https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 11:51:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176331 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 13:43:46 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 176331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird *rolls eyes* it sounds like they would get along great </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176303 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 13:31:24 +0000 heffalump 176303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. She has no idea that you aren't trying and just having trouble, I can't believe someone would say that. People would always ask me when I wanted kids, I would just say I wanted to enjoy my marriage first. Which was a lie, I got pregnant right after we got married and miscarried. But that was none of their business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176255 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 13:03:20 +0000 mrs. bird 176255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: we should get our BILs together so they can discuss our reproduction plans! Mine has suggested that when my ILs were having marital issues, DH &amp; I should have a baby because it would distract everyone from all the problems people were having and 'babies make everything better'... Ummm. Yeah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176224 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 12:31:32 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 176224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People can be so insensitive. At first it was "wait several years", now it's "when?" It's so annoying. I hate lying, but I have to. No one but our parents know we are having trouble. My bil likes to bring up kids to get attention off him from time to time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176210 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 12:21:36 +0000 MrsCastro 176210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i must admit i may have been an offender of the question years ago when friends would get married...but i never overwhelmed them with questions about TTC...i just felt uncomfortable and rude...sorry i dont want to put my personal life on blast....my family doesnt even know we are going to be trying soon...so why would i tell a coworker i hardly even speak to....arrhhh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176129 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:24:53 +0000 Adira 176129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: I agree with what you said completely! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176122 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 11:15:32 +0000 mrs. bird 176122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: it's interesting how people frame the question. I've never been asked IF we'll have children, only WHEN we will have children with the assumption that we plan to. I wouldn't be as uncomfortable with someone asking if we'd like to have children someday, I feel like that's vague enough where I'd be comfortable talking about that much, but it's the hounding about WHEN that gets to me. It's like a kid nagging a parent on a road trip- everyone knows where they're going but the kid keeps asking when they're gonna get there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176103 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 10:56:49 +0000 Modern Daisy 176103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally don't mind if people ask me if I plan on having kids as long as they respect my answer and don't follow up with personal questions. It's an extremely personal decision that is filled with private information so whoevers asking should respect the fact that they're walking on a mine field. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176033 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 10:13:32 +0000 Adira 176033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Oh my gosh, awkward!!! I had a semi-similar experience. Hubs and I had been trying for a few months and one of my coworkers came up to me and my cubemate and advised us not to have kids yet and started listing all the reasons not too and I'm sitting here thinking "Uhh... I'm trying to get pregnant, STFU..." but had to just sit there politely and listen to it. At least with a friend, you can actually tell them to STFU! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-176017 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 10:06:46 +0000 mrs. bird 176017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: when we first started, I was optimistic &amp; a few days late but hadn't tested yet &amp; talking to my BFF about another pregnant friend when DH &amp; one of his best friends walked in and heard 'pregnant' then the friend yelled 'which one of you is pregnant!?' when we told him who we were talking about he was all 'oh thank god! It's way too soon!' he went on &amp; on listing every reason DH &amp; I shouldn't try to have a baby yet, so awkward while I'm sitting there thinking I HOPE I am! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175995 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 09:55:55 +0000 Adira 175995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: haha, that's awesome! Good for you DH freaking his friends out!</p> <p>@beka: Yeah, I have a list of snarky comments too that I never use. I wish I could, but it's Hub's family, not mine, so I'd feel bad if I said anything. I used to just smile and nod and say "Someday" but lately (specifically at the baby shower the day my period showed up), I'd been just giving people a dirty look when they ask until they walk away, haha. I just can't force a smile anymore! Especially because Hub's MOTHER has been asking us about babies even BEFORE we were married! As soon as we got engaged and set a date, she started asking!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175988 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 09:50:30 +0000 dc yoga bee 175988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: HAHA this!! In our case, everyone is telling us how we HAVE to be married a couple of years before ttc. Um, okay... We're not 16 (we're 25 &amp; 26), we each have graduate degrees, and WE are the ones in the marriage!! Whenever DH's friends make a comment about how we "better not be pregnant," DH jokes, "oh we didn't tell you the news?" It's great seeing the color drain out of their faces! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175984 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 09:47:53 +0000 shinystraps 175984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I hear you. I have a whole list of snarky things I would LIKE to say... but I never do. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175976 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 09:45:13 +0000 heartonastring 175976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF was really on my case about my TTC schedule at one point. Only, in her case, she wanted me to hold off on TTC until I came to visit her (we live far away from one another). I finally had to tell her that while I valued her friendship greatly, she didn't get to have a say on the state of my uterus. It seemed to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175937 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 09:27:34 +0000 Adira 175937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beka: I ALWAYS just lie through my teeth. It's usually Hubs family that's badgering me about it (I recently got badgered by no less than SIX of his family members at his sister's BABY SHOWER the DAY I got my period, so it SUCKED). Considering how much they ALREADY ask me about it, I know that if they knew we were trying, they would ask EVEN MORE. Trying to get pregnant is stressful enough without having people ask you about it ALL THE TIME.</p> <p>I'm tempted to just be like "Oh, no, sorry, every time someone asks when we're having kids, we push it back another year. Don't expect to see any kids from us until 2050. I mean, 2051 now." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175933 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 09:23:45 +0000 shinystraps 175933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah... it especially sucks to be asked point-blank about it, because then I either have to lie through my teeth (which I usually do), or if the person won't let it go, tell the truth. Which is like throwing a dead bird on the table. Then, once they know, they like to bring it up - have you seen the doctor lately? how are things going? Which, while their intentions are nice, sometimes I don't want to talk about it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175762 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 07:10:30 +0000 Adira 175762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Ugh, I agree!! My husband and I have been trying, but we're not telling people that we are, and his family keeps asking us when we're going to have kids and it just SUCKS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175747 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 06:52:06 +0000 Cole 175747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been married for just about 4 years so we are really starting to get this a lot! We are friends with a couple that is older than us and their kids are grown and out of the house now but every time we see them she asks us about it and basically tells us to get going! It comes from a really kind place, she loved raising her kids and thinks we would be good parents but the flip side is we aren't going to be seeing them much once we do and I am sure she realizes that because she still talks about how she hated leaving her kids with anyone! She even called me out for not drinking across a room full of people...</p> <p>My stock response is usually something like "we'll get there eventually!" but the truth is I would love nothing more we just have a few more ducks to get in a row first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175742 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 06:27:15 +0000 mrs. bird 175742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. So annoying. When you date, everyone wants to know when you're gonna get married. As soon as you get engaged, everyone asks if you set a date yet. When you get married, first question is always 'so, how's married life?' followed by, 'when can we expect to see you two with a baby?'</p> <p>Now it stings so much more since we've been trying unsuccessfully. But you can't say that, so you just have to say something vague like, 'when we're ready'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175739 Fri, 01 Jun 2012 06:10:26 +0000 SleepyMonkey 175739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had so many people ask me that and my answer was always "we are thinking really hard about it!" It was so vague and non commital that most people just dropped it. And if they followed up with another question, i would repeat the same thing and smile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175610 Thu, 31 May 2012 22:38:19 +0000 Grace 175610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree!!! I had a bunch of my mom's friend harrassing me about that shortly after we were married at my grandfather's funeral. Classy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175252 Thu, 31 May 2012 19:17:28 +0000 singingbee 175252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know what you mean! We are able to start trying again after miscarrying at 20 weeks and people feel the need to comment on how this next pregnancy will be different, it will have the right timing, does my doctor know what went wrong, will they have me in for more check-ups, etc. It drives me bonkers!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-ttc-in-the-near-future#post-175250 Thu, 31 May 2012 19:15:37 +0000 MrsCastro 175250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we had a company birthday party for all the May babies...a coworker congratulated me on our 2 year anniversary, which was nice...but she the proceeded to to ask when we were going to start having babies i brushed it off and said i was fine with my four legged kids for now...i thought that was the end of the story but oh no...she kept asking when and why not and how we should have our own...i just looked at her and thank god a good friend was near by to save me...</p> <p>why do people feel the need to give there opinion as if it were the best opinion.... </p>