https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 01:45:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41619 Mon, 26 Dec 2011 12:48:26 +0000 heffalump 41619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Bee: how did you find the music class? I'm not counting on my lo being extroverted ... I'd be happy with shy but doesn't cry if you look at her. </p> <p>Update : I'm at my mom's to get ready for Chanukah dinner and of course she picked my lo up and she cried. So I took her back and she played with her as I held her for a pretty long time, and then my mom took her and she was fine. Yay! I think that's going to have to be our new routine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41617 Mon, 26 Dec 2011 12:37:43 +0000 Mrs. Bee 41617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: charlie started music together at 6 months. he loved it! then we always kept him enrolled in one class until he was maybe 15 months or so. then playdates and the playground kept him more than busy enough.</p> <p>i definitely saw charlie come out of his shell as he got used to being around more people. there's definitely a chance your lo could end up extroverted like charlie eventually became. </p> <p>music together classes enroll from birth on up, and they're available across the us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41614 Mon, 26 Dec 2011 12:23:58 +0000 heffalump 41614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Laneybugsmommy: Libby is a beautiful name! What a sweet way to come up with a name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41574 Mon, 26 Dec 2011 10:12:25 +0000 Laneybugsmommy 41574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: My daughter is Libby-Jane named after two of her great grandmothers. We don't really want to call her just Libby so we kinda combined the names and came up with Laney.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41548 Mon, 26 Dec 2011 09:17:18 +0000 heffalump 41548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I'm antisocial too. I think that's why I worry it's not just a phase. She takes after her mom. And it's not that people can't just hold her. She screams if they just talk to her. It gets embarrassing!</p> <p>@Mrsbee: she's 5 months. I would love to do music class! How old was Charlie when you started that?</p> <p>@laneybugsmommy: that sounds like an awesome idea, thanks for all the ideas! Off topic, is your lo's name laney? My sister has that name spelled differently. Its rare to find someone else with it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41486 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 23:26:33 +0000 Laneybugsmommy 41486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter (8 months) is actually very outgoing and has very rarely met anyone she was hesitant towards, but I work in daycare and have met a lot of very shy children. One thing that we do when a child comes in for a meet and greet is instead of trying to hold the child or play solely with the child we just sit down and play with both the child and mom. I think that's the best bet situation for all involved. The adults will get the interaction they want with your LO and she'll be comfortable playing with you there. I would start off slow with her playing in your lap and the other adult playing across from you with minimal touching to her and then as play time increases the adult could increase physical contact etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41442 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 22:15:43 +0000 Mrs. Bee 41442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>how old is your lo? charlie was actually pretty shy up until 9 months. he cried when anyone held him. then he kinda broke out of his shell. i credit the music classes and socialization he was exposed to. and now he thinks he's the mayor of park slope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41409 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 21:26:22 +0000 Andrea 41409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: At least she did warm up to your mom at some point! How long was your mom there before she warmed up? It sounds like she may take a little longer to warm up but at least you have an example that she would. I know the feeling that you just want your friends and family to see a friendly, happy baby but try not to feel too bad. Your LO will slowly be getting better at warming up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41406 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 21:25:05 +0000 mrbee 41406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it important to have other people hold your LO? Maybe I am just anti-social haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41403 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 21:20:00 +0000 heffalump 41403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I'm worried about the fact that there's no warming up to her. She was ok with my mom because she literally spent an entire weekend with us when my husband was out of town, but then went on a week long vacation and ruined that. Plus, nobody can actually spend 48 straight with us just so my lo will tolerate them. But it does make me feel good that we're not alone ... I just always feel bad for family and friends who want to interact with her and get screamed at. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41392 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 21:07:22 +0000 Andrea 41392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that is normal though. From the interactions I've had with my friend's kids, no one's child lets a stranger hold them immediately. There is usually a warming up period and maybe by the end of the visit they will let the stranger hold them. Is this what you are worried about? I think there is a smaller percentage of kids who WOULD let a stranger hold them right away. Maybe that changes by a certain age but it still seems to be true for my daughter and other kids her age (20 months). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41384 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 20:41:29 +0000 heffalump 41384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: you were helpful! It's nice to know that a baby the same age is going through the same thing. Gives me hope that it is just a phase! It doesn't work for me to stand there so she can see me, or talk to her, or rub her back, etc. But like you I'll usually give her a minute and take her back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41380 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 20:29:13 +0000 Rubies 41380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a tough one. Hm. LO is going through a phase right now where she freaks the hell out when someone else holds her. I know it's a phase because it just started a week or so ago out of nowhere. Anyway...Ummmm...I let people hold her and stand in front so she can see me. If she cries, I let her cry for a minute before taking her back. I don't want her to be clingy so I sort of force her...Sorry, I'm not being helpful... :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/for-those-who-have-very-shy-babies#post-41378 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 20:16:16 +0000 heffalump 41378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm talking babies that will scream at someone just for looking at them a pitch a fit if you dare let someone other than mommy or daddy hold them. </p> <p>Do you let people hold them? It's guaranteed that my lo will scream if we let anybody hold her. And it's not that she needs to warm up to people, because she won't. She screams until we take her back. I hate to make her go through that and get so upset all the time, but I also feel that if nobody ever holds her she'll never get used to people and grow out of what hopefully is just a stage.</p> <p>So what do you do? </p>