https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 30 Jun 2026 17:10:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2349581 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 16:24:09 +0000 babycanuck 2349581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old is your LO? 3 weeks<br /> What are you struggling with or learned so far? I learned that the hospital nurses sucked huge. They said I *had* to wake DS every 3 hours and *had* to feed for at least 30 minutes.</p> <p>I also realized I'm not reading any parenting books - I'll go with the flow and do what I have to do. So many years of parents before us who had no books, they did fine.</p> <p>I love my GP but adore her even more that we've had this little guy - she is so open about things and said do what my gut tells me.</p> <p>We aren't doing tummy time (he's managing to lift his head just fine), I'm just struggling with the lack of sleep so far, but slowly adjusting. He definitely prefers mommy over daddy right now, I hope that changes because I try to give daddy time every day when he gets home from work and I get so sad when DS cries because he's hungry and DH doesn't get as much time with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2349242 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 13:44:15 +0000 Herrade 2349242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My tiny is 5.5 months. Today's struggle is a nasty sinus cold that she got from me. She's on the high maintenance side, though mostly happy these days, so colds or other ailments really turn up the volume on her fussiness. Also, her first two teeth broke through last week -- we're thinking she's either cutting another tooth now, or the first two are still bothering her. ALSO, she just went ftom about six poops a day to one every other day, and that's freaking me out. ALSO, along with all of this, DST has wreaked havoc on her sleep, just as it was starting to get back to normal after a LONG 4-month sleep regression (5 weeks waking every 1-2 hours. Ahhhh!)</p> <p>@Torchwood: I struggle with the exact same anxiety. It took me 7 years to have my little peanut, and I feel so blessed. But I worry that the shoe is going to drop, and something is going to happen to take her away from me. Problem is, that totally robs the joy out of my life with her, so I'm trying to get it under control. I found a lot of really helpful tools here: <a href="http://www.anxietybc.com/parents/new-moms" rel="nofollow">http://www.anxietybc.com/parents/new-moms</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2349169 Mon, 09 Nov 2015 13:15:35 +0000 snowjewelz 2349169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 11 months </p> <p>Currently she has a cold so she's cranky/clingy! Thankfully she still STTN but is up at 6am (b/c she got sick right after DLS...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347690 Sat, 07 Nov 2015 19:19:40 +0000 simplyfelicity 2347690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great idea!</p> <p>DS is 4 months old (...when did that happen?!)</p> <p>What have I learned so far? Ummm...this would require a novel.<br /> What am I struggling with? Sleep at the moment. DS has been STTN since 2 months but we've recently switched him to the pnp and his sleep has gone downhill. I'm sure it's not really that bad compartively but mama got used to sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347650 Sat, 07 Nov 2015 17:10:24 +0000 brownepiano 2347650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@torchwood I've felt that way. We did baby led weaning and switched to wcm at 10 months because baby and I were both totally over bf. I never told the doctor. I figured if something was wrong then I'd tell him! He's pretty old school too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347638 Sat, 07 Nov 2015 16:37:07 +0000 Torchwood 2347638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsHangry: I know, right? I've got plenty if they want more! (She's been pooping pretty much every diaper this week, geez. 😣) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347576 Sat, 07 Nov 2015 13:54:20 +0000 MsHangry 2347576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: $20 for a poop? That is awesome! Here I am just throwing away money ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347234 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 16:15:19 +0000 Torchwood 2347234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tofuwad: We cobed too, and I don't tell the ped for sure. I did say she sleeps in a sleep nest in our bed, but really we only used that VERY briefly and it's long since been moved to the living room as a pet bed. Even that upset them, and the nest is essentially a mini-crib in our bed- no risk of bedding getting on her or us rolling or anything.</p> <p>Though part of our problem is that our ped's office is part of a teaching hospital. There are fully certified doctors overseeing everything, but the ones we meet with are residents. So they have virtually no leeway in what they have to recommend. I'm thinking about switching for that reason, but I like that there are always research studies we can be a part of. It's neat, it helps advance medical research, and it starts building LO's savings. We're getting $20 this week for a poop sample! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347127 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 14:45:22 +0000 tofuwad 2347127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamag511: I don't even know if she hates tummy time, it's almost just like she's compelled to roll as much as possible!</p> <p>I strapped her into the bouncer because I needed to shower, and once she stopped trying to roll out of the chair, she seemed to relax and it was the happiest she had been all day! Almost like as soon as I lay her down she just HAS to roll, even though she doesn't want to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347089 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 14:23:14 +0000 tofuwad 2347089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: I worry sometimes about accidentally letting slip to the pedi that we cosleep. I actually never knew it was controversial until HB. We practice safe cobedding and I love that's she's so close and all I have to do to check up on her is open my eyes.</p> <p>Even typing this out I feel like cobedding is something you have to justify and if I told the pedi I'd have to spend a lot of time explaining why I feel like my parenting choices are correct. I hate keeping things from him because I do like him, but I don't need a lecture about this. I know that whatever he says won't change my mind, and whatever I say won't change his, so it's better just to not bring it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2347075 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 14:15:52 +0000 whenoceansrise 2347075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 10.5 months<br /> Currently struggling with sleep. apparantly my child hates sleep and for the last month hasn't given me any stretches of sleep longer than 2 hours. I feel like I'm in the newborn stage all over again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2346980 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 13:03:00 +0000 LindsayLou 2346980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Honestly, I think we just got lucky with my kiddo's awesome night sleep. She's in a bassinet in our room, and in the last month I've started bringing her back to bed with me if she wakes up early. My husband is already up by this time, so there's plenty of space to get her safely settled. I'm too nervous to have her in our bed at night, at least while she's still so little, but I also tend to be a worrier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343734 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 02:54:45 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2343734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayLou: Oh man...my guy is just a little older and our nighttime sleep had never been great...but tonight we're getting up every 1-2 hours! :bummed:</p> <p>ETA: Are you cosleeping? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343731 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 01:37:00 +0000 LindsayLou 2343731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great idea for a thread!</p> <p>My daughter is 10 weeks.</p> <p>My greatest struggle right now is how she wants to be held all day long, awake or asleep. She sleeps awesome at night, but during the day she won't sleep for more than 2 minutes without being on me. And awake, she's good for maybe five minutes, if she's in a good mood and then screaming ensues. I love holding her, I'm a huge fan of babywearing...but a little space would go a long way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343722 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 00:26:50 +0000 Torchwood 2343722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, am I the only one who struggles with being entirely honest with the pediatrician? I know I have authority issues, so that's a factor. And we don't follow all mainstream parenting "rules." (We don't do tummy time, for example.) But I almost get defensive when they're asking about developmental milestones. They need to know if she's delayed! She's not, but I need to tell them if I have concerns, not want to hide it, which is my instinct. I think the new ped we saw will help. The first one was a bit of a condescending ass, but this one seems better. It's extra hard not to want to insist your child is a prodigy when someone's acting like you're a moron for delaying a vaccine (the hep b pen, because I'm not that worried that she's going to be catching any std's between now and age 1 when we plan to have her get it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343719 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 00:17:54 +0000 Torchwood 2343719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Good idea! </p> <p>LO is 19w, 12w adjusted. I think the main area I'm having issue is anxiety. BFing still is far from perfect, but it's so much better that I can live with it. But I'm struggling with worrying. I hear stories about things happening to babies/kids, and I get so upset (really need to stop reading historical fiction- the infant mortality rate used to suck!). I check that she's breathing a lot. So far I honestly don't think it's to a level that I need to seek help, it just sucks. Though part of me is afraid that if I do something about the anxiety, I'll get lax and something bad will happen. Or not so much that it will, but if it did would I wonder if I could have done more if I hadn't tried to be more laid back. I overthink these things! </p> <p>I dunno. Overall I'm loving being a mommy and I love this sweet girl. That's the important part! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343676 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 21:51:53 +0000 MrsBrewer 2343676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 5 months. Naps are a little difficult, because she never takes longer than a 30 minute nap! But it works for her, she's not cranky and sleeps awesome at night. I'm thinking maybe she's just not much of a napper.<br /> I'm struggling with coping with her teething pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343578 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 20:02:43 +0000 FaithFertility 2343578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 10.5 months!!</p> <p>Current struggle is DLS :( she is up WAY to early! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343567 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 19:51:23 +0000 Mamag511 2343567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tofuwad: I remember that with the rolling! I swear my dd learned how to roll over because she hated tummy time so much!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343566 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 19:50:02 +0000 Mamag511 2343566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great thread!</p> <p>6 months next week</p> <p>Our current struggle is naps. She's never been a good napper and with her first day of daycare starting this week it's gotten so much worse. I'm hoping once she settles in it'll get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343516 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 18:36:55 +0000 MsHangry 2343516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>5.5 months</p> <p>Struggling with sleep. More specifically, naps. His sleep has always been a very rough thing and luckily in the last few weeks he has started getting a clear nighttime schedule with just one wake up to nurse. But his naps... We have been trying to nap train and I think we are going to stop for a few weeks and try again later. </p> <p>At least his MSPI is under control with my diet restricted and he has been loving the purée foods so far! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343494 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 17:56:09 +0000 tofuwad 2343494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for doing this!</p> <p>I'm currently struggling with two things: finding the will to exercise and bedtime. </p> <p>DD is 14 weeks and fairly hard to settle at night. It's the one time of day that we nurse to sleep so that may be part of it. But a big part is the fact that we live in a small studio apartment. So I can't put her in her crib because we are still up and about and it's just too much activity and light. So I just end up in bed with her from about 7pm and it's starting to wear on me. I love cosleeping but I'd love it more if I could get her into the crib for the first part of the night. </p> <p>And she's so so determined to roll! It's adorable but I feel like she's way too young to be trying this. But whenever I put her on her back she immiately starts trying to roll onto her belly. And she can almost do it except she has one arm stuck under her, so she gets upset. And when I put her down for tummy time, she immediately rolls onto her back and it starts again! Thank god she so crazy adorable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343040 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 12:34:28 +0000 FliegepilzHut 2343040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 13weeks today! I hear you on "cleaner"...but I feel like the diaper area is the only really dirty area, and it's being cleaned multiple times per day. Everything else can be spot-cleaned (and he gets a bath on average twice per week)! :silly: </p> <p>The best thing I've learned had been related to those age-adjusted sleep tables-- if DS is awake more than 2 hours, he's going to be over-tired and cranky.</p> <p>Also, I'm feeling pretty nervous about returning to work... :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ftms-chat#post-2343019 Tue, 03 Nov 2015 12:19:52 +0000 BSB 2343019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I figure it would be nice to have a place to share our struggles or things we've learned since becoming a mom.</p> <p>How old is your LO?<br /> What are you struggling with or learned so far?</p> <p>I'll start.<br /> My b/g twins are almost 8 weeks and I'm still finding areas where milk collects. Even after a bath. First, it was neck folds, then armpit and now I found some in their ear. I feel bad that they aren't 'cleaner'. </p>