https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 02:03:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-371319 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 06:49:53 +0000 heffalump 371319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I am! That being said I'm not pregnant or TTC yet.... so I could also just be all talk :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369538 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:22:49 +0000 blackbird 369538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove, but it was just a minute, though! And i think a lot of that is just shock. If you're upset about it a month, two months, three months later, that's not ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369533 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:20:41 +0000 Honeybee 369533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were Team Green both times, and I have to admit that I was nervous about potentially having a boy the second time around. DD was such a good baby, and I figured I already "knew" what it was like to have a girl, so having a boy seemed scarier. I was worried for absolutely no reason. :) Boys are incredible and wonderful and every bit as good as girls... and DS did wear some of DD's hand-me-downs when he was little. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369264 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:55:13 +0000 T.H.O.U. 369264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: Thats great you were team green for both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369232 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:43:17 +0000 Mrs. Pen 369232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: if you don't have another girl I will totally buy all your hand me downs ;)</p> <p>Yup, I was there. I wanted a girl SO BADLY that when I was told it was a boy I was upset and it took a few weeks to accept it. Now my son is 8 months old and I could totally see myself being content with a house of boys lol. But I do still want a girl someday :) here's hoping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369224 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:40:28 +0000 ValentineMommy 369224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's totally normal to feel guilt. DH and I BOTH cried when we found out our LO is a boy - I wanted a girl so badly, and I think DH was more upset for me than anything else. You'll get over it, either way! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369213 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:36:27 +0000 autumnlove 369213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: @MamaMoose: @PrincessBaby: I will admit that I cried when I found out LO was a girl because I was so convinced it was a boy. DH and the ultrasound tech looked at me like I was insane. It was only for a minute and I got excited about a girl before we left the ultrasound place! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369202 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:31:06 +0000 purrpletulips 369202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green both pregnancies. With our first I really made an effort not to get my expectations for one gender too high, although I deep down thought I was having a boy. When DD was born I was thrilled and never looked back. With my second, I preferred a girl for all the same reasons you said; we already had girl things, the kids have to share a room so it would be easier, etc. When DS was born I think I went into a mild state of shock because I had wrapped my mind around a second girl so much. I will honestly say that it took a couple weeks but I am as much in love with him as I am with my daughter and feel truly blessed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369192 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:26:59 +0000 wheres_c 369192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only ever saw myself having one child, and I always envisioned that to be a girl.<br /> Surprise! That wasn't what was in store for me.<br /> I'm really really excited to be having this little boy, but I hope that #2 will be a girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369169 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:10:17 +0000 blackbird 369169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am kind of relieved to have a girl because I know what to 'expect' :) And I am really excited about all the super cute girly stuff!</p> <p>As long as you don't get all depressed and cry and get super sad about it, it's normal. That, I think, is an unhealthy response. I know for the second baby, I will be hoping we have a boy :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369163 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:06:06 +0000 Andrea 369163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: heh, it is always fun to find out earlier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369132 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:42:31 +0000 chopsuey 369132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took me almost a month to get used to the idea of having a boy.. I really wanted a girl too!<br /> Now I couldn't be more excited :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369119 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:36:49 +0000 MamaMoose 369119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently pregnant with our first. And I really will be thrilled either way. But I know for a fact that next time I will REALLY REALLY want the opposite gender of what we get the first time around. I think it's natural to have a preference. As long as you don't become overly disappointed, or allow it affect the way you view the child, then don't feel guilty! I will say though I've never understood people who have a really intense negative reaction to gender like crying or something. You still have a healthy child even if it's not exactly what you imagined and that is always something to be greatful for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369099 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:25:43 +0000 PrincessBaby 369099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Do it earlier! It's so worth it! </p> <p>I think gender guilt is normal! I DEFINITELY wanted a boy with this pregnancy- and it took a few days to get over the fact that we're having a girl, but now I cannot for the life of me imagine her being anything other than a girl!</p> <p>And as much as I wanted a boy, I also want another girl so that H can have a sister and we can re-use stuff! I have a feeling this is going to turn into a 3-kid situation just to see if we can get one more of each! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369091 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:20:49 +0000 autumnlove 369091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Officially on Dec 10th! Maybe I will do an elective scan a little earlier! I'm at 14 weeks so I probably need to be 16 weeks? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369088 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:19:15 +0000 Andrea 369088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You'll be excited either way! When do you find out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369082 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:13:20 +0000 autumnlove 369082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Are you still planning to go Team Green? :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-369075 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:06:23 +0000 T.H.O.U. 369075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am kinda the same way. I am not sure I want a boy now! I love my little girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-368999 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 06:16:43 +0000 heffalump 368999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's only natural.</p> <p>Next time we have a baby I'm very undecided about what I want. Id love another girl because I love all things girly and I think it would be nice for lo to have a sister. But dh really wants a boy and I want him to get what he wants and it would be nice to have one of each. So I can honestly say I don't care. </p> <p>Last time I couldnt say that. I had to convince myself id be happy if I had a boy and make myself get excited about boy things just in case.... but we had a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gender-guilt#post-368920 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 06:00:00 +0000 autumnlove 368920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I feel bad for wanting another girl for practical reasons...I know what to expect and we can reuse all of our LO's clothes!</p> <p>Of course, I would be thrilled with a boy too...I can't wait to find out the gender! </p>