https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 13:51:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824387 Wed, 23 May 2018 19:09:22 +0000 wrkbrk 2824387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrandNewMom: I’m so sorry you’re feeling sad! Are you sure you won’t have a third? Did you already close the door on this with your spouse or can you table the topic for now and revisit it later? You definitely do not sound ungrateful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824353 Wed, 23 May 2018 16:00:13 +0000 bhbee 2824353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big big hugs to you and your family. I can’t know what it’s like your shoes having not been there but everything you said sounds so understandable to me. I hope you can find the support you and your daughter need as you work through things :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824345 Wed, 23 May 2018 15:13:22 +0000 karen 2824345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get it. We have two children as well, but our first is the one with the genetic condition. We're not 100% set on future family plans, but it seems likely that we're stopping at 2 for multiple reasons.</p> <p>I will say that there are new challenges and gut punches all the time, but I found the first two years of "special needs parenting" to be the hardest so far, when our son wasn't meeting milestones and I was hoping against all hope he would catch up. He's almost 5 now and while it sucks at times (especially during IEP season at school), I have become much more accepting of his future, whatever it may look like. He's much more his own person now with a very distinct personality, which helps separate him from his condition if that makes sense at all.</p> <p>Ultimately, even for parents with typical kids, there's no way to predict exactly what the future will look like. We all just live with a vision of 20 years from now in our heads, but the truth is that none of us know for sure, even those with the picture-perfect family. A diagnosis like this strips away that illusion of control, which is a hard thing but can also be a good thing. I'm much better at living in the moment with my children now and appreciating daily life with them.</p> <p>Regardless, this is hard, and you're in a hard place just after getting the diagnosis. Please search for your child's syndrome on facebook if you haven't already and join groups, and wall me if you want to chat! Not sure if you belong to a faith at all, but I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Sending a hug! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824335 Wed, 23 May 2018 14:29:35 +0000 birdofafeather 2824335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry mama. I would be mourning the loss of the idea of family I had in my head too. Thinking of you and your little girl as you process her needs. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824334 Wed, 23 May 2018 14:28:58 +0000 snowjewelz 2824334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with above. I think recognizing and mourning that loss is important, so that you can come to an acceptance and moving on. I can't pretend to really understand what you're going through, just want to offer sympathy and that it's okay to feel what you feel :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824331 Wed, 23 May 2018 14:21:46 +0000 Truth Bombs 2824331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think anyone who says that in your shoes they wouldn't mourn the loss of the life they envisioned for their child is lying. That doesn't make you a bad mom or mean you don't love your child. I think it takes a lot of strength to adjust your plans so you can best care for the children you have and the needs they have. I'm sorry you're having to face these challenges. I hope you are able to find great resources to help you all adjust and give her the best care and support available. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824323 Wed, 23 May 2018 14:00:35 +0000 BrandNewMom 2824323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckygirl: Thank you for being so kind. I know this is disjointed and badly worded, I was really afraid someone would read this as "spoiled little girl hates her special needs baby because it ruined her 'perfect' family" or something awful :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824318 Wed, 23 May 2018 13:50:22 +0000 luckygirl 2824318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to say that I'm so sorry that you and your family are having to go through these challenges. We are here for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/found-prenatal-vitamins-in-the-pantry#post-2824314 Wed, 23 May 2018 13:41:27 +0000 BrandNewMom 2824314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 13 month old was recently diagnosed with an incredibly rare syndrome. Long story short, she has a chance at retardation, she has major physical delays, she has major speech delays, some kids with her condition never speak.<br /> Obviously, we're done having children. I thought I was okay with our decision, but I just found some prenatals in the back of our pantry. I can't believe we're done. I always imagined having three kids, and even though I'm so, so grateful for them both I'm just so, so sad.<br /> I feel spoiled, there's so many people struggling with IF and losses. I think it's not just that I'll never be pregnant or hold my own newborn again, but that I'm mourning the loss of this perfect family I had in my head. She has a college fund and she might not ever attend a "normal" school, let alone graduate. Let alone college.<br /> I was hoping someone here could either commiserate or understand. I'm fairly young and the only one of my friends with children. </p>