https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 01:35:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-dh-to-help-more#post-310438 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 19:15:55 +0000 T.H.O.U. 310438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caffeinated: Thanks. I know part of it is just not having the time to talk it out. I got upset tonight and he said "don't take it out on me" meaning PMSing and being home with a sick baby but I told him, I was honestly mad at him (left dinner on the counter until 8 pm that I worked so hard to make and have ready for him when he got home today). </p> <p>I really think I may try to come up with a draft chore chart and see how he reacts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-dh-to-help-more#post-310432 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 19:11:11 +0000 Freckles 310432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the beginning, DH always wanted me to help him with bath time. After a few weeks, i told him i thought it would be a good idea if he "owns" this one task with LO and have it be their thing. He was reluctant (though he knew he was going to have to do it alone one day) but only because he wasn't confident enough to do it alone. I think it's sometimes hard for guys, especially if they feel like it's the mom's job to attend to LO. Maybe you can pre-emptively ask him if you could have the night off as you need the sleep and see what he says?</p> <p>Have you talked to him about it? When i feel like he isn't doing enough LO-related stuff, i bring it up and we talk through it. Pre-baby, we did a chore chart because i told him i don't want to be a nagging wife. It worked well -- he liked having a list to complete by the end of each week (even if i was the one who wrote it out). Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-dh-to-help-more#post-310415 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 18:58:32 +0000 T.H.O.U. 310415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Grrr.... I need to vent for a minute. I know part of the issue is that I have been home with a sick baby for the last 24 hours pretty much alone. </p> <p>I just need some help getting DH to help out more. There are times that he is super helpful but other things its like pulling teeth. All he wants to do in the evenings is cook dinner (which I really appreciate) but then he wants to sit and read or watch tv or go to the gym. We have a lot more chores that need to get done besides just cooking dinner. When I try to get him to take turns doing stuff, he always wants me to help him. For example, Sunday night I got up with the baby and gave her tylenol and a bottle and got her back to sleep. Last night she was up so he went to get her and snarkily said "Are you going to come help". Well no, I was already sleeping and I handled it just fine on my own last night so I was hoping you could handle it on your own tonight. </p> <p>Has anyone successfully implemented a chore chart with DH? I think we also need to take turn meal planning since I know he feels like he does a lot of that (but I've been trying to help but receive no credit when I do try to help). </p>