</p> <p>We own our own home, have most of our debt under control, and weren't really travelers/partiers so we wanted to start right away. Granted, I was told that I had fertility issues, but I got pregnant nearly 3 months after my wedding and 3 cycles of trying. </p> <p>While it's scary, it's so exciting and we wouldn't trade it for the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-149007 Sat, 05 May 2012 07:46:05 +0000 volksgirl64 149007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We actually got pregnant a mere 6 months after meeting each other/dating. We were still long distance when we figured it out so we scrambled to be together. DD was born 3/09, just after 1 year together, and DH proposed 7/09.<br /> To be honest, yes, sometimes I wish we'd had that couple time to enjoy before everything happened. But then again, if DD hadn't come who knows if we would have made it. We were 3000 miles apart and she was a catalyst to get us together for real. They are the best things in my life so I truly believe everything worked for a reason.<br /> Oh, and we got married 5/11, got pregnant 8/11 - didn't want too much of a gap between DD &amp; LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-148907 Fri, 04 May 2012 21:12:37 +0000 heffalump 148907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: my dh picked our meetaversary to propose, which was a month before we started dating. Caught me off guard because I was waiting until our dating anniversary to start thinking about it. He didn't want to do it earlier though, it was actually a pretty last minute decision. He gave me a family ring that his mom had, so he didn't have to save up, wait for it to be made, etc. Just called up his mom and said he wanted it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-148899 Fri, 04 May 2012 20:58:41 +0000 dc yoga bee 148899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: We are soo similar. He actually proposed right around our 1 yr anniversary, but said he'd really wanted to do it right at 3months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-148885 Fri, 04 May 2012 20:45:57 +0000 heffalump 148885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: exactly! We hadn't even been dating a year so I think we both thought it was too early to bring up, didn't want to scare the other person away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-got-pregnant-within-your-1st-year-of-marriage#post-148757 Fri, 04 May 2012 19:48:38 +0000 dc yoga bee 148757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: We talked about babies the night we got engaged too! After that, we talk about them all the time! </p>