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Hellobee Boards Topic: From which country would you like to adopt a baby? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 15:48:08 +0000 Bao on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-600325 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 12:07:17 +0000 Bao 600325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A little Asian boy or girl, they are too cute! :) Anagram on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-600311 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 12:05:12 +0000 Anagram 600311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrs. bird: That's why I wish we could adopt from Sri lanka! But they don't even let diaspora adopt (as far as I know), which is sad! They also won't let foreign nationals living in SL adopt. daniellemybelle on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-600304 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 12:03:40 +0000 daniellemybelle 600304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If we adopted internationally, I would be strongly interested in an African country. While being African is worlds apart from being African-American, at least I feel like our LO would not be the only black person in our family. DH is black, our kids will be biracial but probably be perceived as black, they will have black extended family members. If we ever adopt (which seems unlikely at this point, unfortunately, as I am very drawn to it) I think it would probably be a domestic adoption for many of the reasons already mentioned here. mrs. bird on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598544 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 20:40:15 +0000 mrs. bird 598544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ we would consider adopting from nigeria. DH is nigerian. ideally, we would be interested in providing foster care & possibly then adopting children of with nigerian backgrounds already in the US. we have a pretty large west african immigrant population in our area so that wouldn't be unheard of to have first generation children in need of families with similar backgrounds. we feel that it would be beneficial for the children to be in a family who could try to maintain some of their connection to their heritage & with my ILs being very active in the igbo community here & having homes/family still in nigeria, we would be able to do that. MrsStormy on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598497 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 20:25:14 +0000 MrsStormy 598497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrsjazz: It truly is so sad, and I just heard statistics for the county I live in recently and there are so many kids in the foster system and a really small amount of foster homes, which means homes are totally packed and/or so many of those kids are in group homes, and I just don't think either of those things are very good. Mrs. Pen on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598479 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 20:19:35 +0000 Mrs. Pen 598479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Train: yeah... My mom always had the same passion in her heart. She said if she had the money she'd buy a huge house and adopt as many children as she could haha :) Money is the factor for us too. We don't have a house, and don't have the finances for adoption at this point. I'm hoping that somewhere down the road dh will get his break and I'll finish school so I can work too.. Sweet T on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598469 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 20:15:14 +0000 Sweet T 598469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If we were to adopt, I'd love to adopt from Vietnam. My grandma is Vietnamese. I'd love to keep the culture alive in our family and she would be able to help us learn things about the culture. I remember reading that the US and Vietnam aren't doing adoptions right now. Maybe someday! ETA: Just went back and saw @bluestriped bee's comment. That's great that adoptions may be allowed again! Mrs. Train on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598451 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 20:08:03 +0000 Mrs. Train 598451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pen: that's funny we said the same thing. I just have too much hurt for their stories and I know I have enough love, really it's just finances. Ummm... And not having my husbands head explode at the thought of more kids. I do understand why people pick international, I sometimes still feel like that would be good but I always come back to helping in my own country. mrsjazz on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598449 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 20:07:23 +0000 mrsjazz 598449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would adopt from the U.S. @MrsStormy: While I believe adopting a child, any child who needs a home is truly great, personally I feel the same way as your husband. I actually had to stop looking at the profiles of children who need to be adopted on my city's child services site because I would get so sad and want to adopt them all but my husband is not on the same page with regards to adoption. Mrs. Jacks on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598431 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:53:51 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 598431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I should say as an aside that I do think it's a little different for people with strong heritage/background in another country. Like if you speak Korean and have family there, adopting from Korea kind of makes sense, you know? Or if you worked for a few years in Africa (like I did) and met a certain child during that time, that makes sense too. chopsuey on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598429 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:52:14 +0000 chopsuey 598429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ From Korea. MrsStormy on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598427 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:51:39 +0000 MrsStormy 598427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would love to have a multicultural family (obviously this is possible with US adoptions as well) and adopt from other countries, but my DH is pretty against it, he thinks we need to focus on where we live, and I see his point, we have many children who need families in the system now, I would really like to foster at some point. I also would worry about ethical issues in other countries. sera_87 on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598356 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:19:26 +0000 sera_87 598356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'd do Canada first, and then Eastern Europe. MrsTiz on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598345 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:15:15 +0000 MrsTiz 598345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Korea because Korean babies are the cutest, but if I had to adopt I would adopt from America. A Korean baby from America haha immabeetoo on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598341 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:13:05 +0000 immabeetoo 598341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The us! I'd be nervous about the issues @mrsjacks mentioned and also don't think we'd have the finances to visit their home country or other relatives, which wouldn't seem fair. BananaPancakes on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598315 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 18:58:04 +0000 BananaPancakes 598315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Jacks: Same sentiments here. I think there's a lot of unethical behavior in international adoption and I'd never feel comfortable. I'd go with an older child from the US. Preferably 7+ years. honeybear on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598284 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 18:33:49 +0000 honeybear 598284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The U.S.! Mrs. Jacks on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598267 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 18:17:15 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 598267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Knowing that there is a much higher risk of coercion and power differential in international adoptive situations and knowing that deeper connections with birth families is good for adoptive kids puts me in the domestic camp... But I respect others' decisions to choose differently and secretly would love to bring a Mongolian baby into our lives... Unfortunately, my reasons wouldn't be pure... It would be because I think those babies are adorable an I'd love to visit and learn about a place that seems remarkable to me. Mrs. Pen on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598221 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:54:28 +0000 Mrs. Pen 598221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @tororojo: it is so sad :( I can't even think about it without crying. Oh I'm so there right with you. I am just praying and hoping we will somehow find the money to adopt someday... at this point we could only afford to foster to adopt (well even that, we couldn't afford yet), and I am more than willing to do that :) tororojo on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598199 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:43:55 +0000 tororojo 598199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pen: Ha, I should be more clear--we could afford to foster to adopt only! Which would most likely end up being just a few thousand dollars. Sex trafficking is just so sad...I have been watching Law and Order: SVU nonstop while sitting here on baby watch and it is truly sickening to think that it's so common all over the world! MediaNaranja on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598189 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:39:06 +0000 MediaNaranja 598189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @photojane: I feel the same way. My DH is from Ecuador, so I would love to adopt from there. When I was living in Bolivia, I was staying at a hotel for an extended period of time where foreign adoptive families met their children for the first time. There was one family (from Belgium, I think) that adopted a 4-5 year old who was deaf. Watching them interact and meet and play in the open courtyard was so beautiful, it made me teary-eyed (and at the time I was only 23 and motherhood and kids were not even on my radar!). Mrs. Pen on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598184 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:38:20 +0000 Mrs. Pen 598184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @tororojo: Mrs. Jacks just posted this cost comparison and a Chinese adoption is the same amount as a US: <a href="http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=2350#" rel="nofollow">http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=2350#</a> that's so sad about sex trafficking :( I dated a guy whose parents are missionaries to Liberia and there is so much sex trafficking over there. She actually wrote a book about it to raise awareness. BSB on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598175 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:35:16 +0000 BSB 598175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Vietnamese, since I'm Vietnamese. But right now the US is not working with the Vietnamese goverment/ adoption agencies. <a href="http://adoption.state.gov/country_information/country_specific_alerts_notices.php?alert_notice_type=notices&alert_notice_file=vietnam_4" rel="nofollow">http://adoption.state.gov/country_information/country_specific_alerts_notices.php?alert_notice_type=notices&alert_notice_file=vietnam_4</a> Maybe whenever we get pregnant with our first, Vietnamese adoptions will be open again. At least, I can hope. :) ETA: Oh, there's hope. This article was posted 5 days ago!!! <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/International/wireStory/us-senator-hopeful-vietnam-adoptions-start-18553674" rel="nofollow">http://abcnews.go.com/International/wireStory/us-senator-hopeful-vietnam-adoptions-start-18553674</a> photojane on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598172 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:34:30 +0000 photojane 598172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always felt called to adopt a child from a Latin American country. My family has such strong emotional ties to South America and the Hispanic culture. I always wanted to adopt from Guatemala, but they recently closed adoptions. Now I think it would probably be either Colombia or the US. anonysquire on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598171 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:34:14 +0000 anonysquire 598171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If money was no issue I would duggar it and adopt them all. tororojo on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598168 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:33:01 +0000 tororojo 598168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Train: @Mrs. Pen: If we actually end up adopting, it would def be from the U.S.--there's no way we'll have international adoption money! And I doubt it would be an infant, but young would be nice. I have heard that in Eastern European countries, girls who age out without being adopted are pretty much guaranteed to become sex workers, which makes me want to adopt from somewhere over there, although that may be the case in lots of countries, here included. Mrs. Pen on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598153 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:27:45 +0000 Mrs. Pen 598153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Train: same... I think I said this in another thread... but even in international countries. I'd love to adopt a 3-5 year old. In the US I'd even be willing to adopt up to a 12 year old. Every baby needs a home and a family no matter their age. Mrs. Train on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598137 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:21:52 +0000 Mrs. Train 598137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I used to think about international adoption but if I were to ever adopt again it would be an older child from the US. The fact that so many age out of the system without ever finding a family breaks my heart. I wish I could be a mother to all of them. tororojo on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598123 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:17:57 +0000 tororojo 598123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Somewhere in Eastern Europe (because they'd look like our bio kids) or somewhere in Asia (because Asian babies are so cute, hehe). duckduckkristen on "From which country would you like to adopt a baby?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/from-which-country-would-you-like-to-adopt-a-baby#post-598119 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:15:49 +0000 duckduckkristen 598119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pen: we've discussed it, but we'd like to have a few biological children first. If we still want more kids after that or for some reason can't have anymore on our own, then we would adopt.