https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 04:57:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870413 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 13:59:48 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1870413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I'm sorry this has been tough. It's so hard to be tied to the kids and feel like your partner doesn't even have 5 minutes to break away from work for the family. </p> <p>Hopefully the weekend will give you some time to sort this out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870370 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 13:39:44 +0000 aegie 1870370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: can you go into the office with him together with the boys? that way you can go in with him before work piles on? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870214 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 12:28:22 +0000 Crisark 1870214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: lol I'm glad!!! I'm such a worrier though that's where my mind always goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870213 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 12:26:59 +0000 jedeve 1870213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the advice guys. We did talk more about it last night. I think he does like to plow through work so he can come home. His office isn't super formal which is why I've been annoyed at not being able to swing by when we are at the library just down the street. But I think he realized he just needs to make it happen because it makes me feel marginalized. </p> <p>@Greentea: I think that's it. He was really happy to see me when it was just me that stopped by. But kids are a different story. But if this a place he will be at long term, I want to get to know the rest of the staff better. They did have an office party a few weeks ago but the baby and I couldn't go because I had mastitis. </p> <p>@Crisark: haha I realized this post made it sound like he was having an affair at the office or something. But unless it's with a 50 year old woman or 75 year old man, I'm not too worried. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870202 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 12:18:19 +0000 Crisark 1870202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Idk, I think I'd be frustrated as well. In my opinion there shouldn't be a reason he can't take a few minutes to have you come and be able to show off his family. What is the real reason he's putting it off or trying to plan it so much is my question. But, I'm always a worst case scenario person in my head.<br /> I'm sorry things haven't been going your way lately. Hopefully it'll improve soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870178 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 12:00:18 +0000 ElbieKay 1870178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what your husband does for work, but I have been so slammed at work lately that if someone asked to stop by for social/personal reasons it would really stress me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870150 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 11:47:41 +0000 Greentea 1870150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, I'm sorry. I get it. Maybe you are feeling like "you and the kids" are sort of "one" right now and not being able to bring the kids to the office is making you feel frustrated and put off when you are already dealing with the transition yourself and you want to feel connected and welcomed by DH but he is super busy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1870092 Fri, 19 Sep 2014 11:15:48 +0000 looch 1870092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: If they're asking you, why not just go and see them? Doesn't seem like you need your husband to be there, you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1868823 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:55:08 +0000 jedeve 1868823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: it's a small family friendly office and everyone keeps asking about when they are going to see the kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1868797 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:44:25 +0000 catomd00 1868797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I'm having a hard time understanding why it's so important to bring them to his office? Maybe it's just me but I prefer to keep personal and work lives separate. My husband was a block from my work today and asked if he could come see out new office. I said no I wasn't comfortable with that but we met for lunch. I guess I am of the mindset that work is for working. Why don't you meet for lunch if you want to see each other during the day? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1868791 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:38:55 +0000 looch 1868791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you make a plan to meet for lunch?</p> <p>I brought my son to my husbands work twice, lol, the cafeteria! But honestly, if he can't make it work, he can't make it work. If move on from trying to make it happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1868784 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:35:54 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1868784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but (((hugs!))) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1868781 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:33:03 +0000 jhd 1868781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( I'm sorry. I totally understand the being mad at yourself for feeling mad thing. I have no real advice to give, but hope things get worked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/frustrated-at-dh-and-mad-at-myself#post-1868776 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:28:14 +0000 jedeve 1868776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just need to vent. </p> <p>I haven't taken the kids to DH's office since LO2 was born. I've offered several times and each time there is a reason not to. It's too close to lunch, so and so isn't there, he was going to come home early. I finally confronted him about it and he swore there wasn't a reason why he didn't want us to come. I stopped by once by myself and everyone was asking why I hadn't brought the new baby by yet. </p> <p>So yesterday I asked if we could stop by. He said yes. He called around four and asked if we were coming, but LO1 was still sleeping. He said that was fine and made it sound like today would be better anyway. </p> <p>Today I called and asked if we should stop by. I had the boys in matching outfits. He said he was swamped and today wouldn't work but maybe next week. </p> <p>He says he wants us to come by, but none of the times I suggest are ever good. I was grumpy because I just couldn't believe it happened again, and he is annoyed at me for being upset when it's not his fault. And he said yesterday would have worked. But LO slept till almost five!</p> <p>It's just a lot of little things lately. His dad was in town and offered to watch the kids for an hour so we could go out and he said no. He was going to take me to a concert in a few weeks but put off buying the tickets and now they are sold out. </p> <p>I don't know what it is. I think he is trying but I still feel kind of rejected. And I'm mad at myself for being mad at him. </p>