https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 00:57:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205546 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 14:46:15 +0000 marionberry 2205546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always imagined having at least 3-4 kids. After ds1 we were excited to try for baby number 2 but ended up with twins - so having 2 kids automatically went to having 3. Before I finished being pregnant with the twins people were already asking me if I'd try for a fourth (mainly because they're all boys). If it were just up to me, two years down the road I might consider a fourth, but I don't think my husband (who is much older than me) will be able to handle yet another child. I guess we'll see. Not to mention, I'm just as likely to have multiples again. We are already past that "perfect four" number, so it's all blown to s*it anyway, lol. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205523 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 14:35:33 +0000 snowjewelz 2205523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: that's what I want too! I don't even know if adoption will truly be in our cards as it can be very expensive as well and it's an upfront cost we'll have to have... But I've been saying to DH that if we ever have a 3rd I want to explore adoption! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205496 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 14:27:05 +0000 HLK208 2205496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When LO2 was 8 weeks old, I knew we weren't done yet (despite having really hard pregnancies). I felt like our family wasn't complete...but I definitely feel totally 100% done at 3! My stress level is out of this world some days so I know I wouldn't be able to handle another without having a daily breakdown!</p> <p>I will probably always have baby fever though...I just have to deal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205453 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 14:06:51 +0000 blackbird 2205453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want 3. It's how I picture our family. There are also some underlying issues regarding the death of my brother and wanting a "different" family set up from my own. I can't picture T as being my last </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205430 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 13:56:28 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2205430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 22 month old and a 7 week old and I change my mind daily. Tuesday I wanted to give the children I already have back...today I could see maybe having another (in 3 ish years, that is!) lol. We're still in our 20s so no major decisons are being made right now </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205348 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 13:10:25 +0000 LuLu Mom 2205348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was always in the 2 and through camp even up until I had DD2 in March. Now I'm 50/50, I don't know if I'm done and might go for a third but the logistics scare me of having 3. I told DH we would have to move, be out of debt, and I would want to switch to working part time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205188 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 11:08:04 +0000 lamariniere 2205188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: I agree with so much of this! We are definitely done at 2, I have never entertained the thought of more. I also can't imagine having to go through pregnancy and the baby days again, as much as I live snuggly newborns. I'm excited to move on to the next phases and watch my two grow into little people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205176 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 10:54:46 +0000 kristinleigh 2205176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want 3, but realistically will probably only have 2. Maybe adopt or foster a third, but we'll have to see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205083 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 10:00:16 +0000 birdofafeather 2205083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We each came from families of 3 so unless something crazy happens with dd2, we'll plan on TTC #3 when DD2 is about 1.5. Even though this pregnancy is a little tiny bit harder than DD1, I definitely don't feel like this is the last. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205082 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 09:59:40 +0000 TraceyJoy 2205082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MRSJYW YES! I'm pregnant with number 2 and this is exactly how I feel. I didn't hate being pregnant the first time, but this time it's definitely a means to an end. I always definitely wanted 2 with an option for 3, but every rational part of me says 2 is the right number for our family (our house is a decent size for 2, for 3, we'd need more space... family vacations with 2... getting back to work/my career, etc, and still being able to retire at a decent age, etc.). But I just know myself, and when this baby is 6 months old and giggling up a storm, rationale will go out the window and hormones will win :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205011 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 09:13:30 +0000 regberadaisy 2205011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very lucky and have had very easy pregnancies. So we definitely want a 3 and nothing is really affecting the decision not to. Despite both girls being HORRIBLE sleepers. But that phase is so short in the grand scheme of things.</p> <p>@Chillybear: My brothers are 6-8 years older than me. Their kids are 12, 9 and 3. My 3 year old LOVES playing with her older cousins just as much as the same age cousin. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205010 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 09:12:50 +0000 rattles 2205010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are just open to the idea of more life! Our kids have brought us so much joy, and the stress that comes along with parenthood has really forced me to grow. We have two and definitely feel like there's at least one more out there for us. I am scared at the idea (I do think the physical stress of pregnancy will be harder on me again, and it's always hard to start the baby stage again), but I kind of see us as a family of six! We've made choices in terms of finances and lifestyle that set us up for the possibility of a bigger family. I come from a family of five kids, and there is still so much joy and fun whenever we get together. I hope that whether we have two or twelve, we build a family that feels the same way about one another! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2205006 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 09:08:26 +0000 Ree723 2205006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We thought we'd have 3, maybe 4, before we started, but now after having two, we are pretty firmly two and through (95%confident). Our girls have both been fairly easy, pregnancy was a breeze, and we can afford a third, but really, we just decided we are ready to move on to the next phase of life and don't want to revisit the baby days again. </p> <p>Our girls are almost 3 and 16 months and we are on the cusp of life getting easier. DD1 is so easy to take anywhere, whilst DD2 is getting close to the point where she can be entertained whilst out and about without someone having to constantly chase her. We travel a lot and really enjoy going out and doing things - we are so close to being able to do all of that fairly easily again that we don't want to start all over again. Also, I totally agree that the world really seems to be set up for families of four nowadays - I don't want to have to buy a bigger car, rent two hotel rooms, and make everything that little bit harder because we don't fit neatly into the 'family of four' category. </p> <p>To further cement the point, AF is a few days late right now and I took a test this morning to rule out pregnancy. The entire time I was thinking ' please, please, please don't let this be positive'. That to me says we are definitely done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2204994 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 09:00:39 +0000 Chillybear 2204994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At this point we'll see how it goes after 2.... One thing that weighs on my mind is that my brother is 9 years younger than me and we're pretty close now. I'd really like my kids and his kids to be somewhat playmate cousins and grow up together.... He's 22 and obviously in no way ready to start a family but maybe by the time i'm on #3 he'll be starting on #1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2204991 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 08:59:51 +0000 Mamasig 2204991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before kids, I wanted three. After DS1, just two because I didn't want him to be an only child and my 1st pregnancy was tough. Well second pregnancy I felt way better. And seeing my two boys interact (literally from day one) changed my mind back to 3. I feel like I still have one baby out there. I'll be done after that. I never really thought about how things are set up or a family of four. Guess that doesn't matter too much to me. 4 kids is way too expensive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2204985 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 08:55:50 +0000 photojane 2204985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to want 6, and then I had one. :silly: D is getting a vasectomy after our next is born. Our main reasoning is that we feel strongly about wanting to adopt, and if we have three+ bio children we won't be able to afford an adoption. I really can't imagine having more than 3 though. My brother has 4 and it seems so overwhelming and expensive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-are-considering-2-kids#post-2204964 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 08:46:42 +0000 mrsjyw 2204964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>what was/is your tipping point on having more than 2 kids?</p> <p>I'm currently pregnant w #2, due next month. and am leaning towards being two and through! LIke, seriously suggesting DH get the vasectomy later this year because we've met our OOP for the year.</p> <p>I just feel like everything is made easier for a family of four! Cars, travel, etc. I'm emotionally spent as I am not a very good pregnant woman, even though I've luckily not had any major complications, etc. It's just draining in so many ways and I Don't see myself handling it again with age. </p>