https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 01 Jul 2026 20:39:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own/page/2#post-739224 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 10:12:26 +0000 mrskc 739224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: yeah we used to leave it on in our bedroom too. Once we left it on for an hour in the middle of the night b/c DH and I both fell back asleep. Lol. I just mentioned it b/c our nanny one time left it on for his entire nap in the nursery with the door shut. That worried me so I told her not to do that anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-738571 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 02:00:07 +0000 Smurfette 738571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: she is still sleeping in our room. I don't want to move her into the nursery until she is sleeping better at night. It is on the other end of the house. But I did tell DH tonight that we should try and have him move the vacuum slowly out of the room instead if just turning if off next time. Still amazed me how fast it calmed her down!</p> <p>@Mrs. High Heels: I will have to go back and look for your blog post on sleeping training. I hope we have only a couple more weeks or led this. I don't know how much more I can take. I dread the evenings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-738521 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 23:52:43 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 738521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: we just made our way out of the horrible 6-7 week stage (J just turned 8-weeks on Friday). Like Edelweiss mentioned, I did sleep train DD at the 6-week mark, but I haven't had the heart to do it this second time around, and my second one is a much easier baby so I haven't been at my wits end with sleep yet.</p> <p>Anyway, back to my point - right when J hit 8-weeks he's been so much more predictable and easier to put down. I had to shhh and bounce my way through weeks 6 through 8, and somehow survived. It's right at the peak of fussiness for most babies, and it also coincides with a wonder week. Not a fun time, but you'll get through it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-738491 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 23:06:00 +0000 mrskc 738491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: yes. This was the tricky part. We would wait until he was asleep and then turn it off 5-10 min after he fell asleep. And it didn't always work but it worked most of the time. Eventually we slowly stopped using it to get him to sleep. It took time tho. And there were times that the vacuum was on 30 min - 1 hour. Just don't leave the vacuum on with the door shut. We would position it at the door so that the hot air blew out of the nursery. Sometimes DH would slowly wheel it away so the sound slowly went away rather than just shutting it off abruptly. I'm glad it at least calmed her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-738345 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 21:05:20 +0000 Smurfette 738345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: DH broke out the vacuum tonight to calm her when I went out to dinner with a friend. Then it quieted her down when putting her to sleep but as soon as we turned it off she woke up. DH said that happened to him earlier. Did you deal with that?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-738140 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 19:27:36 +0000 shopaholic 738140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I started a bedtime routine about 2 weeks ago. Not that I think it puts her to sleep yet, but I think the warm bath is enjoyable and calms her down. I don't think there's anytime too young to try and start a routine, but don't expect it to "cue" her just yet. We've been able to keep the routine (though not always at the same time) about 90% of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-737569 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:04:06 +0000 immabeetoo 737569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Hmm maybe around 8 weeks? It's foggy. We never did (and still don't) do a set time but more like a time frame based on his last nap. We do bath, sleep sack, (now at an older age, lovey blanket) reading with dad, nursing with me, and then bed with light off, sound machine on. I don't think it hurts to start earlier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-737095 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:52:04 +0000 Smurfette 737095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: When did you start a bedtime routine? We were thinking about starting a set time and routine but weren't sure if it was too early still. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-737013 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:15:30 +0000 immabeetoo 737013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Ah! I misread that. First put-down is a completely different beast.... our LO would pop back up after 30 minutes after we finally got him to sleep at night for weeks and it was complete hell. Once he fought us for 4 hours, he finally fell asleep after 10 and I thought no way will he wake up again and passed out myself.... only to be woken up by him 30 minutes later! Awful. </p> <p>One thing that at least made me feel more "in control" was starting a bedtime routine. I don't think it mattered that early but it made me feel better anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-736652 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:38:06 +0000 Smurfette 736652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: I am hoping day care is going to help too! I need to call them and ask if they will swaddle or not. I just don't know how I am going to function at work with these numerous middle night wake ups. </p> <p>@scg00387: I will feed her when she wakes up in the middle of the night. She 90% of the time goes right back to sleep. Our issue is getting her to sleep for the first time. </p> <p>@cascademom: She has gas issues but it is mostly during the day. It could be colic but the fussiness is really bad just when we are trying to get her to sleep.</p> <p>@NovBaby1112: This gives me hope!! I hate that I am wanting these newborn days over. I know I am going to miss all the snuggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-736002 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 07:51:08 +0000 hilsy85 736002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: honestly, nursing her to sleep now won't "get her used to it"...she's too little to be developing habits at this point. If nursing her to sleep would work for you now, and help her sleep, then I would definitely do it. Like others have said, the first 3 months are the 4th trimester, where baby is still adjusting to being outside the womb. I would just do whatever you can that works. I used to just remind myself when I was frustrated and Lo was still teeny that as frustrated as I was with him, he was going through a huge change (from being cozy and warm inside me to the great big world outside!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735971 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 07:38:34 +0000 looch 735971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None of what anyone has posted surprises me at all! I think we all expect babies to sleep ALL THE TIME so easily and when they don't we're not sure what to do.</p> <p>My son is not a great sleeper, but eventually, he learned to fall asleep on his own. I hate to be a debbie downer, but he really didn't manage it until he was 11 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735968 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 07:36:51 +0000 T.H.O.U. 735968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it always depends on age. A lot is the baby too. I nursed my daughter to sleep until she was one (or dad would do the sleep shuffle). Even now at 20 months we still rock until drowsy and then rub her back in the crib until she falls asleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735957 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 07:28:22 +0000 NovBaby1112 735957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, I just wanted to say I know exactly what you are going through as my LO was exactly like this as a newborn, we joked around all the time that she was the most high maintenance baby on the planet. She only liked being rocked a certain way, nursed a certain way, only held by me, etc for the first 8 or so weeks of her life. In the evenings she would scream on an off for hours and we could never put her down. Weeks 6-8 were definitely the roughest for us, as fussiness was at an all-time high. After 10-12 weeks or so, it was like a light switch went off and she was a completely different baby. She is now the happiest, easy going, calm baby. I truly think that she just had a hard time adjusting to the outside world and it took her a bit longer to get used to everything- they don’t call it the 4th trimester for nothing. 6 weeks is still sooo young and she is still so new and getting used to everything. I remember at that time just wishing away her newborn days and just wanting her to be 3-4 months old already. Now she is already almost 6 months old and I want time to slow down, and I wish I could go back to those newborn days and enjoy them more. It all went by SO FAST, even though in the moment it may not seem like it. </p> <p>Babies don’t really have any self-soothing capabilities until at least 3 months. I noticed that right around 12 weeks I was gradually able to put her down more and more awake at night and she would suck her thumb and pass out. Before that, she would have just cried and cried and I couldn’t let her do that. So in the meantime, some things that worked for me were as others have mentioned, the vacuum. That was a lifesaver! If she was crying, we would just leave the vacuum on and she would calm down immediately. Another thing we did was during the day for naps, I would rock/nurse her to sleep and then lay her on her tummy when she was asleep (I know its controversial, but she wouldn’t let me lay her down any other way- if I tried her back she was up in 2 seconds). I think being on her tummy was just more comforting and helped her startle reflexes. I watched her like a hawk on the video monitor though for a long time, but she had great head control. I know things seem like they will never get better, but trust me, they will. It just takes some time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735928 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:56:04 +0000 kml636 735928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HOw old is your baby? I think that depends. Let me tell you what worked for me and I was SO scared to do it but now I'm so glad. Well first off, we had my baby in the crib at about three weeks old and by 9 weeks with swaddle and paci, she was STTN. by 3.5 months she started waking multiple times again. I was hoping this was just the 4 mo sleep regression and she would get over it. </p> <p>Two months of this and I finally decided I was going to have to get her off the paci (she woke up screaming when she realized she had spit it out). I was super scared, though, and I bought the sleep sense program that has been reviewed on hellobee. The first night for 20 mins I put her down, no paci, but gave her a "lovey" and I sat by the crib. She cried on and off for 20 mins. I left the room when she was quiet and she fell asleep on her own. Night #2, I put her in the crib after her nighttime routine, no paci, and she was smiling and laughing. I left the room, and she fell asleep on her own, no crying! She now sleeps from 6:30 - 6 am with one wake up. It's a miracle!! Good luck... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735912 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 06:39:22 +0000 edelweiss 735912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>week 6 was a really rough time for us and i came very close to CIO sleep training (i read mrs. high heels' posts on sleep training at 6 weeks over and over), but we ended up putting it off until about 11 weeks. we weren't bouncing/rocking, but we were caught in this pacifier warp where we had to either stand there and hold the pacifier in his mouth for at least 20 minutes until he fell asleep, and even then he would still wake up sometimes, or spend an hour going back repeatedly to replace the pacifier. it got old real fast and i was becoming a cranky bitch. </p> <p>it's so hard to know when is the right time to have them fall asleep on their own. sounds like it worked beautifully for mrs. high heels, while our experience has been a little hit and miss. </p> <p>mostly i just wanted to say i feel your pain. as people have said, there seems to be a lot of fussiness at that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735823 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 03:46:17 +0000 cascademom 735823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: Daycare does wonders for baby sleep and routines. Once LO was in daycare, we figured out how to adapt to his schedule/routine there. Solidifying that helped out sleep a lot. We still relied on bouncing, shushing, and boob to sleep until 6 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735822 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 03:43:32 +0000 cascademom 735822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Could her sleep issues be related to gas or colic? She's right at the time for it. My LO became a nightmare around then. Once we started with the white noise machine, shushing, bouncing, things got better. We also did every method under the sun for gas and colic. The Windi worked the best for us. We didn't sleep train him until 6 months or so. With him, we could have gone a touch earlier at 5.5 months. I remember powering through those tough sleep times. The 5 S's helped a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735801 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 01:04:58 +0000 immabeetoo 735801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: 6 weeks is sooo little! I think weeks 6-8 were out peak of fussiness. For us personally a lot of it was gas issues so probiotic drops and me cutting all dairy made a huge difference. Are you sure she's not hungry when she wakes?? I know 3 hours seems incredibly short in the middle of the night but that seems pretty normal to me at that age to then eat and go back down.</p> <p>Our LO refused to deal with DH at night until just recently he is 5 months. He was very high maintenance to put down for naps and night and I had good success with the no cry sleep solution starting around 3.5 months for night and 4.5 for naps. We did the transition very slowly and he gave clear signs when he was ready to fall asleep more on his own. I never ever thought we'd get here but he now goes in the crib wide awake and puts himself to sleep for naps and nights usually without a fuss or even a peep. </p> <p>It will get better!! One thing that helped us survive wads loud "ahhhh" noise for as long as we could stand it. The tone was soothing and the vibration calmed him down. Humming loudly is the same idea. I know sometimes when he was really worked up we would step outside or switch turns to try and "reset" him.</p> <p>Hang in there! It's called the fourth trimester for a reason but I know that doesn't make it any easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735748 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:41:48 +0000 BeachMama 735748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh. My. God. I was so sick of bouncing and sshhing LO to sleep every nap and every night. Finally around 4 months she was in her crib crying and I just couldn't take it so I left her there for 10 minutes. Lo and behold she stopped crying. That day changed my life. We decided to CIO train a few weeks later and it only took 3 nights of crying no more than 20 minutes. Ever since, she's been soo easy to put down.</p> <p>I totally feel your pain. Every baby and every family are different, but CIO worked for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735736 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:31:45 +0000 shopaholic 735736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: girlfriend! You know I'm right there with you on the bouncing to sleep! I never would have guessed our #1 used "baby gear" would have been my $20 yoga ball! </p> <p>I have no idea how to get K to fall asleep on her own at home lying on something other than me. I do agree on some kind of white noise though/. We use a humidifier, white noise machine, and the sleep sheep. I can only "shhh" for so long. The phone app actually is really loud and helps too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735734 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:27:35 +0000 mrskc 735734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: we used the vacuum frequently up until he was 4 months then started cutting it. Sometimes we still bring it out when he gets into a crying fit and nothing seems to calm him. Hope it works for your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735733 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:26:12 +0000 shopaholic 735733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twoofeverything: hmm! Might be reason enough to send LO. Daycare if they can sleep train! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735724 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:17:56 +0000 ladyfingers 735724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: nope, no swaddle at daycare. I can't even attempt to swaddle wean him right now, so I'm hoping for the best. I guess he'll be swaddle weaned soon enough ;)</p> <p>@mrsmenow: @twoofeverything: hope so! I figure we're paying the equivalent of college tuition for a reason, right? Teach my kid to sleep, please!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735721 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:11:27 +0000 twoofeverything 735721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: Don't be scared! Those daycare ladies -- especially in the infant rooms -- are sweet on the outside but seriously hardcore. I watched them work miracles at the school where I used to work ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735716 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:07:29 +0000 mrsmenow 735716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: My LO loves the vacuum too! She will fuss and I will urn it on and settles right down and off to sleep. Our floors have never been cleaner, lol.</p> <p>We go to crib after being changed/fed/burped. I turn on her noise machine and give a kiss good night. She is usually fine unless the nook falls out. Then I give it back and ssshhhh her a bit and she is back out!</p> <p>@ladyfingers: My girls have done better than I expected at daycare. Sometimes they get into a routine and would actually go down easier there. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735710 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:01:40 +0000 78h2o 735710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: The trouble I had when she started daycare was that they wouldn't allow her to be swaddled. Does your daycare allow swaddling? I had to swaddle wean in a hurry. Luckily they allowed the sound box from her sleep sheep. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735704 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 21:54:35 +0000 78h2o 735704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do whatever I need to do, lol! When she was younger, I often nursed her or rocked to sleep. Sometimes I was able to put her down sleepy with her sleep sheep and she'd fall asleep on her own. Now at 4.5 mo, I usually nurse her until she's a little sleepy, but she can fall asleep on her own as long as she has white noise (sleep sheep or homedics sound machine - $25 on Amazon - loud and can play all night). I will let her cry/fuss for up to 5 min before going in and cradling her head in my hands and shushing her until she falls asleep. Sometimes she will wake up a few times and I have to repeat, but usually she will be asleep for the night within 20 min. If she wakes up in the early morning (eg 4am) and won't go back to sleep, I put her in the swing or my bed. Bad, I know, bur mama has to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735703 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 21:54:15 +0000 ladyfingers 735703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, but LO is almost 12 weeks and it's still a nightmare trying to get him to sleep. I dread daycare next week. I'm almost certain I'm going to get a fussy-face freak at the end of the day since I have 0% confidence he will nap there. </p> <p>Hope this doesn't make you feel worse, just wanted you to know you're not alone! Hey, we won't be bouncing and shh'ing for their whole lives... right? ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-lo-to-sleep-on-their-own#post-735702 Mon, 22 Apr 2013 21:53:52 +0000 Smurfette 735702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: I know 6 weeks is early but when she is screaming it is so hard to remind myself of that. It just makes me feel like a failure. I will try the vacuum! She usually will sleep through my hair dryer in the morning during her nap, so I will try that too. When did you cut that our? Or are you still doing that? </p>