https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 16:34:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193585 Fri, 29 May 2015 14:16:34 +0000 mrbee 2193585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Totally know what you mean! I do think he needs the time... but most of all, I want to respect the teacher's system! Especially since she has 24 students in her class... seems crazy to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193502 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:57:09 +0000 looch 2193502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: does your son need that time to settle down?</p> <p>I am not sure I'd be stressing myself out to get him there unless it was because of your schedule, for example. Sometimes there is value to being the last one in the door. I realize I am being a contrarian here, but I tend to create a lot of stress for myself around being on time, and I am trying to avoid that for my son. My husband, he's Swiss, so he's a clock inside, lol. He is perfectly on time, all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193499 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:55:45 +0000 Mamaof2 2193499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: ah I see.</p> <p>I have resorted to using a timer for my kids in the mornings. I usually give them 5 mins to finish eating or putting shoes, whatever needs to be done. When the timer goes off we leave even if you are still eating - shoes can be put on in the car if needed. While I have that 5 mins I load all my stuff and the kids stuff in the car so its all ready!</p> <p>Its been working great for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193493 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:52:14 +0000 mrbee 2193493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: Dropoff is between 8:30 and 8:45. If you're much later than that, you get a tardy and have to go to the front office to get to class. We haven't been tardy yet though!</p> <p>My son's teacher uses that 15 minutes though, to get the kids working on activities and adjusted to being in the classroom. So my goal is to drop him off between 8:25 and 8:30... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193473 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:43:26 +0000 Mamaof2 2193473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: does the school not have a policy on being tardy? At our school if you are late you have to go thru the front office and fill out a tardy sheet - not sure what the penalty is for excessive tardiness - </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193461 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:37:47 +0000 mrbee 2193461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Yah other kids are late all the time and the teacher is too busy getting the kids adjusted to say anything. I don't blame her at all though! It's something I need to teach him to value... just not sure how to get there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193455 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:34:18 +0000 looch 2193455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: what happens if you're late at school though? Does your son not care because he sees other kids coming late and nothing is done about it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193419 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:05:35 +0000 Truth Bombs 2193419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: Honest to God, my husband's lateness is probably the biggest fight in our marriage. I know in the grand scheme of things are are darn lucky if this is our biggest issue, but man it makes me crazy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193415 Fri, 29 May 2015 12:03:53 +0000 mrbee 2193415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Great tips, will try that out - thanks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193385 Fri, 29 May 2015 11:27:36 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2193385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: We recently had to bring it up when we were going to a birthday party the other weekend. I told her that we had to get there on time because they were waiting for all the kids to get there so they could all go swim and start the party activities. I didn't really use the word respect but just that we wouldn't want to make her friends wait and wouldn't want to miss the activities. </p> <p>If they are just doing free play in the morning at school though that might not work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193373 Fri, 29 May 2015 11:15:52 +0000 mrbee 2193373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Will have to think about that one! Not sure if he gets the concept respect yet... just judging from some of the things he says to me sometimes haha!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193372 Fri, 29 May 2015 11:14:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2193372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: also, I totally geeked out and drew some pie charts and bar graphs for my daughter one day. I was actually surprised she kinda got the concept. I shaded blue her "getting ready time" and pink her "play time". I showed how if she spent lots of time getting ready she would only be left with a little bit of ply time (this was getting ready for bed). The visuals definitely helped though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193368 Fri, 29 May 2015 11:12:53 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2193368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: maybe there is an even simpler natural consequence. Like he doesn't get to pick the hook his back back gets hung on if he's late. </p> <p>What does the classroom do during drop off? Do they start into any group activity that you could talk to him about giving other people respect so they don't have to wait for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193367 Fri, 29 May 2015 11:12:18 +0000 aegie 2193367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>maybe for every minute he's late to school, he has to go to bed that many minutes earlier? So it's not REALLY a punishment but still has consequences. If it's just a matter of being 5 minutes late, it probably won't bother him, but if you guys are 15-20 minutes late, it would definitely be noticeable if you're going to sleep at 7:40 vs 8. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193363 Fri, 29 May 2015 11:10:39 +0000 mrbee 2193363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Great idea! I worry though that he'd want to do it even on days that we're running late. I would have to say no to him, which might cause problems when we're in a hurry?</p> <p>On the other hand, maybe this is just the natural consequences we need! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193347 Fri, 29 May 2015 10:59:54 +0000 BoogieBea 2193347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son just has no sense of urgency. I've been trying to figure this out too. Lately though he's been really into telling time. He got a watch from my cousin last year. He's been wearing it more recently. He knows when he needs to get to school and what time we need to leave to get there on time so he's been able to watch his own time. He's still slow but he has been better recently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193346 Fri, 29 May 2015 10:59:50 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2193346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there something he can miss out on if he's late? Maybe if you leave on time (or 5 minutes early) you find time to stop and do something special on the way to school. If not he looses that treat. I'm thinking something simple like play hopscotch or riding on your shoulders or something </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193334 Fri, 29 May 2015 10:49:17 +0000 rachiecakes 2193334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gonna follow this one - my husband doesn't care if he's late either and never thinks it's a big deal. It drives me crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-kids-to-care-about-being-on-time#post-2193330 Fri, 29 May 2015 10:45:47 +0000 mrbee 2193330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every weekday morning, we have to get to my son's elementary school before his class starts at 8:30 am. We wake up wit plenty of time but it can still be challenging though, as he doesn't really care if we are on time or not! We used to look at the time and talk about how many minutes we had before class started, and that worked for a while. But at the end of the day, he just doesn't value being on time! So he will delay at times and it makes us late.</p> <p>I've been trying to figure out a way to instill the importance of timeliness as a core value. Any ideas? Would love to hear what worked for you (and how old you were) and also, what's working for your kids! </p>