https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 09:31:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144745 Wed, 02 May 2012 10:59:09 +0000 mamimami 144745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For starters, she won't know you're in labor unless you tell her. We told no one until AFTER my baby was born. So I am not sure how far away she is, but that might affect how long it takes her to arrive! I personally feel that telling anyone you're in labor will guarantee it's a longer process than if you don't tell anyone. It adds stress knowing other people are out there going, "WELL? WAS THE BABY BORN YET? HOW ABOUT NOW?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144727 Wed, 02 May 2012 10:31:38 +0000 purrpletulips 144727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't have anyone stay with us until LO was 7 days old when my parents came to stay with us because DH had to go out of town for a conference. They stayed 3 nights then went home right after he returned. My MIL came and stayed a week when LO was 2 weeks old. When #2 arrives, my parents will be here so they can care for her while I'm in the hospital but they won't stay longer than a day or two after my release. MIL says she plans to come for a week again but I've already told DH he has to be here at that time and it won't be for a couple weeks (she wasn't really any help last time and I don't see that changing this time). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144287 Tue, 01 May 2012 19:37:30 +0000 Boogs 144287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one stayed with us since all our parents live fairly close. Having visitors all day every day was bad enough. Had anyone spent the night I probably would have lost it. You know what you're comfortable with, so put your foot down for what you want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144284 Tue, 01 May 2012 19:33:56 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 144284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@betsyboop: Good for you! Stand up for what you want. We had no visitors for a couple of weeks and it was a great chance to adjust by ourselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144254 Tue, 01 May 2012 19:17:16 +0000 betsyboop 144254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for your input, everyone :) I feel bad telling my MIL that she can't stay but my mom can, but as @lemondrop said, I don't want to feel obligated to clean and be a host. She's always been pushy about coming to visit, and in the past I've given in, but this time I'm just going to say no. I'll have my husband firmly tell her. Thank you ladies for making me feel like I'm not being a mean, inconsiderate DIL!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144215 Tue, 01 May 2012 18:39:52 +0000 lemondrop 144215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My gut reaction: noooo! Our first few nights we didn't have anyone, which was great! My IL's came for a week after that, it was good, but I couldn't have handled more than that. Even though they don't expect it, I still felt like I had to clean and be a host- this is not the time to do that. My parents came into town for the day a few times, but after they left I was exhausted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144207 Tue, 01 May 2012 18:32:28 +0000 MsMini 144207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just had our LO a week ago, and when I came home, we had a full house shortly thereafter. I got home friday, and by saturday night we had 9 people staying with us. I did cancel a group of family with kids that were to come that first night because the ides of kids running around overwhelmed me (which ruffled some feathers). It was a bit hectic, but I am glad our families had time with our LO as a newborn, since then all live 2-3 hours away. We only had people for 2 nights though, then everyone but my Mom went home. My Mom left today, and I am feeling ready now to just be me, DH and LO. I have no regrets about the guests we had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144204 Tue, 01 May 2012 18:30:31 +0000 cupcakemama 144204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was just us, which was really nice. We didn't worry too much about household chores, just concentrated on LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144200 Tue, 01 May 2012 18:27:26 +0000 MamaMoose 144200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you don't want your MIL there right away say so!! She doesn't get to "make it clear" what will happen... You do! I've already told my husband that for the first week it will be just us. Then my parents will come and stay with us... Probably for a week. Then once my parents leave my in laws will be invited. My recovery and adjustment to life with a baby will be the deciding factors on whether my in laws are invited to stay at our home or at the hotel down the street. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144148 Tue, 01 May 2012 17:57:08 +0000 chopsuey 144148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just my mom. I have no idea how we're going to do things when #2 arrives. We'll truly have a full house.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144110 Tue, 01 May 2012 17:41:13 +0000 heffalump 144110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't have anyone staying with us, thank goodness. It's stressful enough coming home with a newborn, and I was half naked most of the time because my nipples were killing me so it felt better to have air on them then clothes. Both of our parents live here so they would visit daily to bring food, help clean, etc. But they always left to go home, and we were able to have time to ourselves as a family. </p> <p>Could you have your DH talk to your MIL? Especially since it's such a small place, maybe she could just stay in a hotel and come visit, but not stay there at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/full-house-after-delivery#post-144106 Tue, 01 May 2012 17:38:05 +0000 betsyboop 144106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many people did you have staying with you when you came home with your LO from the hospital? </p> <p>I'm kind of stressed because I feel like our home is going to be too chaotic with both mothers around! I know I'm going to be exhausted, hormonal, a wreck, etc. My mother will be staying with us for at least a month to help cook and clean, etc. I don't mind having her here because I'm obviously comfortable around her and have no issues putting my foot down if she makes suggestions I don't agree with, but my MIL has made it clear that she intends to come up once I am in labor and may be staying for a couple extra days after we bring the LO home. She's a nurse and will most certainly have "suggestions" related to my recovery and care of the baby. She doesn't seem to think it's a problem that there will be 4 adults and 1 baby staying in our 2-bedroom condo! </p> <p>For the experienced mamas out there, what are your thoughts? </p>