https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 02:06:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576536 Tue, 28 Jun 2016 07:41:59 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2576536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should still go. We're all adults and understand we don't all have the same situations for family and financial reasons. Maybe she can swing one trip a year but not two- that's still pretty good! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576284 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:51:33 +0000 karenbme 2576284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd run it by A, but likely still go. I'm sure she understands that you and B aren't trying to exclude her, but rather grasping opportunities as they present. As long as you all make a point of hanging out back home or plan something closer to home that she can participate in, I'm sure she'll understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576245 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 15:10:28 +0000 daniellemybelle 2576245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in the same situation recently. My two best friends and I have always talked about traveling together but we never made it happen. This summer one of my two friends and I went to Spain together. We invited our other friend but we weren't surprised that it wasn't in the cards for her. </p> <p>We felt bad and we missed her, but I'm glad we didn't let that keep us from going. Everything was fine - our other friend was sad, of course, but she didn't resent us at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576188 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:30:20 +0000 MoonMoon 2576188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably ok, A might be relieved to not be pressured to go, but maybe run it by her? If I were her, I might be slightly hurt, but not terribly so especially if I were kept in the loop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576174 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 14:16:04 +0000 youboots 2576174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd go without hesitation. Everyone can't make it to everything all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576161 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:59:15 +0000 magnoliamama42 2576161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely! There will always be years one of you can't go, for one reason or another. Some of those years, *you* won't be able to go. </p> <p>Maybe y'all could all have that discussion now - that you will all try to go every year, and that it's okay some years if one of the group can't make it. As long as you are planning with each other in mind (like, not deliberately planning it so another one can't make it), it should be fine.</p> <p>By the way, I love that you have this with your friends. Definitely keep up the tradition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576146 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:49:21 +0000 looch 2576146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I think you can still go, i mean, it's not done behind anyone's back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576145 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:48:11 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2576145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you do something smaller scale without A? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576141 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:47:04 +0000 agold 2576141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should still do the trip. Maybe consider a lesser expensive trip if you want to include your financially-strapped friend. But in any event, still go with the other friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576124 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:29:39 +0000 LulaBee 2576124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree- with other commenters- I would run it by A first, but since you've all done 2 friend trips together in the past, I don't think you should worry about this one. You can all start to plan one for the 3 of you for next year! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576121 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:27:55 +0000 Truth Bombs 2576121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see any problem with y'all going anyway. If you hadn't already done a trip together this year I would suggest your make something else work so you can all attend. But it's not like you planned a 2nd trip and didn't invite her. You threw out an idea, and the people who can go are going, no reason to have hurt feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576118 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:23:26 +0000 raspberries 2576118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably just run it by A and ask if she'd mind if you and B went together. Chances are she won't mind - but if she really wants to go too, maybe push the trip back to next spring so all three of you can go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friend-dilemma-wwyd#post-2576117 Mon, 27 Jun 2016 13:20:03 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2576117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My core group of best friends include 2 women - one I've known since college (let's call her A), the other I met online ages ago (let's call her B), and all three of us became a group at my wedding (A was my MOH, B did a reading for us). Since then (8+ years ago), we've done a bunch of trips together and set a goal for ourselves to do a trip once a year. Unfortunately I wasn't able to go away the year Baby C was born (2013), we skipped 2014 due to A's brother's wedding, and last year was rough for B due to sudden passing of her mom. </p> <p>This year, we did a trip together in March, our first together in 4 years, and I recently sent out a note after seeing some cheap flights to New Orleans to see if we could all do a short trip there this fall. B said that she's in, but A said that she doesn't think she can do it. </p> <p>Dilemma is, do B and I go anyway? We really don't want to hurt A's feelings, especially because her constraints are likely financial, and our trip in March was a bit pricey by her own telling. A and B did a trip together the year Baby C was born, after I said I can't do it, and A and I went to New Orleans together 6 years ago so she's already been and B couldn't go at that time. Part of me thinks it would be OK if we went, but something is nagging at me about it. WWYD? </p>