https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 07:25:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039223 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 22:29:53 +0000 IcebergMom 2039223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At3.5 my toddler still needs me to sit with her while she goes to sleep or she's escape. I Once walked her back to Her room 64 times. Ain't nobody got time for that.</p> <p>Our newest thing is whatever works. So we're just doing it her way and will evaluate in a few months. It's too exhausting to fight with her at night and I would rather Her fall asleep in that positive frame of mind not with the drama.</p> <p>i miss crib days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039202 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 22:03:47 +0000 luckypenny 2039202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I swear to god I was looking at buying another crib online lol even though she's been in a toddler bed for 1.5 years! </p> <p>@irene: we are going to the store tomorrow to make a rewards chart do if she completes x, y and z she will get a star sticker so at the end of the week she can pick out a small toy/book. So I'm hoping that helps. And the baby's cry does seem to upset her in a new way now. She yells "feed her! You have to feed her!" But I wasn't sure if that's because she thought it would make her be quiet but maybe she's worried about the baby?</p> <p>@Anagram: they shared a room since 8 weeks and it was never a problem but for some reason now DD1 is really bothered. </p> <p>@BandDmommy: a 3 visit rule sounds like a good idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039192 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 21:45:48 +0000 BandDmommy 2039192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a lock on our toddler bed. He still goes to the door for about an hour requesting "cuddles." We have instilled a 3 visit rule and we count down our visits. It seems to work. We also cut back his nap from 3 to 2 hours and make sure he eats a big dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039191 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 21:41:49 +0000 blackbird 2039191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to suggest moving the baby into a bathroom or closet with white noise, too. And a white noise in your daughter's room. You can also put a door knob child thing on so she can't open it. Sounds like girlfriend wants attention. I'm sorry :( can your older daughter go back in a crib? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039177 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 21:13:59 +0000 Anagram 2039177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: I'm following this thread because when LO #2 comes, after they are 6 months or so, our LOs will be sharing a room too...right around the time we transition LO #1 to a toddler bed.</p> <p>So if you end up finding tricks that work, please come back and post them here! We have a naturally bad sleeper in LO #1, who still wakes up 1-2 times a night at 18 months. SO two in the same room will be a challenge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039162 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 20:57:31 +0000 irene 2039162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: Did you read about the positive reinforcement I added later? Maybe that'd help?</p> <p>Also, are your daycare teachers nice and knowledgeable and willing to help? We were fortunate to have a super great teacher who was willing to help, and she helped us talked my son's ear off on a potty issue (ie not willing to use a public bathroom), and it turned a major corner. And we were desperate at that point I was going to take him to our pediatrician to try to have more "professional/respectable" people talk to him. So, maybe can you see if your teacher would be willing to help you out to explain to her that big girls stay in their bed to go to sleep and do not get up? And email your pediatrician for any suggestion because this is a behavioral issue ? For us the talking to him via various respectable people + positive reinforcement really worked.</p> <p>ETA: I also wonder if the infant cry may upset your toddler too in a way.... I would be if I had to share a room with a young infant.... ? Just a guess :(</p> <p>I really hope it turn the corner for you very soon !! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039155 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 20:51:24 +0000 luckypenny 2039155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: thanks. She doesn't seem to value any one thing in particular that I think would make a difference :( we brought the baby in our bathroom and I think our plan is to keep her in there until we can sleep train our toddler (3 in April). </p> <p>I don't know if they make a baby gate strong enough for her. No joke. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039150 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 20:46:34 +0000 Tidybee 2039150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: oh my - I missed this post when I posted my own desperation with DD's bed issues. We are actually getting a lot better. I have no idea if the child psychologists would support our interventions, but everyone is sleeping more and is therefore much happier.<br /> We started a reward system for staying in bed until it was morning or her nap is over. She gets to pick a stamp and a color from the ink pad to put on her hand. At the grocery store, I let her pick out fruit snacks each week, and after her nap, she gets a pack of fruit snacks. This has actually helped phenomenally. Today I told her, no nap, no doc mcstuffins fruit snacks, and she laid down immediately.<br /> She also wanted us to sleep in bed with her at bedtime and in the middle of the night, she still wants us to lay with her when she wakes. What has worked for us was to acknowledge and validate her but then make up an excuse. Something like, it's so fun to cuddle together, but I have to go feed the dog, talk to daddy, get a shower. We've been doing that for about 2 weeks, and she never ever gives us a fight. At the beginning, she'd stay awake and after about 20-30 minutes, she'd call for us, and we'd sit with her for a few minutes and then give her another reason we had to leave. I have no idea if it will continue to go as smoothly, but so far, it's working! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039144 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 20:44:09 +0000 irene 2039144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: I am so sorry that you are going through this - hugs!</p> <p>I have no solution because I only have one child but I am just brainstorming possibilities. How old is your older daughter and does she understand you when you talk to her? Can you explain to her that she is a big girl now and she needs to go to sleep in her bed when it is bedtime, and we don't get up at night time. If she gets up at night and leaves her bed (other than going to the potty), you will take away one of her favorite toys for a week. or some sort of consequence that E doesn't want. And you really do it and take away that toy for a week. She can cry and scream but very soon hopefully she'd learn? I wanted to say the consequence would be you take the baby with you and sleep in your room while she stays in her room, but that may create a lot of commotion and drama and may interrupt your baby which would be worse... so... just some kind of negative consequence would happen if she leaves her bed?</p> <p>Again, so sorry! Just showing my emotional support...</p> <p>ETA: Also, can you buy a bunch of little cheap toys from dollar tree or party favors from party city - if she stays in bed and didn't get out for a whole night, she would get one of those small gifts every day? If it is starting to work and became consistent then you wean off the gifts by spacing them out to every 2 nights... every 3 nights....etc. That was what worked for us with "training" my LO to use a public bathroom and a suggestion from a child psychologist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-2039126 Sat, 24 Jan 2015 20:18:41 +0000 luckypenny 2039126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone else? Now we are in sleep hell where my older daughter wakes up, starts crying, wakes up the baby and refuses to sleep!! </p> <p>I'm really not proud of the way I handled it tonight and I just feel like crying. We live in NYC and there's no way we can get a 3 bedroom. I can't have the baby sleep with me because she hates it. HELP!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997796 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 14:43:42 +0000 skipra 1997796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok probably not a solution for everyone but we made sleepinf in the big boy bed a privilege. At first he kept getting out and if that happened I would put him in the crib which we had moved to the nursery (baby was still in our room). We had a few days of back and forth between beds until he figured it out. Now he stays in bed for naps and going to bed. Sometimes he comes in our room middle of night but we just put him right back in bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997788 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 14:00:52 +0000 Jess1483 1997788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: At his door, but he never gets out of his bed either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997767 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 13:17:49 +0000 mrs. wagon 1997767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in our sixth sleep regression hell right now. Last regression we couldn't let her cry because she'd vomit.. and this time she actually gets horrific nosebleeds. We were up all night last night. So far the only thing that works is one of us sleeping in the chair in her room so we can immediately calm her down when she wakes screaming every hour. We're being strict about our bed (not til past 4am) but I don't know how much longer our backs can take sleeping in a chair :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997763 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 13:07:24 +0000 meredithNYC 1997763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a gate at our 2.5 year old's door, which has helped a lot. Also, as terrible as it sounds, could you possibly try putting her down before your husband arrives or could he be home earlier? My husband is usually home to do the whole nighttime routine, but on the days when he's a bit late my daughter also gets way worked up about seeing him and it takes sooo long to get her to settle down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997760 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 12:59:58 +0000 daniellemybelle 1997760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: At the door or at their bed? It's too early for this for us, but I am interested! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997673 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 07:50:37 +0000 Jess1483 1997673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Damn, just wrote a long reply and my phone ate it. My short response: baby gate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997629 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 00:59:59 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1997629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wondering about this too as my son is about to be getting a sib and I fear he won't want to sleep without mommy snuggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1997626 Thu, 25 Dec 2014 00:48:58 +0000 MamaT 1997626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping to see if anyone else has suggestions to keep their toddler in bed. We've been battling to keep my son in bed for the past few weeks. It can take nearly 2 hours and 8 attempts before he stays put and falls asleep. I'm over it. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1988647 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 14:08:21 +0000 luckypenny 1988647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: she hardly naps at school, if she does it's oy for 1 hour. I keep trying to push it up but my DH comes home at 7:30 and it gets her all worked up :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1988617 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 13:55:26 +0000 Weagle 1988617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have the same problem, only at the beginning of the night. We spend two hours getting her to stay in bed every. Single. Night. We're going to start cutting her nap short and moving bedtime a bit earlier. I don't know if that would help in the middle of the night, but maybe it's worth a shot? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/getting-toddler-to-stay-in-their-bed#post-1988001 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 09:15:54 +0000 luckypenny 1988001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm at a total loss. Here's what I'm dealing with;</p> <p>Prior to DD2 being born, E was sleeping like a dream. We would tuck her in, day goodnight, walk out and she would fall asleep by herself. </p> <p>Night 2 of DD getting home, E starts getting out of her toddler bed for the first time ever. She begins insisting we lay with her to fall asleep. After 3 months we finally get back to normal but only for a short time. </p> <p>Today, E will go to sleep by herself but wakes up around midnight and insists on sleeping in my bed with me. I've tried the super nanny method of just picking her up and putting her back in her bed but it doesn't work. We literally did it for 2 hours last night and because she shares a room with the baby it's obviously becoming quite a problem. </p> <p>What should I do?! </p>