https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 05:05:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845291 Thu, 13 Sep 2018 18:38:06 +0000 Littlebit7 2845291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbubbletea: what is it with the feet! Gah! My daughter just incessantly pulls, tickles, licks, hits, pinches and bites my 8 month olds feet. Always. It’s the worst when I wear them; she grabs hold and just pulls. It drives me insane (and it really ticks her baby brother off too) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845144 Thu, 13 Sep 2018 09:25:32 +0000 snowjewelz 2845144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with babywearing, and also maybe tasking him with something specific to help? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845133 Thu, 13 Sep 2018 08:58:35 +0000 jennlin821 2845133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My impression is that he's not hurting the baby - not hitting or poking, but rubbing or touching like he want to be close to baby? If that is the case, could you set aside some specific time for him to hold/cuddle the baby? If his love language is touch, he may be trying to show/receive love for/from his sibling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845120 Thu, 13 Sep 2018 08:23:25 +0000 DesertDreams88 2845120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I noticed also in our situation, LO1 got mad and hit if I tried to take baby away too soon without warning, so I had to do countdowns and say it was<br /> Mommy's turn to hold her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845102 Thu, 13 Sep 2018 07:27:23 +0000 brownepiano 2845102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked a lot about giving space and it he couldn't give his brother some space to play then he got in trouble. He understood because he didn't like when baby messed with his stuff (which is minimal early but picks up quickly). Honestly we still have to talk about not playing rough or stealing toys or just leaving each other alone at 4.5 and 2, so you might as well start now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845084 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 23:49:43 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2845084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote separate them. (Like in different physical spaces, if you can do that without being too far away from one.) Daddy/grandparent/aunt/uncle time is helpful too. I wasn't super comfortable wearing them all day long at that age especially with the constant need to change them anyway. Also, just being proactive with facilitating their interactions until that becomes more natural for your toddler. I had a little bit of a rough time helping my middle through the transition because I was super cognizant of his being the middle and it being hard to be not the baby but not the biggest either. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845081 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 22:41:54 +0000 DesertDreams88 2845081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hitting-newborn-advice-needed" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hitting-newborn-advice-needed</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845080 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 22:38:21 +0000 DesertDreams88 2845080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a couple former posts on this subject, I think. </p> <p>Avoiding touch:<br /> - babywearing<br /> - putting baby on the activity mat in a separate room and/or in a seat in front of a mirror, bonus if it's in a room with a video monitor so you can watch<br /> - go out as much as possible ... library, inside bounce houses and play gyms, walks and driveway and yards if good weather<br /> - lots of baths and new bath toys for your 3 year old<br /> - new books from the library, my LO loves the BIG books right now with real pics</p> <p>Structuring positive touch / interactions:<br /> - telling him how to interact with baby: "rub her ______" "count her _____" "hold her _______"<br /> - initiating peekaboo, "this little piggy", its bitsy spider, wheels on the bus, patty cake, etc<br /> - LO likes to play his instruments for her</p> <p>IT WILL GET BETTER </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845078 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 21:32:28 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2845078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, baby wear, rock and play, pack and play, etc. We also tried not to worry about it too much unless it was really to the level of pestering, and the novelty started to wear off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845077 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 21:28:20 +0000 bhbee 2845077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: agree rock n play is better but he basically climbs half in it 😱</p> <p>@crazydoglady: that’s a good plan, I probably need to do it anyway to get through the next month. Thank goodness for 3 mornings of preschool a week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845076 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 21:26:08 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2845076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: it’s so annoying. And your description of the natural consequences and how now it’s goingnto take longer before I can spend time with the big kid... exactly. Still, at almost 11m! I know that my older son has had the best behavior when I just do my best to give him the most attention I can, and when he gets super handsy with the baby I just have to redirect him. I never got to use the play mat/baby gym for this very reason, whenever baby girl would be engaged for a precious minute in a toy, he would come aggressively cuddle her feet or whatever and she’d cry. Ugh it’s blood boiling! It gets better as baby gets hardier and can play and interact! I think this is your third so you know that of course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845064 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 20:06:51 +0000 crazydoglady 2845064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: So we aren't there yet, but my sister has a baby the same age and four older children :shocked: and her answer is to babywear constantly. If her kids are super engaged in something, she takes the baby out, otherwise, he's in the carrier. She has the nesting days carrier (its like a shirt vs SSC and she loves it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845062 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 20:03:37 +0000 Foodnerd81 2845062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh that’s hard. Is there anywhere you can put the baby that’s out of reach from the toddler? Like a bouncy seat up on a kitchen island? (That doesn’t sound terribly safe now that I suggested it...) I remember the rock and play was better than a bouncy seat on the floor but wasn’t perfect. She could still reach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-3yo-to-leave-baby-alone#post-2845061 Wed, 12 Sep 2018 19:56:44 +0000 bhbee 2845061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need some tips for my sanity 😬</p> <p>3.5yo is ALWAYS touching the baby (1 month old so getting more into fussy stage). I get that he loves her and he’s a very physical person in all aspects of life but it’s making me crazy - mostly because he keeps doing whatever to her until she cries. I don’t like how much I’m yelling at him but the listening is nil and natural consequences (she’s crying loudly, I can’t do something for/with him because he made her upset, etc) aren’t helping. </p> <p>I don’t want to punish him but not sure how to motivate him to leave her alone at least some of the time?? My first wasn’t so touchy so this is new to me. Thank you for any ideas! I think this week has been extra bad because it’s been rainy and he has pent up energy. </p>