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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question/page/2#post-2327954</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 21:56:39 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Freckles:  what?!?? Haha okay that is similar!  Guys be weird.  :)
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<title>Freckles on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question/page/2#post-2327868</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 20:29:10 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Freckles</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  oh this was during grad school. They hung out all the time, and this happened when he went to Asia for a visit. So weird!
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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question/page/2#post-2327831</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 20:08:24 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Freckles:  I would have been okay with him telling me he got married out of the blue because you know people are busy.  But it just felt like he didn't bother to tell me especially when he chatted with me so much during that time.  Sorry I guess I just feel that's different.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;On a side note a guy friend of mine just e-mailed the other day saying congrats on my wedding anniversary (5 years) and that he got married a few weeks before hand.  I'm not upset at him since we haven't e-mailed in 2 years because he moved out of state and got busy with his new job there.  It was out of blue and a big surprised(!) because before we lost touch ... I remember marriage was not something he thought was in the cards for him.  So it was a very nice surprise to hear from him after all this time and how happily married he is.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;I guess I wish my &#34;friend&#34; had taken the time to just tell me about it especially since we were communicating a lot during that time.  But it seems the consensus is still guys are weird.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;btw:  Thanks for the comment still.  :)
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<title>Freckles on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question/page/2#post-2327818</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 20:01:55 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Freckles</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;I remember DH had a friend in grad school who did this. They were really good friends and out of the blue he tells DH that he got married in the Philippines and his wife was living there. DH was shocked, but he just figured he was a private guy and had his reasons.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;Some guys are just really weird like that.
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<title>Grace on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question/page/2#post-2327655</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 17:46:51 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Grace</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop: Lol - it was their first .  We found out about the second one after he was born.
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<title>BabyBoecksMom on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question/page/2#post-2327604</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 16:56:15 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>BabyBoecksMom</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;Ok I think that's pretty weird.  I would be a little hurt that he never said anything (or invited you to the wedding), but at the same time, I would wonder if he might have some underlying feelings for you and therefore hid it?  It might be a stretch, but it is similar to something I've run into before.
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<title>mrskc on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327597</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 16:49:00 +0000</pubDate>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;After reading that it was 1.5 years ago, I would let it go at this point. It is weird he never mentioned getting married. But sounds like he still wants to be friends if he's trying to make plans with you. And he's probably wondering why you have stepped back from your friendship over the past 1.5 years.
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<title>littlejoy on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327520</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:44:31 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>littlejoy</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;I understand you aren't confrontational ... Why not just send an email that says something like, &#34;I've been thinking about you guys, and would love to re-connect. Honestly, when I found out you were married - without ever talking about it - I thought maybe you needed space from our friendship. I'd love to catch-up, hear about your wedding &#38;amp; kiddo.&#34; &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;That is open ended enough that it invites him to share, and doesn't accuse him of anything.
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<title>snowjewelz on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327515</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:42:06 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>snowjewelz</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  Men are weird, that is my conclusion, haha! His wife couldn't have disliked you that much if she's all about the playdates too..?? &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;I def agree that the prime time for asking is kinda over... At the meet up where you realized he was married, I would have been like WAIT WHAT?! lol.
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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327513</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:41:46 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@oliviaoblivia:  Oops I didn't answer this question.  Does his gf/wife have weird feelings towards you?  I'm not sure! :)  I want to say no... especially since she has recently personally called me for a play date with her kid.  &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;One of the reasons I ask this... because it feels weird that I am now trying to push her aside too.  It's just getting harder and harder to tell them I'm busy when they are basically saying they are completely free to see me.
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<title>catlady on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327502</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:37:26 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>catlady</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  That is weird about the emails.  Maybe he felt awkward about the fact that you weren't invited and didn't want to bring it up.  Strange though, I agree.
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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327490</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:32:57 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@catlady:  I was thinking something like that happened too... and I definitely want to give him the benefit of the doubt but he replied to my e-mails during that time... I guess I &#34;expected&#34; one of those e-mails to say something along the lines of &#34;Oh btw I'm getting/got married just thought I would let you know&#34; but nothing seemed off about those e-mails during that time which makes me wonder.
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<title>catlady on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327477</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:25:49 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>catlady</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;I would mention it casually and just ask why he didn't tell you ahead of time because you would have liked to get him a gift or something.  &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;I would probably give this guy the benefit of the doubt if it was a family-only wedding and outside of the country, especially if it seemed like it happened last minute.  My first thought is that the bride had someone in the family who was very sick or something and they wanted to get married quickly with that person present.  This is what happened to me (my mom diagnosed with terminal cancer the day I got engaged, we had to rush the wedding and keep it family only, and honestly I probably forgot to tell some of my friends about it in all the stress and craziness).
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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327475</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:25:27 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Grace:  My husband forgot to tell most people when we were having our second... he thought he did but I think his memory was confused about when he announced our first.  So if it was your co-workers second kid I could see that happening.  Haha.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;@Mrs. Lemon-Lime:  @daniellemybelle:  Alright you two and anyone else I didn't tag have convinced me to just let it go and move on from here.  I will try to  meet up with him and his family and see how I feel about the friendship and figure it out from there.  :)
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<title>sunny on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327473</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:24:57 +0000</pubDate>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;I think the moment has probably passed now on asking.  Maybe one day in private you can say &#34;hey, why did I have to hear about you getting married from ___?&#34;.  &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;It could also be what others are suggesting: they weren't going to invite you and felt weird telling you about it.
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<title>rachiecakes on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327468</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:23:25 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>rachiecakes</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  I would totally call him out! &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;I have a guy friend that I used to work with. Before he got married and just after he got married he told me he deleted my texts because it would irritate his fiance/wife. I didn't know her well but whatever, I didn't mind.&#60;br /&#62;
Now that they have a daughter we've been talking more regularly, but yeah, it's weird.. I wouldn't be upset with my husband talking/texting/emailing his female friends/coworkers. But different folks, I guess!
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<title>oliviaoblivia on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327455</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:20:58 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>oliviaoblivia</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;Weird! &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;Does his gf/wife have weird feelings towards you?
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<title>LibbyLou on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327454</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:20:32 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>LibbyLou</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  my girlfriend just said to me today &#34;the root of most heartache is wrong expectations!&#34; Having said that, I don't think expecting to hear about his WEDDING either before or after it happened is too high of expectations. But, maybe he doesn't see it as a big deal.&#60;br /&#62;
You sound just like me with your guy friends. I'm the same way!&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;I love Mrs Lemon lime advice above!
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<title>mrsrain on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327450</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:19:26 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>mrsrain</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Mrs. Lemon-Lime:  yes. This.
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<title>TrailRunner on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327447</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:18:41 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>TrailRunner</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;Maybe he knew he couldn't invite you and felt weird bringing it up with you? Not that it is any excuse, but people can be so weird in situations they don't know how to handle. Then maybe he figured you heard through the grapevine and didn't feel like he needed to tell you personally? I could see my husband doing soemthing weird and stupid like this and just assuming it would all work out. Since you aren't confrontational  and it happened so long ago I would just let it slide. He obviously values your friendship since he wants to do play dates, and prob doesn't realize your feelings were hurt about not being told.
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<title>mrsrain on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327446</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:18:34 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>mrsrain</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;If it's been that long, I think it's a little late to confront him about it. If he's your friend and that is the only issue, I'd try hard to get over it and start over where you are now. Give a play date a try and see how it goes!
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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327442</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:17:38 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@LibbyLou:  &#34;I voted that he would be dead to me me, because there is no way it didn't cross his mind he should tell you! (Unless it's truly his personality for him to not think about you or your feelings but still, not a good friend to have). &#34;  &#38;lt;-  I feel like he's not a good friend if it didn't cross his mind to tell me about this... I guess I'm wondering here if that's wrong to think.  Maybe my expectations are too high!&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;I hear you about being good friends with guys and them disappearing when they have girlfriends. That happened to me once.  I have a lot of guy friends though and when they have a gf, my first mission is to make sure they know I'm not a threat.  :)
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<title>daniellemybelle on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327441</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:17:26 +0000</pubDate>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;I edited my advice because I just saw that you said that it has been 1.5 years.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;I would do like Mrs. Lemon-Lime said. I'd have a meet-up with him and his wife, and if there is any place in the conversation where it could at all be natural to bring up, I would just say, &#34;Hey, you know, it was so weird to me that you never told me you got married and I had to hear from someone else. What was the deal with that?&#34;
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<title>Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327437</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:16:01 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Mrs. Lemon-Lime</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  new advice. Let bygones be bygones. I would not bring this up now. The moment has passed. Here's a thought, let's say you are hanging out with them around their anniversary or they share a story about their wedding day or anniversary you could bring it up then. &#34;You know I didn't even know you guys were married until friend Joe said something when we all were together at Place X. Why did you leave me in the dark anyway?&#34;
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<title>Grace on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327432</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:14:11 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Grace</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  Oh, i think what is done is done.  If you enjoyed being friends otherwise, I would totally do the playdate.  As to why he didn't tell you, guys are weird.  One of my coworkers didn't tell us that his wife was expecting until she was 8 months along.  My other thought, is that lots of people only announce things by facebook.  I find out tons of things second-hand because I'm not on there.  It's the price I pay.
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<title>Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327421</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:11:33 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Mrs. Lemon-Lime</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;@Raindrop:  asking him why he didn't share the big news is not confrontational. You have a real question that only he can asnwer. The fact you were left in the dark and you don't know why has made you change your behavior with him. So shed some light on the situation.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;You can always start the convo with, &#34;I didn't know you got married. Congratulations. Tell me about your big day.&#34; Even though you know a few things already this will give him the opportunity to fill you in on what you don't know and his reason for not sharing with you without it coming from an offensive mode.
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<title>LibbyLou on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327419</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:10:51 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>LibbyLou</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;In my expirence of friendship with opposite sex is that sometimes the wife or girlfriend just doesn't have close male friends. She may LIKE you but may also get on him for being so close to you(because she doesn't understand it). I sadly have had a few close male friends drift away because of that. If that is why he was keeping it  from you and didn't want to fess up, I may excuse it.&#60;br /&#62;
I can see you missing the fb announcement and engagement but I would not be happy with him not telling me at all. I voted that he would be dead to me me, because there is no way it didn't cross his mind he should tell you! (Unless it's truly his personality for him to not think about you or your feelings but still, not a good friend to have).&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;Eta: saw your update! Um, I'm not sure. Obviously the wife has no issue! So that's good.
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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327408</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:05:30 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;Okay I should mention this didn’t happen recently.  This happened like 1.5 years ago. &#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;The only reason I’m bring it up now… I have totally reduced my communication to him by a lot.  Especially after having our second kid.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;The thing is he has now had a kid and wants to do play dates with our kids and he is increasing asking me to meet up.  His wife even asked me.  I just shy away and say I'm too busy.&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;Now I feel silly … I am still upset that they never told they got married… I think I need to bring it up but I’m not sure how …. I know I should just let it go since it’s been so long and start fresh again.  Right?&#60;/p&#62;
&#60;p&#62;Argh sorry I’m super weird.
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<title>sunny on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327406</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 15:04:05 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>sunny</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;That is so bizarre to me!  I have 2 guy friends (also from highschool days) whom I chat with daily on whatsapp.  I would be super confused why they didn't tell me they were engaged or had gotten married!  Especially when we chat about random daily life stuff like vacations, work, pretty much everything except girl talk.
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<title>Raindrop on "Friendship Question"</title>
<link>https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question#post-2327398</link>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 14:56:47 +0000</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Raindrop</dc:creator>
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<description>&#60;p&#62;I should mention I don't do facebook and I think he announced he was married on facebook.  So I was late in knowing for that reason too.
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