https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 12:05:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810823 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 07:13:15 +0000 lamariniere 1810823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can only think of one instance. A close friend of mine dated a not so stellar guy for awhile. We hung out maybe twice all together. It was always strange because I felt like the guy never wanted to be there and he was really anti social around us. I never said anything to the friend though, not my place. Fortunately, they broke up and her new man is awesome, so awesome that they are engaged. I approved of him the first time I met him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810747 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 01:25:45 +0000 Boogs 1810747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's even harder when it's a family situation and sadly it causes friction and definitely separation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810731 Tue, 12 Aug 2014 00:15:56 +0000 sunny 1810731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep absolutely. DH and I have a few friends that we have drifted apart from partly because we aren't huge fans of their SOs. I have encouraged DH to see the friend (it's usually guys so I feel a little weird hanging out 1 on 1, since the friend was DH's first) but they don't seem to want to make the effort so neither does DH.</p> <p>On the other hand it is soooo awesome when you find a couple that you connect with! I had a male friend from work that my husband met, and we have gotten to be friends with his wife too. As a bonus, he has a son the same age as our LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810699 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 22:39:39 +0000 Kimberlybee 1810699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually do only a girls' lunch or dinner, kids are invited but no husbands or SO attend. It's usually easier that way. We enjoy it too. We can vent about husbands and inlaws without hesitation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810652 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:37:05 +0000 Synchronicity 1810652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: our issue was that she wanted him to be around all of the time, so sustaining a one on one relationship with just her wasn't working! I tried to get used to the guy but he was such. a. tool that I just couldn't deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810650 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:36:58 +0000 Mae 1810650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A female friend of mine (good friend, bridesmaid at our wedding) started dating a married guy. He ended up leaving his wife for my friend and they've been together 3 years now, but I just can't respect him/their relationship. We don't hang out with s/os. Our friendship has seriously suffered I think because I sort of respect her less too-- both for the affair and for being with him. So we sort of limp along, seeing each other every 6 months or so. It's sad.</p> <p>A good male friend of mine from hs (close to both DH and I now-- was a groomsman for dh) ended up marrying a girl we don't really click with. I mean, we don't hate her. She is perfectly nice. But I used to try to hang out with her 1 on 1 (seemed like the wife of one of my best friends should be a good friend too) and we just never really found enough common ground to comfortably hang out together. We still hang out with them as a couple, but I also see my friend 1 on 1 at least as much as we hang out as a 4some, as does my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810645 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:30:28 +0000 youboots 1810645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bottom line: I think it can be difficult to have couple friends because all 4 people have to like each other a lot to spend a bunch of time together. That's why I treasure our closest friends so much, sometimes it works awesome, but you can't force it. I have a really hard time faking it. My one friend I've had this issue with I will hang out with 1x1 and see her husband in moderation, that works for me. Ultimately, I never know what a relationship looks like on the inside, so while I may not enjoy someone's company, their relationship with their SO may be great behind closed doors. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810637 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:23:26 +0000 shopaholic 1810637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tanjowen: @PermaStudent: I can relate to both these situations sadly. :( Well, the one with a friend, I'm hoping is strong enough to remain good friends regardless. But yes, the "talks down to people" thing is one of the things that causes friction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810632 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:18:28 +0000 yellowbird 1810632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a hard time hanging out with people I dislike. I usually just try to ignore them. It's definitely put a damper on a few friendships but lucky for me they got rid of the guy so we can move on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810629 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:15:48 +0000 Synchronicity 1810629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had one instance where we could not stand my friend's boyfriend, and we no longer have a real relationship with either of them. The guy is a grade A asshat - talks down to people he considers "beneath him", treats my friend poorly, etc, and he just isn't the kind of person I want to associate with. She's been with him for more than a decade now, so I didn't see them breaking up any time soon, and in the end my relationship with my friend wasn't strong enough to get past it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810628 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:15:15 +0000 Tanjowen 1810628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm stuck in the middle of one of these situations right now! My cousin and I are very close, but my husband thinks her husband is odd and doesn't feel comfortable around him. I'm going to stay with her this weekend with our LO (she moved 3 hours away) and my husband is complaining how he doesn't want to go. I told him he's uninvited at this point because I just don't need the stress when I just want to catch up with my cousin! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friends-sos#post-1810620 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 21:10:31 +0000 shopaholic 1810620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The Huffington Post girl friends article made me think of something. </p> <p>Have you ever had a friend who had/has a S.O. that you or your S.O. could not stand? How did that friendship and relationship pan out? </p> <p>I can think of two friendships like this and I hate to say both have suffered because of a spouse/boyfriend friction. It's been quiet in both instances, but the actual frequency of get-togethers seriously diminished and rarely include S.O.s. It's easier for me to hang out with someone I don't care for than DH. He never wants to waste his time with someone he dislikes. </p> <p>How have you and your S.O. handled these kinds of relationships? </p>