https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 22:27:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-over-the-guilt#post-1336088 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:49:00 +0000 Aimed 1336088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear ya! I used to feel guilty and responsible for Everything! Then I read something (I can't even remember where) that said that guilt is lazy, self-indulgence. It seemed super harsh, but I thought about it and it made sense to me. If I was really uncomfortable about something I had to either change it or accept it but being guilty was a passive energy waster.<br /> It's from the book of tough love for sure, but I think it resonates with me as it is more proactive.<br /> I definitely need to reminds self of it regularly though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-over-the-guilt#post-1335939 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:14:45 +0000 Ra 1335939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think all mommies have guilt! I SAH and have guilt about not helping to contribute to our family and provide financially for LO. I have guilt about not always being fully present during the day. I feel guilt about wanting a break from LO.</p> <p>I think we all strive so hard to be the *perfect* mom but, in reality, no such person exists. We are our own worst critic and need to learn not to be so hard on ourselves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-over-the-guilt#post-1335711 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 13:23:13 +0000 NurseMommy 1335711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I feel it, big time. My DH has the same response as yours, which is frankly unhelpful. I'm sorry, I don't have any advice for you, but you're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-over-the-guilt#post-1335691 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 13:17:36 +0000 catlady 1335691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I realized today that I am feeling guilty about just about everything these days. I feel guilty for sending LO to daycare, even though I know it's best for her and for me in the long run. I feel guilty for not doing work this week, even though my maternity leave isn't even over yet (my boss just keeps begging for help). I feel guilty that DH works longer hours and makes twice as much money as me, but he still helps out a ton with the baby. And the list goes on and on...</p> <p>Do/did you feel guilty about everything as a new mom? Does this guilt ever go away? DH just tells me that I shouldn't feel guilty about any of these things and to let it go. Easier said than done, I think. </p>