https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 02:28:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569292 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 16:30:04 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 569292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daughter didn't really care, she just wanted her "baby".</p> <p>@Honeybee: So cute about your DD :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569278 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 16:19:46 +0000 lemondrop 569278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me! I was 4 when my brother was born and I desperately wanted a sister. 27 years later I have finally accepted him- j/k! I still dressed him up and put makeup on him when he was too small to run away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569260 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 16:11:36 +0000 Honeybee 569260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was convinced her sibling was a girl. She even called DS "baby sis" for the first few months of his life! The great thing about babies is that they really don't have a gender for the first 6-12 months of their lives. Baby girl and baby boys are pretty much the same thing at the beginning, excepting diaper change logistics. DD very quickly accepted that she had a brother after DS was born, and soon she forgot all about wanting a sister instead. Once the baby is actually born, I think most kids do just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569196 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 15:43:28 +0000 Mrsbells 569196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think at that age kids change their minds so much and they will definitely get over any "disappointment" quickly </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569190 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 15:39:31 +0000 Dandelion 569190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS really wanted me to be having a brother for him and cried when the ultrasound found a girl. But, that was 4 months ago and he's come around since then. Mostly, cause there's not much he can do to change it, so he better just learn to love it, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569114 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 15:03:57 +0000 runsyellowlites 569114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@andrea86: I don't think they'll have much, if any, disappointment once they meet their sibling. Before hand it's all so "abstract" so it's easy to be disappointed or think we a certain outcome, but once baby gets here &amp; baby can be seen/felt/heard it all becomes irrelavent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569108 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 14:59:43 +0000 andrea86 569108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sorrycharlie: I was the same way when my youngest brother was born. I was 8 and already had 2 brothers. When my mom said the next baby was going to be a boy I still held on to hope of a girl. However, I also LOVED babies. I couldnt wait to play Mom with the baby and was beyond excited to have a real life baby!</p> <p>@Foodnerd: See, I'm slightly worried about when they are older too. The twins naturally have an amazing relationship already. If this baby is a boy, I don't want it to be "left out". I'm sure I'm way overthinking this....</p> <p>@Runsyellowlites: You are so right! Either plan could turn out perfect or completely backfire on me! YIKES! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569083 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 14:48:11 +0000 T.H.O.U. 569083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an older nephew who really wanted our LO to be a boy so that he could have a boy cousin. I agree that he was upset when he verbally heard the news (he actually cried) but when he met her it was over and he was happy to play with the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569076 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 14:46:03 +0000 runsyellowlites 569076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS who is 8 REALLY wanted a brother!!!! We were team green as well and upon birth he found out he was the proud big brother of a baby SISTER!</p> <p>He was disappointed upon the verbal news BUT fell in love with her as soon as he held her and met her. He's been a proud big brother ever since!</p> <p>I know for him, having found out before hand would've almost for sure added to the length of his disappointment and he probably would've wondered if there was a way we could change it (the gender). Once he had that connection and could actually see/feel her though he couldn't have cared less what he initially "wanted".</p> <p>I do think a gender reveal where you make it all really exciting might work though.... then again it could backfire. =/ Idk... kids are so hard to read on how they react. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569068 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 14:44:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 569068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think they will get over that quickly. DH was sure his youngest brother would be a sister, and really really wanted it to be. His mom asked why and he said, well, I already HAVE a brother... like, duh, mom. He gets along very well with that brother, 26 years later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569065 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 14:43:49 +0000 sorrycharlie 569065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would only talk about having a baby sister (I was 4.5 when my brother was born). When he was born a boy, I could not have cared any less! I was just SOOO excited to have a real life baby of my "own" to "play" with :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-disappointment-in-older-children#post-569057 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 14:41:32 +0000 andrea86 569057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of these gender disappointment posts and blogs have got me thinking. Do any of you have experience with your older child being disappointed about having a baby brother or sister? My 4 year old twin boys REALLY want a little sister. Any time you talk to either of them about the baby they insist that it's a girl and wont even entertain the idea of having a baby brother. I'm worried that if we do have a boy they will be disappointed and not accept the baby. I've tried really hard to involve them with the pregnancy and they are beyond excited for the baby to come... as long as its a girl. YIKES! I'm thinking this might have something to do with them being twins and not wanting to let another brother into their "bubble". </p> <p>Anyways, we were team green, but now I'm pretty sure we will be finding out at our next ultrasound so we can prepare them to be happy for the baby - boy or girl! Plus we think it will be fun to do a gender reveal "party" with just DH and the kiddos. Maybe that will help build some excitement, just in case we are blessed with a baby boy! </p>