https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 13:41:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712611 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 23:03:09 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 712611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi! I am a CASA and just wanted to say I admire your convictions! I would love to foster and/or FtA someday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712606 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 22:44:04 +0000 yoursilverlining 712606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, I have some friends who adopted through foster care, and from what they said being only "foster-adopt" but not "foster" for infants wouldnt have resulted in many, if ANY, matches. Most jurisdictions work towards family unification, even with issues like drugs, alcohol or domestic violence in the home. In a lot of places, there are few infants on the foster-adoption track; most will only be available for foster, and then you will have to give them up.</p> <p>I don't mean to dissuade you; but I think in many places that's the reality; and it's hard to get infants. Can you look at other agencies or organizations? Would you be open to older babies, toddlers or children?</p> <p>I also know the foster to adoption path cam be very lengthy, and heartwrenching. It took over 2.5 years for my friends to adopt their boys (half brothers) and that was with absent (unknown) bio dads and a basically uninvolved bio mom. At any point along the way, they could have lost those boys. :/ </p> <p>Have you talked with a case worker about the probabilityof fostering to adopt infants in your area? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712431 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 19:04:45 +0000 Mrs. Train 712431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you have come to some road blocks. I think availability in the father care system varies greatly within areas so it would be something you would have to look into. Like my fellow adoptive moms already offered, If you wish to talk privately just post to my wall. I would be happy to support you any way I can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712405 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 18:45:34 +0000 MrsStormy 712405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in laws have had many foster babies who have gone on to be adopted and they adopted one baby as well. Something to consider is if they are babies they have been taken away from the parents for a reason in infancy (I'm not sure if you are looking for an infant, or toddler or what...). In my in laws case, they had several babies from birth all of whom were taken from their parents because they tested positive for drugs, they also got some that were a few months old who also had a mother who did drugs while they were pregnant. I'm not saying that will be the case with all babies but I think those are questions you need to ask yourself, are you okay having a baby who may have physical, developmental, or any type of health issues. I am not an expert at all but thats just been my experience with foster to adopt in babies. I should also mention all of the babies they have had were wonderful, my BIL who is adopted has some very serious issues, but we love him, and his parents would never trade a day with him for a day without him. Even after adopting a child with issues they almost adopted other foster children who had tested positive for drugs at birth, but opted not to because of their age. </p> <p>I'm really sorry your having such a hard time, and I hope you find a solution to your problem whether it be continuing with the path your on, or foster to adopt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712396 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 18:33:06 +0000 Mrs. Polish 712396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveletter: ditto @Mrs. Jacks. She's my go-to but feel free to contact me too. My parents fostered and adopted two infant boys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712372 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 18:16:44 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 712372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you want to talk by private wall or email? I'd love to help you in any way I can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712368 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 18:14:41 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 712368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in Canada (don't know where you are), but in my province, you can specify young children (infant to 4 I believe). That being said, once you have adopted a child, any future children that they will place with you will be younger than the child you have (to keep birth order the same).<br /> We know a family who has fostered-to-adopt three infants this way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712365 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 18:11:41 +0000 Raindrop 712365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry I have no advise but I thought I would bump this tread in case other bees that have gone through this has any advise or comments to share with you. :)</p> <p>I total understand wanting to have a baby and not a teenager or a sibling set.</p> <p>Good Luck! Sounds really tough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712359 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 18:08:03 +0000 immabeetoo 712359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveletter: i'm so sorry you're having a rough road to your little one :( I have no idea how realistic it is, per se, but I do know that it is possible since I've worked with young moms who had babies taken at birth who then went into the foster to adopt system. I think that your odds increase if you're open to a baby who is not Caucasian or has medical issues. I hope you have the best of luck soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/foster-to-adopt-babies#post-712303 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 17:37:10 +0000 loveletter 712303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Without going into it too much, we've hit a roadblock with our adoption process (we're pursuing private, domestic infant adoption) and our frustration level with our agency is through the roof. (I may post about our situation in another thread, if I can work up the courage). The past month has been filled with a lot of tears and we're questioning whether we should even continue down this path, or choose something else.</p> <p>We have an approved homestudy, and we are tossing around the idea of switching to foster care. What I am wondering is how realistic is it to think that we could become foster parents and adopt a baby? Can we just specify being placed with babies, or is that completely frowned upon in the foster care world? Is there even a need for people to foster infants? When we were initially exploring the idea of adoption, I called a foster care agency and they were only accepting families open to teenagers and sibling sets, so that turned me off. We really want a baby :( </p>