https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 16:15:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257372 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 21:05:29 +0000 Foodnerd81 2257372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Oatmeal: she can open it- the doorknob doesn't latch right so she just pulls it. Hopefully we can get it fixed this weekend and put a knob cover over it. But then I'm sure she will just stand at the door and cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257347 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:54:42 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2257347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Can she open her bedroom door? K has started trying to get out of bed (after a week of successful night times), but she can't open her door. So, when she climbs out, we just tell her that we'll come back when she's ready to be tucked in, and close the door. She usually yells for us to come back - and we repeat this until she stays in bed. It's started to take between 45 minutes and an hour, but she will sleep just fine once she stays in bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257340 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:50:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 2257340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: she loves Daniel tiger, but she only watches that while I'm getting ready in the morning. Maybe that would work though and just have a few painful mornings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257332 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:43:30 +0000 Smurfette 2257332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: that's tough. What is her favorite thing? My LO loves TV and I got so tired over the crying when I say it's bedtime. So I told her if she doesn't stop crying and go into her room no Bubble Guppies the next day. She didn't and she was pissed the day when I said no. That night she started to cry when I said it was bedtime. I said no tears or no Bubble Guppies again tomorrow. Worked like a charm. Something like that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257315 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:34:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 2257315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: tonight I said to her "this isn't a game" and she smiles big and yells "gaaammmmeee!" Point definitely not taken. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257312 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:33:53 +0000 MamaBehr 2257312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: This might not be an immediate fix, but reward charts are amazing. I have a friend who didn't even need to give a reward, the reward was putting a sticker on the paper. So, what if you tried a sticker chart for other things, so she gets the idea of a sticker chart, and then move it to staying in the big girl bed? </p> <p>If bribes don't work in my house, then it is punishment. I don't know what, but take something away (especially if it makes her feel like a big girl, like the big girl bed) from her. We were having issues with my three year old listening, so I started taking away his favorite toys. It took two days for him to see that I was serious (and about five of his favorite toys!), but he got much better and we don't have that issue anymore. I made sure that whenever he asked to get it back or play with it, explain why he didn't have it anymore. This wouldn't be a quick fix, but when she asks for whatever you have taken away you can remind her that she needs to prove she's a big girl and stay in her bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257310 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:32:57 +0000 ladybee 2257310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and my happy go lucky son thinks everything is a fun game so I often feel like a horrible asshole for being mean and ruining his fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257304 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:31:59 +0000 ladybee 2257304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I have no patience over here either and most days involve me crying so I feel for you. I'm also a no BS person so I'd try the one warning, you get out of bed you go in crib. I would think after a few nights she would give up and stay in bed. If that seems to harsh, try three warnings and be verbal the whole time. "C, you need to stay in your bed or you'll go in your crib. This is your first warning." Etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257296 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:26:18 +0000 Foodnerd81 2257296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I don't feel like she would get it. I tried telling her she would get a special treat in the morning if she stayed in her bed- talked about it before bed, during bedtime, as I said goodnight, she was excited about the special treat... And climbing out of bed as I left the room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257252 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:03:40 +0000 Smurfette 2257252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: what about a reward chart? If she stays in 4 nights in a row, you take her to ice cream. Or if she stays in bed she can watch TV the next day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257240 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:56:45 +0000 Foodnerd81 2257240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: yeah at least the crying is shorter. The first night I put her back in the crib and took a shower, shaved my legs, while she screamed. It was that or I started screaming at her myself. So we have been shortening the stuck in the crib screaming, and it seems ok, but this is ridiculous. I think we will start wth the zero warning, get out and you go in the crib. But I don't want to make the crib a punishment, especially since she still naps well in it. I try to emphasize that it's ok if she's not ready and wants to sleep in the crib but it's definitely seeming like a punishment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257223 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:48:21 +0000 hilsy85 2257223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: lol I am so burned out on my LO screaming and tantruming over ridiculous things that 10 min of crying sounds like a dream! But I would hope/think that after a few weeks, she will get it and it will be much easier! We just put LO's toddler bed together tonight and I am pretty terrified of him actually starting to use it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257219 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:46:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 2257219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: it's like she just doesn't understand when we tell her to stay in bed. Literally she is started to crawl out as soon as I turn away from her. I don't think reasoning like that will work. Plus, her room is right near the kitchen so I think she would hear us too much. </p> <p>@hilsy85: that's what DH suggested, and I think I will try it tomorrow. But I hate that bedtime involved basically purposely making her scream for ten minutes. I just can't seem to get through to her any other way. </p> <p>And she is very verbal and seems to understand what I say most of the time, and repeats back the rules. But then ignores them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257213 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:42:37 +0000 Smurfette 2257213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>R started coming out of her room lately. So we tell her we will prop her door open but if she comes out, we will close it. So far it is working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257208 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:40:47 +0000 hilsy85 2257208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>what if you just cut out all the in between and the first time she comes out of bed, tell her she can go in the crib if she can't listen? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-the-big-bed#post-2257173 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:18:34 +0000 Foodnerd81 2257173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Losing my mind over here. C has been hating on the crib for months now, and since the new baby needs it in a few months anyway, we decided to give in and let her sleep in the big bed a little over a week ago. She loves the big bed. Loves it. First couple of nights she got out of bed a couple of times, but after we put her back she went to sleep- like got up 3 times each night. </p> <p>And then, something shifted and it became a game where I would do our whole bedtime routine, say goodnight, and before I even shut the door she is climbing out. The door to her room doesn't latch properly (DH was supposed to fix it this weekend...) so she climbs out and comes into the hall, then laughs and runs back to her room when I come. I put her back in bed, remind her she has to stay in bed, say good night, and she gets out again. </p> <p>Finally, the last few nights I have told her if she can't act like a big girl and stay in bed, it's ok and she can just sleep in the crib again. Give her one last chance. She gets out. I put her in the crib, she stands and screams a while. I go in and tell her she can have one more chance, put her back in bed, and she stays and falls asleep. This whole process takes quite a while. </p> <p>I've talked about how she is a big girl and big girls need to stay in bed until morning. I've offered bribes of special treats, a la Mrs. Oatmeal. I've tried laying in the bed with her longer. Shorter. Short naps. Skipped naps. Long naps. She still just keeps hopping right out of bed. </p> <p>She actually is sleeping better overnight and later in the morning, it's just bedtime is the worst! Short of standing at her door holding the knob, and tricks to get her to just stay in the bed? I have zero patience by the end of the day and we have both ended up in tears more than once this week.</p> <p>Eta: we have both the crib and bed in her room since it used to be a guest room. The crib will stay since the new baby will be in it in a few months. She still naps in the crib with no problem, which is weird but if she's napping in happy. </p>