https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 17:11:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-810084 Sun, 26 May 2013 13:01:54 +0000 Boogs 810084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: @blackbird: @Mrs. Fox: You all sound a bit like me, lol! Glad I'm not irrational. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-810079 Sun, 26 May 2013 12:53:33 +0000 Mrs. Fox 810079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't believe in that statement. I think it would too often lead to one becoming a doormat. Forgiveness is a two way street in my opinion. If the other person doesn't even admit that they are wrong and you forgive them regardless, then you open yourself up to having whatever it is happen again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-809849 Sun, 26 May 2013 09:14:46 +0000 blackbird 809849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just say "eff 'em" versus forgiving them. Well, for people I don't know or care much about. Forgiveness, to me, is for people who are regretful or sorry. Not assholes who don't care. Forgiving repeated bad behavior for people who aren't sorry is not my thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-809845 Sun, 26 May 2013 09:11:07 +0000 yoursilverlining 809845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't let toxic people take up space in my life/head, but I also don't forgive people who don't deserve forgiveness. I understand that the forgiving is for me, but giving a pass to someone who doesn't deserve one just isn't something I can do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-809836 Sun, 26 May 2013 09:04:04 +0000 Pepper 809836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree. If I dwell on someone's actions, it literally poisons my thoughts, and puts me in the worst mood... until I let it go. I don't forget though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-809830 Sun, 26 May 2013 09:00:09 +0000 MsMamaBear 809830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: THIS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-808048 Fri, 24 May 2013 17:33:50 +0000 anonysquire 808048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree without, but I don't practice it. Well I guess I practice it with people who love me and care for me and make a honest mistake. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-807947 Fri, 24 May 2013 16:31:52 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 807947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree....Although I will say: It doesn't work in all situations. definitely, in some situations, it can be healing.</p> <p>A few yers ago, I decided (with the help of a religious therapist) to forgive my biological father for everything (even though he isn't sorry and couldn't care less) and I am so FREE! I've never felt so free and at peace. No more emotional baggage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-807942 Fri, 24 May 2013 16:27:33 +0000 MrsSCB 807942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is an idealistic sentiment but not always realistic. For example, what if your partner has a pattern of being so stubborn that he/she refuses to ever apologize or acknowledge wrongdoing? That can be very toxic to a relationship, and I don't necessarily think the onus should be on the "wronged" one to constantly forgive and never get anything in return. I have a friend who is sort of in that type of situation and I can see how hurtful it is. Not saying that's something that is common, but I think these kinds of overarching maxims don't always make sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-807907 Fri, 24 May 2013 16:04:18 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 807907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally agree.</p> <p>Forgiveness is huge in our household. Huge. We do not hold grudges. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-807900 Fri, 24 May 2013 16:01:13 +0000 LuLu Mom 807900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, forgiveness lightens up your heart, it shouldn't be based on someone else! I do believe in forgiving not forgetting though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-807892 Fri, 24 May 2013 15:57:57 +0000 MsMamaBear 807892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going through this right now with my ex SO. I guess I forgive him, I don't feel any anger towards him, more like pity and disbelief. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-805588 Thu, 23 May 2013 19:39:48 +0000 Boogs 805588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm such a grinch, I have a hard time following that saying lol. At the same time, if someone isn't sorry I feel like they've made their decision about where they stand in my life and in a way for me that's closure in itself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-804088 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:59:50 +0000 banana 804088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree! But it's so hard to do... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-804065 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:55:50 +0000 illumina 804065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree too! For some reason I forgive really easily and am unable to hold grudges. As long as I know the person didn't mean to hurt me (and come on, who does that on purpose?!) I just let it go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-804003 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:43:03 +0000 tinyperson 804003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree even when it's hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-803941 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:24:17 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 803941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-803916 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:17:34 +0000 runsyellowlites 803916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally agree! Forgiving is for me, not the person who wronged me... and the way I see it, I was forgiven long before I was sorry &amp; I'm supposed to never take that for granted! I'm to forgive &amp; forget like God forgets (choosing to never bring it up again)... much easier said than done but it is the goal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-803878 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:06:00 +0000 Boheme 803878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. Forgiveness is as much for the forgiver as it is the forgiven. It feels so much better to not carry that weight around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-803866 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:03:13 +0000 Crisark 803866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a big believer in forgiving but not forgetting.<br /> If you don't forgive you then hold the angry/hostility/negative feelings within yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-803864 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:02:40 +0000 MsLipGloss 803864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand and agree. Forgiveness is something that isn't for someone else . . . it's so you can let go and prevent issues/people from unnecessarily renting space in your head.</p> <p>ETA: And, because all you can control is yourself. Waiting for someone to feel remorse before you forgive and move on can be a futile exercise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/forgiveness#post-766467 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:00:00 +0000 Boogs 766467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What do you think of this saying? </p> [attach=186/13/mmgek9.536x600.image.jpg]