https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 04:56:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549653 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 20:56:58 +0000 mrsjyw 549653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all so much for your feedback. I think I'm not confused about 'sleep training' anymore. </p> <p>LO rarely cries and I don't mind the 1x nighttime feeding. i think we will just keep going with it and let him grow into sttn as he's ready!</p> <p>Nap training is a whole other story though :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549637 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 20:47:50 +0000 DillonLion 549637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How hard is he crying when he wakes up in the night? Sometimes LO will wake briefly, and even let out a pretty hard cry, and then just go back to sleep. Most of the time she goes back to sleep in less than 5 mins. If she keeps crying longer than that, I know she is hungry and we get up for a diaper change/feeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549576 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 20:02:52 +0000 Mrs. Bee 549576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it sounds like your lo is doing great and may start sleeping thru the night on his own! since he is already going into the crib awake and sleeping well, there is no need to sleep train. if it ain't broke, don't fix it! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549573 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 20:00:38 +0000 hilsy85 549573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's pretty much my LO's schedule at 15wks (7 to bed, up once during the night to nurse, up for the day around 7/730), and I'm not planning on having him night wean yet. I figure that I really don't mind the one night waking and he's become a more distracted nurser during the day so I want to make sure he gets enough calories. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549528 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 19:13:14 +0000 Bao 549528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow that sounds like an awesome schedule! LO is 5 months old and we just sleep trained her and she is still waking up 1-2 times a night. When they are so young like this, I think it is very normal to have at least one feeding a night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549473 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 18:33:35 +0000 ellybecks 549473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This sounds about right for an almost 3 month old, and even into 4 months. I asked my pediatrician at our 4 month appointment since LO was waking at 12 and 3 to eat, and she said that LO should be able to go 8 hours without eating, but if she was waking after 6 hours, to feed her. So, we had to drop one of the "night" feedings (we did this through a modified cry-it-out sleep training method), and she gradually began to sleep 8:30am-6am on her own.</p> <p>Your LO will not be able to go 8:30pm-7am without feeding quite yet, so if you are OK with the 2:30am feeding time then just let him be!</p> <p>The other thing you can try is a "dream feed" - around 11-12ish, pick him up and feed him. He may not even fully wake up, but you should make sure he eats as much as he normally would. Then, his "STTN" stretch would be from 12am-7am, which may coincide with your schedule a little better. However, this may create the hassle of having to "sleep train" him if he continues to wake up at 2:30am since that is what he's used to.</p> <p>For me, it was actually easier not to dream feed and to let LO wake up at 3:30-4am to eat, because then it meant she would sleep later in the morning. Otherwise she would be up at 5:30! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549440 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 17:58:05 +0000 SleepyMonkey 549440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I asked a really similar question earlier today! I am wondering them same thing. Sometimes I let my LO fuss and she will fall back asleep. But sometimes her fussing escalates to full on screaming and that is when I get up to feed her. I think I'm OK with that. My ped had suggested that she should be able Togo all night without a feeding and to CIO but I really do think she is hungry and not just crying to cry.</p> <p>@Sammyfab: thank you for clarifying that sleep training does not equal night weaning. I was wondering the same thing myself and very confused by this whole sleep training thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549427 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 17:47:51 +0000 hummusgirl 549427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was like yours until about 3.5 months, waking once a night around 2:30. We just went with it because it seemed reasonable at his age. He eventually started sleeping a solid 10 hour stretch around 3.5 months on his own. I'm thankful we haven't had to sleep train or night wean (though I'm hesitant to even write that because I don't want to jinx it). I'd keep doing what you're doing, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549388 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 17:21:03 +0000 Lozza 549388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say that if you are (reasonably) happy with your LO's current patterns, you have no need to sleep train. We started sleep training at 7 months because LO had never consistently slept more than 3 hours at a time, and I was a mess. Your LO is still little, and seems to be on a pretty good schedule- sounds to me like an "if it ain't broke" kind of situation... That said, you may hit the infamous 4 month sleep regression and decide you need to make some changes to preserve your own sanity.<br /> We focused on night weaning before changing anything about LO's going-to-bed routine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549332 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 16:39:46 +0000 sandy 549332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: sounds like your baby is doing awesome!! I think the biggest challenge is getting babies to fall asleep on their own and stay asleep. </p> <p>My LO was born big (80th percentile) and was always pretty big despite being EBF. I didn't have to train or wean her from night wakings...it was kind of by accident. Around 2.5 months she was sleeping 6-8 hrs before waking for a feeding...this seemed so reasonable for her to be hungry so I would rush in and feed her as soon as I heard her on the monitor. Well, one time I has to use the bathroom first so I took a bitt longer getting to her..by the time I got to her room she had fallen back asleep and stayed asleep for another 3 hrs! So I knew she wasn't starving or she would not have fallen back asleep for so long! </p> <p> I then realized that what I had been reading (Babywise and momsoncall) was true...some babies wake out of habit and if you give them a chance, they will fall back asleep. It's like when adults wake up in the middle of the night and just need to switch positions and fall back asleep. Sure, if you feed them, they will eat bc they aren't full, but they weren't necessarily waking out of hunger.</p> <p>So, after that first night, I decided I would just be a little slower getting to her...and sure enough, she would just fall back asleep for several more hours. Sometimes she would get a little worked up (not full out crying but not just fussing noises)...and sometimes it took her 10-15 minutes rather than 2-3 minutes...but she always went back to sleep for another 3-4 hrs. After a few days of this she just stopped waking up and started sleeping 11-12 hrs...and as she got older her sleep increased to 13-14 hrs...then around 12 months she's back to sleeping 12 hrs. </p> <p>So it may not be necessary to "sleep train" if you already had a good sleeper on your hands :). I know every baby is different but this is what worked for us :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549274 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 16:18:40 +0000 Sammyfab 549274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think your LO is doing really great!!!</p> <p>For reference, sleep training = teaching your LO how to fall asleep on their own. Sleep training =/= night weaning. Like pp have said, 1-2 nightfeeds is normal until 6 months and 1 nightfeed is normal until 9 months (and some say a year).</p> <p>If your LO is falling asleep on his own then he's technically sleep trained and he's waking up because he is genuinely hungry and not because he has any sleep associations. If he eventually does not fall back asleep after a nightfeed then I think it has become a habit and you can do some training to get him to sleep through that waking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549255 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 16:08:05 +0000 T.H.O.U. 549255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @babybeocksmom. I believe that a lot of babies may need to eat at least once at night and may only be able to go 6 or so hours (STTN definition). You can always try to start offering the paci or something when he cries at 3 but he may honestly be hungry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549241 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 16:00:52 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 549241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds like a pretty good schedule for a 3 month old. TBH, I don't think it sounds like you need to sleep train because it seems like he's still waking because he's hungry. We sleep trained DD around 6 months because she was waking 5 or 6 times a night, and there's no way she needed to eat that much. </p> <p>Once we sleep trained, she still woke 1-2x per night until around 8 months, and then she dropped to 1x per night until just recently at 1 yr. I know that's not typical, but she still needed the milk/formula overnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftm-here-can-someone-school-me-on-sleep-training#post-549230 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 15:56:52 +0000 mrsjyw 549230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS has been very good at falling asleep on his own. We swaddle, white noise, and put him down awake or drowsy and he falls asleep within minutes usually. I've been loosely following the EASY schedule and know his sleep times for naps and his bedtime is always 830ish. </p> <p>While he's not STTN (10+hours), he does have a pretty set nighttime schedule of 830 sleep, 230 nurse, 3 sleep, and he's up for the day around 7. </p> <p>He'll be hitting 3 months in a couple of weeks and I'm wondering how sleep training will apply to us as we try to get him to STTN (10+ hours), etc. As I hear the best time to sleep train is 3-5 months. </p> <p>Do we not have to train since he falls asleep on his own; or do we train as we night wean?... So confused. </p>