https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 12:11:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2458220 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 13:05:13 +0000 cat620 2458220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do find it interesting the amount of people who think it's okay to wait until the event to pay someone back, because the thought never crossed my mind. I think I'll start another thread just about that topic </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2458207 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 12:58:39 +0000 regberadaisy 2458207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would shoot them an individual text! Something casual like "just heard artists song on the radio! So excited! Hey, btw Can you can get the money for the tickets to me soon? Thanks!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2458198 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 12:52:15 +0000 cat620 2458198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the replies. I paid with my debit card, so the money has already been taken out my checking account. It's not that I "need" the money, but I do feel like I should get it before the event, since I paid it all up front, and I don't want to be stuck in case someone decides to back out at the last minute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2458180 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 12:40:58 +0000 Freckles 2458180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really surprised that people think it's okay to pay back at the actual event when it is 5 months away, especially if you see them all the time. The OP would be the one forking over the money from her account.</p> <p>I hate being in this situation- no one likes asking for money. But I find that if you care about paying someone back, you wouldn't be offended by a "hey do you have the money?" I think maybe the next time you guys are getting together, send out a group text the day before asking if you can get the cash from them. I don't know if it's because I'm now older, I have no problems straight up asking for the money.</p> <p>A long time ago I bought concert tickets that were $120 each. My friend hadn't yet paid me and two weeks before the concert said she got better seats with a friend and decided to go with her again (yes I know wtf). My sis and I couldn't find anyone to go and we had to eat the cost. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2458127 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 12:04:37 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2458127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've done this before, and I don't really expect to be paid back until the day of the event. It doesn't matter how far in the future the event is. </p> <p>Like other posters said, if you need the money, let everyone know your credit card bill is due on X date and you'll need the money before then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2458004 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 11:16:13 +0000 BSB 2458004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a horrible memory so I might forget, but I'm usually pretty good and paranoid about paying people back. Although, if my friend gave me her paypal link, I would do it immediately. If she asked for cash, that would be a while because I hardly ever carry cash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457874 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 10:09:22 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2457874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could always ask your friends to give you a check payable to your CC company. A college friend did this once for a Spring Break trip and everyone immediately forked over the money. No one wanted her to come back and tell us we also needed to add in interest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457852 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 09:55:07 +0000 Umbreon 2457852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have physical tickets that you will pick up? I would pick them up sooner rather than later, and text them saying "I picked up the tickets today and I'll give them to you the next time I see you. They came to $X. Thanks!"</p> <p>If you don't have physical tickets, then I'd probably just be honest and text them before the next get together and say "Hey, would it be possible for you to bring the money for the tickets when I see you?" I can't see that being offensive at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457441 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 20:43:45 +0000 alphagam84 2457441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on when the actual event is. It's only been 10 days, I wouldn't sweat it. Just ask them for the money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457084 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:56:05 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2457084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did this one time and will never again. Everyone paid me back on the day of the event and didn't pay me the $1 convenience charge b/c I used my CC although I clearly stated the full amount of the tickets after I bought them. Yep I wanted my $3! </p> <p>If you can wait until the concert for the money I would suggest sending out a reminder the night before or morning of. You don't want your friends to show up empty-handed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457046 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:31:00 +0000 Autumnmama79 2457046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I also don't expect to be paid back until the actual event. Its nice if they are thoughtful enough to pay ahead of time but not really expected IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457043 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:27:44 +0000 cat620 2457043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BananaPancakes: That's always a concern that they might back out at the last minute. Thanks for your reply! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457036 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:24:20 +0000 LuLu Mom 2457036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I'd send out a text and say "hey ladies, can't wait for the concert! My CC payment is due next week, if you could Paypal me the money or send a check for the ticket before next week that'd be great the amount is xyz" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2457001 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:06:00 +0000 peachykeen 2457001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted '3 weeks' but really I figure they owe you the money before your credit card is due, with a little buffer so you can deposit the money into your account and pay it by the due date. I would just send a reminder email requesting it by the end of the week or something (whatever timeframe you're comfortable with but not a long-ish time or they'll just forget again). I feel like that should be understood when you're fronting such a big expense, as long as they agreed you would be buying and they would be reimbursing beforehand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456998 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:05:20 +0000 BananaPancakes 2456998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: I say if you've actually paid out the money yourself( not just a hotel room reservation which usually doesn't charge until checkout), and you want the money back now, just ask. I don't think people expect to wait and pay later, they just don't think about it until then. They owe you the money and they know that. They weren't borrowing money so it's not weird to ask for it now. You don't have to float anyone for 5 months. Never mind that they might try to stick you with their tickets if they suddenly can't go. I have had this happen before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456994 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 14:03:49 +0000 kodybear 2456994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would also assume i had until the event to pay you back unless it was mentioned earlier. but for sure its not rude to ask for it earlier. but my first thought would be i just have to remember to pay them back before the event </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456963 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:49:32 +0000 petitenoisette 2456963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny you posted this because I just literally was fretting over emailing a group of friends to pay me back for the rental house we are vacationing at this summer. I paid initially and implied I'd prefer to be paid back sooner but it was ok if they couldn't pay for it quite yet. But then I realized 6 months is a long time to float $1k for the house and so I just emailed asking people to pay now if possible. But I know what you mean because I felt really weird asking about it even though I'm sure it just slipped their minds.</p> <p>I totally agree 5 months at $75 each is too much money and too long to wait to pay you. On the other hand, it'd also feel like getting free money to be paid back that long afterwards!</p> <p>Anyway, so I think it depends on the situation, the amount of money and how long away the event is. I guess ideally you shouldn't agree to pay for the tickets if you can't afford to float the money until the event but in my mind it's nicer for the friends to pay back sooner. That's my situation, we can technically afford it but would prefer to have the money back sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456945 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:40:13 +0000 fancyfunction 2456945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're usually the ones buying concert tix and the majority of people will pay us back at the actual event. I would maybe send a friendly FYI of the ticket price right before the event in case you think they may have forgotten about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456944 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:40:11 +0000 snowjewelz 2456944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you send out mass email/text? Maybe they didn't realize you need the money back asap? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456933 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:38:00 +0000 tofuwad 2456933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also usually would assume I'd get paid on the day of the event. But I wouldn't be offended if I got a reminder that was like, "hey, here's your ticket and my paypal is ______". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456924 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:33:46 +0000 erinbaderin 2456924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: For me, the length of time until the event doesn't matter, because it's just not something I think of when it isn't my responsibility, if you know what I mean? I'll thank the person for getting the tickets, write down the date of the event, and it's out of my mind until we get there. But somebody saying "Hey, my credit card bill is due, would you mind sending me the money?" would never bother me - actually, I'd probably apologize and feel guilty for not considering that myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456904 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:24:58 +0000 Alba4 2456904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm totally the worst at this. My BFFs and I see @2 Broadway shows together every year and I totally need reminders to pay my friends back. I never take offense when I get reminders, I'm just slow at this stuff and I totally push it to the back burner in my brain. I don't think my friends get offended either. (I pay within a month usually btw). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456887 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:18:31 +0000 Adira 2456887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: No. My friends each owe me $60 at the moment, and I'll be booking more things for this Bachelorette party, so they'll eventually owe me more, but I still won't expect payment until the day of.</p> <p>BUT, I also can afford it and can pay off my credit card bill before I'm paid back. If you want to be paid back sooner, definitely ask! I can't imagine anyone would be offended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456885 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:17:59 +0000 cat620 2456885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: I understand your perspective, but my group of friends are not like this. We always split dinners evenly and don't usually buy things for the other person. The tickets cost about $75 each, so I feel like that's a lot to not get paid back for, especially when you add up how many people there are.</p> <p>But I might try shooting them a text before we get together next </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456873 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:15:31 +0000 cat620 2456873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: @BananaPancakes: @Adira: I've never thought about people not paying me back until the actual event, so thanks for bringing this up. Does the amount of time until the event or the amount of money influence this at all? In my situation, each person owes me about $75, and the event is 5 months away, so it seems like a long time to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456865 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:10:05 +0000 ms.line 2456865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be like, "PS everyone, my Paypal address is <a href="mailto:xxxx@xxxx.com">xxxx@xxxx.com</a>!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456863 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 13:09:18 +0000 Adira 2456863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually don't expect to be paid back until the actual event. I've had a few occasions with friends where we're going out and doing something and I book a hotel room for all of us. I don't expect to be paid back until that night when we check in!</p> <p>Just booked a hotel room for June for a Bachelorette Party - I assume I'll get paid back that day and not before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456829 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:58:10 +0000 catomd00 2456829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the end of the month, I'd probably just be like hey everyone, just got my credit card statement and reminded me the tickets were on it. Can you all please paypal/venmo/send me a check?! It's not really asking for money in the typical sense, so I wouldn't worry about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456826 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:56:59 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2456826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you want it back before the concert, ask for it now. Otherwise they may be assuming they will just pay you the night of. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-paying-back-money#post-2456823 Wed, 10 Feb 2016 12:56:25 +0000 BananaPancakes 2456823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same as @erinbaderin: I pay for a lot of event tickets for friends/family and most won't think about it until the event. But if I put it on my credit card, I ask for the money before my card is due. I usually just text something like "Hey so and so! My credit card is due next week and I put our concert tickets on it. You're portion is $. Can I get a check from you sometime this week? Thanks!" </p>