https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 20:55:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220168 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 19:45:51 +0000 shinymama 1220168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL lives 2 hours away and assumes/expects that we will go to her. She has only been to our home twice in the last 5 years {to see the place and for LOs birth}. It sucks, but mostly I feel for DH.</p> <p>My parents live 10 minutes away. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220130 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 19:19:28 +0000 Vegmama 1220130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We live 2,200 miles from our family. Yes, we go back home more than they come out here. It's really expensive, and because all of our parents are divorced, our trips are always very busy (we have 4 houses to visit) ... It would be much easier if they would come out here (we'd get to spend more time with them), but it is what it is. We chose to move away, so I try to not get resentful of the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220094 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 18:54:39 +0000 HellOnHeels 1220094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents live about 2 1/2 hours away. I definitely do 99% of the travelling to visit. They've been here twice and my Mum was recently here with my grandmother. I don't mind this as both my grandparents live close to my parents, so I can do triple duty visits while I'm out there.</p> <p>I hope when we have an LO they will be good in vehicles so I can take them out there for weekends to see everyone... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220041 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 18:01:07 +0000 ALV91711 1220041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We pretty much go home to do all the visiting. We normally do a two week trip and drive out and then fly 2-3 times a year. </p> <p>This summer we are not driving out. If any of our family wants to see us they are going to have to come out here. We want to spend time in our new house with our baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220027 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:51:48 +0000 PurplePeony 1220027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we lived a 4.5 hour drive from my parents, they visited maybe a bit more but it was relatively equal. Since we moved across the country, my parents have visited twice and I've been back there twice, but they've spent more time on their trips here than I did. I would have liked to go back more often, but I've been hoarding my vacation time to use toward maternity leave (I'm happy now that I did, but it sucks in the meantime).</p> <p>The ILs rarely visit us, none of them have ever been to our new place. Granted, it's an international trip and a very long one at that, and my hubby likes going back so it kind of makes sense for us to go...at the same time, I get annoyed that they often complain they don't get to see me enough (hubby usually goes once or twice a year without me; see above regarding vacation-time hoarding). They all have a lot more time off than I do, and we're happy to subsidize their tickets if necessary! And I want to see my OWN family sometimes! Sigh.</p> <p>I imagine all this will need to be reevaluated once LO arrives, I'm not sure how though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220014 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:36:25 +0000 skipra 1220014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! DH's family lives only 45min-1hr away. DS is 14 months and they have visited 5 times, 2 of which DH had to pick them up and/or bring them home! MIL just doesn't want to make the drive. Totally ridiculous and inexcusable in my opinion. We've stopped visiting them except for big events and holidays because they make no effort. They see DH's brother 3,000 miles away more than they see us and their only grandchild. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220006 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:31:19 +0000 BabyMats 1220006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We travel more there. My parents are trying to come out here more now that lo is here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1220000 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:28:25 +0000 Mae 1220000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents live 2 hrs away. They come here about 2/3 of the time. Basically they got tired of the fact we didn't come up more and started inviting themselves here. I like it :) </p> <p>My DH's dad lives about 3 hrs away. He comes here once/year for a trade show and stays with us. We go there usually 1-2 times/year. On one hand it annoys me they always expect us to go there. But on the other hand their unwillingness to come here means we only have to see them like, 2-3 times/year and if they were asking to come down every other month I'd be annoyed. </p> <p>My DH's mom lives a plane ride away. Since our wedding 2.5 years ago we went there twice and she came here once (but only because we invited her and paid for her ticket). I do wish she made more of an effort to come here like... ever... on her own without us having to pay for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219992 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:23:47 +0000 jedeve 1219992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We fly out at least once a year, sometimes twice. My parents come out once a year. </p> <p>It bugs me that I've probably spent 10k on tickers in the last five years for me and my DH. Yet it's "too expensive" for my sisters to come (they came for one long weekend) yet they take trips to Hawaii or Turkey. </p> <p>I think I resent feeling like I could never take a vacation that's not going home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219985 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:18:48 +0000 AmandaB8 1219985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We visit them about 2/3rds of the time. But, there's only 2 of us, and ALL of our families live in the same city, 3 hours away. </p> <p>However, we just bought a house with a guest suite and I'm pretty sure they've visited more in the last 3 months than they have the last 3 years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219979 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:12:42 +0000 Weagle 1219979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We probably visit my parents as often as they visit us, maybe a bit more. They're both still busy with their jobs, and I usually go to their house when DH is traveling for work. We definitely go to DH's family more than they come to us. It's better that way. It's much easier to be in their territory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219876 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:07:14 +0000 autumnlove 1219876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would rather visit them. They don't drive when they visit and they are very needy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219850 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:58:53 +0000 Cole 1219850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We mostly travel there, a large part though is due to the fact that there are only two of us but both of our families are within 30 minutes of each other. It gets tricky though, we went back for a weekend for a friend's wedding and felt like we needed to squeeze in visits with everyone since we were "only" two and half hours away. Financially it is hard for my mom to travel to us and his parents are just really busy so there are a lot of considerations. </p> <p>@travelgirl1: We aren't even going to Europe and I still think about all the money we spend traveling, it adds up so fast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219847 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:57:11 +0000 nana87 1219847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>with our parents, it's a joint effort. my brother and his family never come visit us though--i do all the visiting! we've lived in our apt 2.5 years and they've never seen it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219841 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:54:54 +0000 Foodnerd81 1219841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents we used to travel there way, way more than they came here. Since having Lo they have come up more but we also do see them less, since the trip with a baby is tough. </p> <p>With the inlaws it's all over, depending on circumstances. </p> <p>It sucks they we aren't all closer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219831 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:48:55 +0000 lamariniere 1219831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is pretty equal. Both of our parents live in different countries, so we have to make extra efforts to see them. What we really like to do though us meet on neutral territory, so to speak, so we can feel kick we are having a vacation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219830 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:48:50 +0000 Fronkinzankinsbride 1219830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents, we alwyas travel there. My mom is travel phobic. My brother visits 2-3x a year and I never go to see him in Seattle. MIL it's a joint effort. I'm fine with the way it is but it's does get expensive to travel there as much as we would like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219821 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:47:03 +0000 travelgirl1 1219821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FAR more! We would for sure have bought a house by now if we hadn't flown to Europe 7 times in 2 years for weddings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219804 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:40:25 +0000 Alivoo01 1219804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We own our own business and is hard to step away from it so our family comes to visit us. We appreciate them making the drive to visit otherwise, we'd see them far less often! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-of-you-who-live-far-away-from-family#post-1219787 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:35:24 +0000 Freckles 1219787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you visit them more than they visit you? Do you get annoyed that you have to make all the trips to see them? </p>